To be annoyed partner is still not home?

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So my partner went out to meet his fellow area managers .
They met at 5pm (for apparently a couple of drinks and a meal )
They have met in a city that’s a hour away.
He didn’t take his key because he said he wouldn’t be late.
Hes just text asking for the bus timetable ,I sent it over and he replied saying he’s getting the midnight bus.
So he’s not getting home till after 1am
Hes got no key so I’m gonna have to stay up
He has work at 7am in the morning as well
He asked if I was Annoyed,I just said well you will be tired tomorrow at work (I now work from home and off till Tuesday)
Aibu ? Just take your key but tbh I wouldn’t sleep anyway till I knew he was home.

I'd just go to bed and leave the door unlocked for him. It's very annoying that he didn't take his keys though

How did he survive as a single man?

I would be annoyed he didnt take a key, if I was wanting to go to bed.

But ridiculous to be annoyed he will be tired tomorrow, he is a grown man and can deal with being tired for one day.

Plenty of people struggle on for year on less sleep due to kids, peri menopause, medication side effects, mental health, shift work , noisy neighbours....

I can see why he wants to get out for a drink.

Calling him stupid while acting like his mother is a bit rich. Leave the key hidden and go to sleep, or stay up and chill out seen as you aren’t working tomorrow anyway. He’s a grown adult, he’s doing nothing wrong.

So what if he hates carrying his keys? That's his problem, which he chooses to deal with by unloading it onto your shoulders!

"He didn’t take his key because he said he wouldn’t be late."
And then he was late - which means he lied. And gave you the problem of having to wait up to let him in.

He needs to find another solution, one that doesn't involve you dutifully manning the door for His Lordship. I'd suggest a keysafe or somesuch, allowing you to lock the door and go to bed at a time to please yourself. Or, he could be really radical and just carry his keys like an adult.

Absolutely, you're his wife not his mum!

What is it with these man children who won't carry a key?

He is an adult and needs to behave like one.

Grown adults carry keys. He's treating his partner like his mother.

It doesn’t mean he lied, it means his plans changed.

She said she wouldn’t have slept until he came home regardless, acting like his mother. He may be immature but he’s still not doing anything wrong by staying out late. She can leave the house unlocked or hide the key

Why couldn't he look up the bus timetable on his own?

This.

Just leave the door unlocked, I've no idea what the problem is. My door is never locked whether we're in or out.

You really cannot see why someone wouldn't want to leave the door unlocked?

Seriously? Are you a bit simple?

@YourShyLion your insurance company might have a problem with that

Yes he should take his key like all the other threads like this but no need to wake up he is not a child

The only annoyance here is the key situation. In future tell him that he has to take one because you aren’t waiting up for him.

As for the rest, he’s a grown man, it doesn’t sound like it’s regular, so I’d just cut him some slack.

Sounds like you've both slipped into a parent-child relationship. He phones to ask you bus times, you can't settle till he's home. He needs to grow up, and you need to let him.

Oh for goodness sake he is an adult and it's the first night of footie. my dh went out for it and got back 15 mins ago and he has to be up at 4:30 am for work..Doesn't bother me glad he enjoyed himself and it doesn't happen often anyhow

If, as a grown adult, he doesn’t want to carry keys then he should have installed a lockbox.
Expecting another adult to wait up until 1am to let him in is ridiculous.

My guess is.... Mummy?

It would be sensible for anyone who worries about losing their keys (like I do) to get a lock box.

But it would be pointless if you can't sleep until he's home anyway. Sounds like you want him to have a curfew? You can't really expect an adult to never be allowed out after 10pm.

Thank fuck I live alone.

My wonderful neighbour has a spare key to my house.
In 34 years have only needed it once.

Pathetic grown men who expect their women to bail them out - or bail them in LOL

Carrying a key is just part of being an adult. Unless he's used to you pandering to him