AIBU to object to my 13-year-old daughter moving in with her dad?

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Have a DD age 13, for the last 10 years she has lived with me primarily and stayed with dad every other weekend and through the holidays. There has been periods in the past she has said she does not like dads and did not want to go, however I have always encouraged this.

I have been with my partner for 3 years, due to get married next year and ever since the engagement DD has been trying to split us up. Recently she has told her dad and school information that is not true, leading to the welfare officer being involved. She does not like my partner as she feels he is strict on her, however he asks her to do what most 13 year olds do, tidy her room, help with chores etc.

DD has informed us and her school she wants to live with dad, however I know this is just a phase and informed her and her dad this is not going to happen, I dont want my child living away from me. Today I have got a call from the school to say DDs dad has picked her up and taken out a court order, im at a loss of what to do, im heart broken.

AIBU to think he is just being over the top and to go to their his house to demand her back?

He shouldn’t be telling her what to do at all- he’s not her dad, she already has one of those. Very difficult circumstances but I have similar with my eldest daughter - her dad married a woman she doesn’t like and now she hates going there full stop. Happened when she was 14, she’s 18 now and believe me, it doesn’t change x

Having been a divorced mum of 2 teenage girls I didn’t live with anyone until they both left home. It was their home and they should feel comfortable in it.

Your partner should not be telling her what to do.

If she wants to live with her father, she’s old enough to make that choice. You put a man before her, it’s what you get.

You should listen to your daughter. She should be your focus and if she hates living with you, let her go. She will grow up. She will remember. You have a better chance of a long term relationship with her if you let her choose now, or give up your partner. You force her to stay with him, you will lose her as soon as she has the power.

Not if it was ex parte, she wouldn’t. Considering OP’s throwaway references to allegations and the involvement of the school welfare officer, it’s entirely possible, if not probable, that there are serious grounds for concern here, and this isn’t simply a case of a bratty teenager throwing a tantrum and telling lies.

Incidentally, the police wouldn’t be interested. He’s her parent, he has as much right to ‘have’ her as OP does.

Dick before child, that’s what you’ve done. Is it any wonder she’s upset?

and quite a number of dicks it sounds like too…

that’s your choice, no judgement there, but is it the right choice for a child to be having to protect herself against all these new partners as you don’t seem to hold back on allowing them to tell her what to do.

id be worried what else he’s up to…

now he’s got exactly what HE wanted, just you and his baby, like a cuckoo who pushed one out of the nest to feather his own….

I take it you have brought some man into your house rhen