To find lazy adults really grating?

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I am well aware that I may sound like a massive bitch here.

I have a friend who is very lazy. She would rather be up until 2/3am on social media and sleep in until 10am everyday. We are late 20s. All she does is go to work (she’s a nursery assistant, fair play that’s hard work but still), and then come home and sit in bed. She ridicules me for going to the gym, running, having hobbies. She thinks it’s all a waste of time. She purposefully chooses 11-5 shifts so that she can lay in bed all morning.

It grates on me so much. I’m very much a morning person and while I understand not everyone is, I think it’s a pillar of being an adult that you’re out of bed by a reasonable time, even on the weekends. She’ll often text and say that she’s still in bed at 3pm. No mental health issues, just laziness.

AIBU to find this really grating?

Surely this is rage bait?

If not, you seem to be utterly obsessed with your friends sleeping pattern/life. It is her life, her choices and nothing to do with you. I would suggest you take a large step back from this friendship as your interest in your friend is unhealthy to say the least. You also come accross unkind and judgemental

Ugh you sound borderline obsessed with your ‘friend’. Such a weird thread. If you have so many hobbies etc why are you posting on here harping on about how much better you think you are than someone. It’s all a bit embarrassing.

I suspect we're all wasting our time now OP has 'muted' 😂😂 the thread because she didn't get what she wanted from it.

It would annoy me. Irrationally but it would. It is lazy, regardless of what anyone thinks. It’s not wrong but it is lazy to be in bed at 3 in the afternoon.

Op definitely has too much time on her hands. Obsessing over her friend and thinking she’s special because she follows instagrammers who wake up at 5:30 with their boring basic hobbies.

you don't know what goes on in anyones else's life nor does it matter to you if they are
I was in bed at 3pm yesterday sun was shining here and house was in a mess but I had a pain flare up. all I did was go to the supermarket and push a trolley around for half an hour doing my shopping and came home that morning but it was too much for my body and I needed rest. to anyone looking in I didn't look sick or anything wrong with me so am sure like you would have thought I was lazy

Some people work nights.

Yes, it can be so hard, can’t it?! I hope you can achieve some balance someday too; it’s so difficult in a world not designed for us. Which is fine, its the way things are for most people and I get that, but I do wish people understood it more so that the “laziness” accusation didn’t get thrown around the way it does.

Exactly this! That pp sounds like they've never thought much outside the box of their own life experiences and circumstances. I'm sometimes in bed in the afternoons (and frequently till mid-morning) due to pain flares too 😖hope yours has settled down now.

Absolutely. These days it's easier for me to get sufficient sleep, thankfully, as I'm self-employed and can wfh. I've really struggled in salaried jobs with conventional daytime/office-based schedules, though. A little more understanding from the wider world, that this isn't the same thing as being lazy, would definitely go a long way!

Thank you. it really gets me down sometimes how can a normal activity like doing the shopping for half an hour cause me to be in so much pain and exhaustion. I am lucky my husband very understanding. Will take it easy today and he will cook dinner for us.
hope your doing OK too ?

I always wonder why early risers assume that being a night owl is lazy. It’s bizarre. If I’m not working I am up most of the night then sleep most of the morning. It’s the same amount of sleep, just at a different time.

I don’t think you should stay friends with someone you judge so harshly

Not too bad, thanks! But I can totally relate re being wiped out from basic tasks, the pain makes things so much more tiring than they'd otherwise be. Thankfully I'm not flaring so far today, touch wood, and am able to have a relaxing day planned, which is much needed!

Right! Or that getting a lot of sleep is good for your health but only if you go to bed early. Getting a decent amount of sleep by sleeping late is clearly a moral failing <eye roll>

That’s the one! Sleeping 9pm-7am is good. Sleeping 4am-2pm is clearly an indicator of being a bad person.🤣

Yep! As a student I would frequently pull a late-nighter or an all-nighter to finish assignments - it was often a good time to work without interruptions, and made a lot more sense with my sleep patterns than just lying there unable to sleep. My housemates tended to go to bed about 10-10.30 and get up around 7. Apparently because I didn't get up when they did I was lazy, even if I'd been up all night working - that 'didn't count' apparently. (Yes, I was literally told that to my face on at least one occasion.)

No, we haven't kept in touch. 😄

She's enjoying life her way, you're enjoying life your way. It's a difficult concept for some to swallow, but people do not have to live their life to another person's preferences and dictat's. It's irritating enough when it's your mother that can't wrap her laughing gear around this, let alone a 'friend'.