To find lazy adults really grating?

[myothersockis]

I am well aware that I may sound like a massive bitch here.

I have a friend who is very lazy. She would rather be up until 2/3am on social media and sleep in until 10am everyday. We are late 20s. All she does is go to work (she’s a nursery assistant, fair play that’s hard work but still), and then come home and sit in bed. She ridicules me for going to the gym, running, having hobbies. She thinks it’s all a waste of time. She purposefully chooses 11-5 shifts so that she can lay in bed all morning.

It grates on me so much. I’m very much a morning person and while I understand not everyone is, I think it’s a pillar of being an adult that you’re out of bed by a reasonable time, even on the weekends. She’ll often text and say that she’s still in bed at 3pm. No mental health issues, just laziness.

AIBU to find this really grating?

Yes of course it is - that's my whole issue with the OP.

She seems incapable of grasping that there is no moral imperative in terms of the lifestyle choices she has made.

It's maybe time to distance yourself from this friendship. You have both grown up and followed different paths. It would irritate me too to be honest

She sounds a little depressed in my opinion. Ridicules you for having hobbies and going to the gym. Ridicule, that can also be jealousy. I used to have a boyfriend who ridiculed my house although he did not have one. It was plain jealousy.

In my opinion it's time you both went your separate ways.

She must be a lot prettier than you or something, considering you’re so jealous of her.

part of being an adult is being able to make your own choice ...

I have worked in a nursery for years, not just interning for a few weeks. It's exhausting. In the nurserys that I worked in, the intern wasn't allowed to do the full job and had a much slower paced experience.

Are you serious?!

That's probably why you read stories and hugged babies you were unqualified.

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It's a moot point anyway.

Half of MN will tell you that SAHM are lazy, work-shy and on a permanent holiday,
and the other half, that looking after children is the hardest job in the world.

HNRTFT but as a person who has never been a morning person I couldn’t give a toss what the sanctimonious early birds think ! If I have to ,I function perfectly well getting up early but out of choice I lie in until about 930am and get on with my day from about 11am .
Just to add I now work a night shift twice a week and am up from 9.30am one day until 10am the next! Do I judge people getting into bed at 9-10pm ? Absolutely not!

What I find weird is that Night Owls never tend to get as sanctimonious about their hours - even if they add up to more hours awake and working over the course of 24 hours.

Inane 🙄

Yes you are right it is !

Gosh OP! You sound literally perfect in every way. You travel, you spend a lot of time with children, you run, you belong to a gym, you sew, you have a mentally draining office job, you’re up at 5.30am but 7am on weekends. Is there anything you can’t do? You sound like a mash-up between Mother Theresa, Bob Geldoff and Jessica Ennis.

But seriously, you sound painful. Utterly smug and big headed. I can completely see why your friend ridicules you.

I’m in bed right now reading this 😁

YABU. Who gave you the right to decide what is a ‘reasonable time’ for people to get up?

You will be grating on the OP! 👀

I get up at around 8.15am to 8.30am most days. Anything much earlier is halfway through the night. 😴 I WFH (part time) so can roll out of bed 20 minutes before I start work. (And often do.)

Also I have travelled loads this past 14-15 months... (Prepare to be jealous....)

Rhyl
Blackpool.
Llandudno.
Colwyn Bay
Prestatyn
Kinmel Bay
Borth
Morecambe Bay
New Brighton
Aberystwyth
Barry
Cardiff
And Ellesmere in Shropshire.

Try and beat THAT @myothersockis

I am quite the globetrotter! 😂

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I mean, mature adults don't write anonymous posts on the internet to bitch and moan about their friends either.

Hark at Little Miss Sanctimonious.

Oh, may we bow to your moral superiority at being able to get up early 🙄

My husband works late shifts and often didn't get home until 3am and his ex SIL used to say he was being lazy for not getting up at 5am like she did. Except she finished at 5pm and he didn't start until after that.

Your friend is also a jerk for poking fun at you, btw. Everyone has a different body clock.

You will really miss her when you drop the 'friendship'; nobody to compare yourself to and feel smug and superior to....

It's up to her- just as being a morning person is up to you.
You are going to have a difficult life if you find something like this so grating- your friend shouldn't laugh at you either- it's personal choice.
I had a neighbour from the Caribbean, he claimed benefits slept till lunchtime and spent all day at home,and mended cars on the road for money- I complained he was always using the parking space outside my house (my brother was visiting he needed a space). When I complained to my neighbour he laughed in my face and said "what has it got to do with you you are never here". I worked 10 hour days to pay my mortgage- he thought that was a laughable way to live when other people would pay for his lifestyle- relatives gave him the money to buy the house he renovated it claiming benefits and working while he did so, so his relatives and the British government paid for his lifestyle- he thought if you paid for your own lifestyle you are stupid.
I told him , move the car and keep it moved or I will inform the council you are mending cars on the road. He was lazy, but not stupid he shifted the car and nevr parked outside my house again.
This was grating as I was helping to pay for his lifestyle, and it is reasonable to find it so, merely finding a different lifestyle grating is not reasonable.

But the big question is did you go to the infamous Animalarium Borth?

I’m unsure how you got that I’m judgemental and unsatisfied with my life from what I wrote? I don’t get bored. I do things that fill my time, like reading a good book, researching things that I’m interested in and watching interesting shows on TV. But I do them lying down. I’m more of a thinking person than a doing person.

Gardening is literally my idea of hell, good for you if it’s something you enjoy and it recharges you.

The people I know who fill every waking moment with activity are people who are struggling with something, grief, trauma…social conditioning. You’ll see that I punctuated that paragraph with question marks? Because I was thinking out loud, pondering why some people move constantly and others are more static. Drawing comparisons to me and my friendship group, not judging some stranger on the internet who likes gardening.

The only person I was judging was the OP for being immature, sanctimonious judgemental arsehole.

But if my words hit a nerve with you then maybe you should consider why that was.