To find lazy adults really grating?

[myothersockis]

I am well aware that I may sound like a massive bitch here.

I have a friend who is very lazy. She would rather be up until 2/3am on social media and sleep in until 10am everyday. We are late 20s. All she does is go to work (she’s a nursery assistant, fair play that’s hard work but still), and then come home and sit in bed. She ridicules me for going to the gym, running, having hobbies. She thinks it’s all a waste of time. She purposefully chooses 11-5 shifts so that she can lay in bed all morning.

It grates on me so much. I’m very much a morning person and while I understand not everyone is, I think it’s a pillar of being an adult that you’re out of bed by a reasonable time, even on the weekends. She’ll often text and say that she’s still in bed at 3pm. No mental health issues, just laziness.

AIBU to find this really grating?

I know right.

Yes you are right, they just hug babies and read stories all day!

God, I wonder if this poor woman knows how much you loathe her 😕

Yes YABU. What she does doesn’t affect you. You do you and let her crack on. She’s working not sponging off the tax payer, what she does in her own free time is up to her. Why do you care so much?!

Ah, yes. Good old circadian rhythm shaming.

There is nothing morally superior about having a circadian rhythm that makes you an early riser. Hope that helps.

One of the most bitter, nasty OPs I've ever come across! The fact you've even made a thread about this!
Just stop being friends, stop commenting on this post and try to be a less bitter and judgemental person for your own sake if no one else's...

Given the high level smug, obtuse Energiser Bunny energy OP exudes on here, I think it’s likely she does the same in person.

It will be very obvious to her pals she thinks she morally superior to them. I do wonder if Bed Loller is just grey rocking the OP rather than actively denigrating her - and OP interprets anything less than 💯 % non-biodegradable open adoration as mockery.

Anyway @myothersockis, how come you’ve posted 30+ times this morning? Are you at work? If so, I think you’re supposed to be working. Your friend wouldn’t be able to post so much on MN when she is working- I don’t think childcare workers are allowed to piss about on social media when they’re at work. Anyway they’re too busy. Sounds like you’ve got a much easier job than hers.

Or maybe it’s your day off? In which case why on earth are you spending it scrolling MN? How terribly lazy. I would have thought you’d be at the gym or doing the housework or volunteering at a food bank. Shoddy adulting OP.

Actually thinking this is a troll. Imagine someone in their 20s being sad enough to write this guys? Sincerely hope so anyway 😂😂

They also nap when the babies nap! It's so easy!

Why are you friends with someone you dislike so much?

Why can’t you make friends with fellow early birds and leave her alone?

Surely she's getting enough exercise running around after kids for nearly 30 hours a week

😅

I’m very much a morning person but understand fully that other people aren’t.

It’s really odd that OP labels her friend lazy for having a different sleep pattern to her.

Neither is better than the other - they’re just different aren’t they?

Somedays when I’m really tired I’d love to snooze until 10 but my stupid body and brain just won’t because the second I’m awake I’m up.

Why are you friends if you dislike her so much

This. If OP was happy in her own choices, she wouldn't feel so strongly about her friend doing things differently. It's giving Aunt Petunia.

Working with children is exhausting, there is nothing lazy about it, I'm not surprised she wants to spend the rest of her time conserving energy! For all you know she has an iron deficiency or thyroid problem that adds to tiredness but even if she did not, so what?! If you don't like her judgement say something or get a new friend it sounds like you do not like her very much

Nah, you're on a windup now. No one is this spiteful about someone they call a friend. Uncomfortable reading at this point. Hope she sees this and realises who you actually are.

Yes they have cosy blankets and snooze for an hour 😀

Clever. I have interned in a nursery for 4 weeks, I'm fairly sure 5 hours is not backbreaking work. I've also interned in reception class and that was much more tiring. It's ok to disagree.

Eh? She works, you said so yourself, she works in a very demanding role but she's going to end up obese and on benefits.

Get your head out of your own backside, step off of your ivory treadmill and read what you just said. You contradict yourself over and over in this thread.

I do wonder about people who fill their every waking moment with activities. I feel like they’re trying to avoid something in their own lives. Sitting with their own thoughts maybe? Or maybe they just like to feel superior to us “lazy” adults? Filling a void because of childhood trauma? Succumbing to the age old subconscious capitalist messaging that if you’re not being productive every minute of the day then you’re somehow a less deserving human being?

Not really

Just bored if doing nothing?
Also bored if I am gardening or knitting. I can lay down to read a book (or sleep) , otherwise it's just pointless to me and life is too short to be bored?

I'll be gardening when I am too old or to ill to do anything else, if that's ok with you. I am not avoiding my life, I am actually living it.

I work and study better from late afternoon to very early mornings, so I try to have a job where I can actually pick my own hours within reasons.

People like you and the OP are only judgmental bores, who are so dissatisfied with their own lives they need to be bitter about others. It's rather sad.

I mean 5 hours in a nursery is not nothing but it's not "very hard"?

A part of being an adult is being able to choose your own schedule. As long as you’re doing what you want to do, be that going to the gym, staying up late watching Netflix, or lying in bed with a good book, then no time is being wasted.

Just stop it OP. Why don’t you understand that being on your feet for 6 hours a day is more tiring and full on that being sat at a desk? She looks after small children! It’s exhausting.

Yet instead of being understanding and supportive you look down your nose at her, you diminish what she does and think you are superior.

You really need to take a long hard look at yourself.