To find lazy adults really grating?

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I am well aware that I may sound like a massive bitch here.

I have a friend who is very lazy. She would rather be up until 2/3am on social media and sleep in until 10am everyday. We are late 20s. All she does is go to work (she’s a nursery assistant, fair play that’s hard work but still), and then come home and sit in bed. She ridicules me for going to the gym, running, having hobbies. She thinks it’s all a waste of time. She purposefully chooses 11-5 shifts so that she can lay in bed all morning.

It grates on me so much. I’m very much a morning person and while I understand not everyone is, I think it’s a pillar of being an adult that you’re out of bed by a reasonable time, even on the weekends. She’ll often text and say that she’s still in bed at 3pm. No mental health issues, just laziness.

AIBU to find this really grating?

Haha! That's the equivalent of knowing people are talking sense but sticking your fingers in your ears and going Lalala!

It’s a shame that you haven’t spent your time educating yourself to either answer perfectly straightforward questions (that might actually result in greater support for your contention); or conduct an argument that supports your premise, rather than metaphorically sticking your fingers in your ears and stropping off. I have quite a lot of respect for your friend putting up with your “friendship” if you behave irl as you have on this thread. It sounds like she has the measure of you, and fights your ire with some humorous fire.

Ah, so you are jealous.

This is so nasty. I know who I’d rather be friends with.

I expect that most of the people on this thread are looking down on you. Tell your friend to sign up.

How are you two even friends? From your posts it seems like she despises you, and obviously the feeling's mutual. We are only hearing your side of things so yes you are being unreasonable and should end the friendship for her sake...

Have you ever worked in a nursery OP? It is physically and mentally exhausting. She is absolutely not lazy or she wouldn’t be doing that job.
After I’ve done the things that need done, I will just go and lie down and watch tv and chill. The last thing I want to do is go to the gym or out for a run!
We find enjoyment in different things, it doesn’t make me lazy.

Not the last time I went, but I have been before. And yes it is rather infamous!

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You didn't go to work til about 1pm though to be fair.

You don't sound like much of a friend.
What is it about morning people thinking they are morally superior??

My sleeping patterns before kids were 2am til 10am and I would happily spend an entire Sunday in bed! Blissful..

Far from lazy, just ADHD and a later circadian rhythm. Was plenty productive in the other hours running a successful business that now fits around my kids. She has a full time job, just different ideas about what down time looks like.

This! Plus, how have we jumped from staying up late and having a lie in, to going straight to bed and eating a takeaway in bed?! Lol

You’re fucking insane.

I always struggled with early shifts, chose to do late shifts when not doing night in the nhs for 36yrs. Now at just 60 living with autoimmune diseases that looking back I think I had it from my late 20’s I now have stage 4 kidney disease about to start dialysis. Don’t judge, none of us know what’s around the corner.

OP if you don't agree with her life style why is she your friend? So you can bitch about her? So you can feel better about yourself? So you can pat yourself on the back that "at least I am not like x"? There is a saying "Protect me Lord from my friends because from enemies I can protect myself". She is judging you because you judge her. Mind your own buisness and get of your high horse, you are no better than her because you sew and run. Better even, block her and never talk to her again. You will be doing her a favour, trust me.

In this case, I think because OP is gobsmacked we haven't all been rushing to agree with her.

Do you think you’re better than anyone because of how you schedule your sleep? Bit mental and this post suggests you don’t have as much going on in your life as you think.

Op will be tucked up in bed now anyway, ready for her sanctimoniously early arising.

It is only the lazy outlaws still up and going.

Why on earth is it your business what she does she isn't like you, she doesn't like the gym
She doesn't like doing the same things you like.
Why are you friends with her when you have nothing in common?

I can't believe you are in your 20s you sound about 15 in your posts

Non-24 can be a beast, it's great that you've been able to find work that accommodates it. I'm diagnosed with delayed sleep phase syndrome, but tbh I'm rarely able to get into a consistent sleep pattern so I've often wondered whether I'm non-24 too. It's only with the help of melatonin that I'm able to be vaguely diurnal which I need to be as I'm a carer for my elderly DM, but I spend a lot of time feeling exhausted after too little sleep. Having different circadian rhythms to most of society is no joke, but I've been accused of laziness more times than I can shake a stick at.

Thought it closed down? I know some of thier monkeys went to monkey world.

I love how you throw gardening like it's an insult 😂

I am not sure why you are obsessed with associating me with the idea of gardening, is that the most active pastime you can think of?

people that fill every single minute of their day with activity are avoiding something. They're probably just avoiding you to be honest.

Don't throw attacks and complain people call you out on them. It's easy.

Enjoy your lying down 💐

It honestly does sound like you're bothered because she ridiculed you. So what if she did? You obviously don't like her much a why is her opinion relevant to you? No one is the same, you enjoy keeping busy, she enjoys relaxing. Don't see a problem with either tbh.

You're not doing better than her at all. Who do you think you are? Your head is stuck so far up your own arse it's unbelievable.

Can’t help but wonder if this is a genuine post, or just one if the deliberately provocative nonsense ones. How others choose to live their life, so long as they are not harming others us none of your business.