To be disappointed with how soft play handled this man

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I reported an inappropriate sexual comment made by another parent at a soft play area yesterday.

I was climbing down from one of the raised areas with my DS and didn’t realise he was climbing up. I said a polite sorry and he replied not to worry and that if he knew his £10 entry included him getting an arse in his face he would have visited months ago. I challenged him and then reported to staff.

The staff approached me 10/15 minutes later to say they’d spoken to him and he had admitted saying that but was ‘obviously joking’ and he relayed his apologies, so they considered the matter sorted.

Personally, I think he should have been asked to leave. He made me feel extremely uncomfortable and could have gone on to say similar to other parents present.

Are you using “some people” to mean me? If so, please do just say so. No need to stand in ceremony being passive aggressive here. 🤣

I’m fully grown thanks. I just don’t find “jokes” like this man had aimed at OP funny. We do all have different senses of humour (and different boundaries as well) and if not finding this funny makes
me a humourless old prude, I accept that with pride.

If it had been the other way round and he had put his arse in her face I'm sure he would still be getting stick for it, the op would probably have reported him for sexual assault, rather than trying to laugh it off.

One was an accident. The other was a deliberately aimed comment.
Had he been coming down as she went up and they accidentally connected, I’m fairly sure she’d have been fine with it had he apologised as she did to him.

I’d also have found this funny , I can’t imagine reporting it never mind wanting the guy chucked out, it was clearly a joke, yes inappropriate and yes he hugely misjudged, but hardly something worthy of hysteria.

I know men who would 100% have made that kind of joke to each other. I also know women who would have said that, either to men or to other women.

There is an enormous difference between "not funny" and "predatory and should be banned."

Lighten up, for Gods sake.

Oh come on … your over-reaction is ridiculous.

That’s very different. It really also depends how the man said this to OP. Some things can still be a harmless joke.

Get a grip seriously its funny and a joke

Ahhh the mysogony is coming from inside the house. Women defending perverts due to conditioning is sad and damaging and perpetuates rape culture. Get underneath your conditioning or your children are doomed

As she was climbing down onto him maybe he could have sighted harassment. OP could then have been the one to be removed!

Its exactly the same

He made an awkward joke to try and finish an awkward situation … hardly a sexualised comment.

I mean yeah, it’s a little weird of a comment to a stranger, but it’s a joke. I would of laughed and carried on with my day not report him.

Maybe your arse being close to his face made him feel uncomfortable but knew it wasn’t a deliberate act so was trying to make a joke of it to avoid awkwardness. He also may have tried to make a joke of it so you didn’t accuse him of trying to put his face near your arse in an inappropriate way? Men can’t be too careful now a days so sounds awkward all round. Feel sorry for him that you put your bum near him that you felt the need to apologise, he made a joke of it and then he was told off by staff! Actually feel sorry for him.

Im sorry you felt uncomfortable too but actually the guy was just playing on soft play with his kids…

Sorry I would have laughed and may also have said something similar!

I think it’s pretty funny tbh.

It was an obvious joke, I would have laughed that off. Think the staff dealt with it fine too.

Omg…. It was a JOKE!! Yes the PP is in the minority, as are you! You don’t like everyone disagreeing with you so you’re eye rolling.
If he’d said that to a man, you wouldn’t bat an eyelid. It’s just happenstance it was you!

I think a staff conversation is fine for a once off incident. Hopefully it will make him think before making another semi-sexual joke (I also think it was funny).

Also not fair for his kid to have to leave.

I think you’re right to highlight comments of this nature but I also think you’re being overly dramatic. You called him on it, he apologised. Hopefully he’ll think before making similar comments again. No need to ask the man to leave or even to report to staff IMO. You’re kind of making it into something it wasn’t.

completely harmless and you’re making a mountain out of a mole hill. Ironically I was feeling really meh this morning, just saw my friends dad at the shop and he said
‘Cor girl you get more gorgeous every time I see you’, I text my husband and said it’s funny how a little compliment can turn my day around.

I think yoire maybe going over the top still op; he didn’t make a face sitting comment, nor did he specifically say your arse. He said an arse. It was not sexual to you. He cracked a semi sexual joke about getting an arse in his face.

I honestly think you need to calm down, take a deep breath and not turn it into something it was not.

if he’d said I’d pay to have my face sat on, or have your arse on my face, sure that would be a sexual comment to you. And you’re posting like he said these things, he did not.

How on earth did you read a sex act into what he said, unless you didn't quote what he said verbatim?