Dh cutting flowers off tree

[Lazydayathome]

Just heard Dh chopping things away in the back garden, assumed was the hedges which do need doing, but it was a beautiful, blossoming tree with pink flowers. It’s the gorgeous one I sit and look at in the evening if I sit outside, I can (well, could) just about see it when sat inside in the dining room, it’s gorgeous and gives off a lovely smell, i’d also put a string of lights around it
Went out to ask what he was doing as branches of flowers tumbling to the ground. He said it’s gardening and has to be done? Is this correct? I don’t know much about gardening tbh, but all I can see is a few flowers left on a spiky sort of tree, when previously it was big and blossoming 😔

Leave The Tree Killing Bastard .

Any experts on here who can tell me when it will grow back 🙏

It will depend how much he's cut off but you probably won't get flowers until next year at the earliest. How long it'll take for the branches to grow back will depend on how big they were and how he pruned them potentially.

Has he done it on purpose to upset you?

I think you're being rather naive, who does an unintentional unnecessary thing that they know will sadden the other person

Even if you know nothing about gardening you'd have to be pretty stupid to think cutting something beautiful in flower was the number one job to do

Does he generally dislike you?

You should call him Incapability Brown from now on

In fact if he's REALLY hacked at it (and I'm not an expert but my friend is a gardener) he could have potentially killed it. Oleanders need gentle pruning because they're not really trees, they're over large shrubs that can grow to look like trees.

I agree with this.

We need to know what it is!

I said above though

Oleander isn’t usually frost hardy in the uk. Unless you’re somewhere really sheltered.

If its oleander then it's very toxic, I hope he wore gloves and is disposing it safely, you do not want it in the house. It was a stupid thing to do but I wouldn't want it in my garden.

He’s just said it needed to be done as ants and green fly everywhere and that it will grow back in two weeks….?! Will it?!
Then got defensive and said I can do it all then

Your husband sounds like an absolute twat. Who on earth cuts back anything that’s in flower? You don’t have to be a gardener to work this out OP

I’m angry on your behalf

I'd still post a photo but be very careful handling it

I’m not in the uk

In that case the advice might be different. As a tip for the future if you want gardening advice then photos definitely help as does your location/climate that sort of thing.

I’m reluctant to post a pic as it shows my garden

OP - I hope you have taken notice of this post. It is extremely toxic. Please look it up. It is beautiful, but I wouldn't want it in my garden, even if I could grow it in the UK.

It certainly won't grow back in two weeks. It mostly likely won't flower again until next year, and depending on how much he cut back, it may not flower well next year either. The branches will take some time to grow back.

They’re everywhere where we are, had it for years, never a problem

I had no idea it was toxic

My in laws offered to help sort out the garden when I was heavily pregnant. My MIL took me aside and warned me to watch FIL like a hawk because he'd get ideas in his head and not listen, and my husband wouldn't challenge him.

I drew detailed plans of the things I wanted doing, but sure enough, he bounded in saying, "I've got a plan", and before I could so much as blink he had wrenched out a lovely ground plant that also brought a lot of supporting brickwork with it. He had to be stopped bringing a chainsaw because he wanted to "take that tree back".

I'm never having them help again, he's ruined my lovely garden for me.

He just keeps saying i’m being ridiculous and it will grow back in two weeks

Can you just take a photo of the tree itself?