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To wonder why so many male migrants have committed sexual assaults:even if they are evil people, wouldn't staying in the UK be an incentive to abide by the law?

244 replies

Jane379 · Today 00:05

I KNOW that plenty of the men who come are not evil and don't want to commit sexual assault. But clearly a number who have come are, and there's strong evidence that male migrants are disproportionately lileky to do so.

This almost surely at least partly caused by misogynistic culture in various areas meaning back home they perceived uncovered women as permissible to assault. But surely they know it's different here? That they will likely be caught? They are at least more likely to be punished here for assault.

Or are they convinced our police system will let them off?

Or they're not aware our norms are different?

Or just don't care about the consequences?

I wonder also if criminals are in a sense selected for since they may have little to tie them to their home countries, or even be escaping punishment there.

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MsJinks · Today 10:09

Twisterlollies · Today 09:55

Why would I have problems with nationalities which don’t treat women like scum?

You can make any excuses you want, they’re hollow and we all know it.

Well guess you also have issues with rich/powerful men then - Epstein anyone - what accounts for their reprehensible behaviours?

Twisterlollies · Today 10:10

MsJinks · Today 10:09

Well guess you also have issues with rich/powerful men then - Epstein anyone - what accounts for their reprehensible behaviours?

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous. This very voluntary and deliberate faux confusion over ‘X men are more likely to offend than Y men’ and ‘Y men never offend at all’ is absolutely pathetic.

Dmsandfloatydress · Today 10:11

MsJinks · Today 10:09

Well guess you also have issues with rich/powerful men then - Epstein anyone - what accounts for their reprehensible behaviours?

Its it school time? You must be missing lessons

EasternStandard · Today 10:12

MsJinks · Today 10:06

I actually think migration is a global problem that should be addressed globally. We have to understand it will not stop - humans have always migrated plus there are wars and also the climate is making some places uninhabitable (reasons not for debate here).

This is obviously a naive hopeless idea I just daydream about, so in reality yes every country has to consider details of migration- hopefully some can work together.

I also think governments of every shade should be more honest about immigration- reasons, facts (the illegal asylum claimants really does grind my gears for eg).

Hatred is useful for rich and/or powerful people - it sows division and stops anyone looking at what they are doing.

I despise the hatred - I will never accept that an asylum claimant doing an abhorrent crime means folk should gather round other hotels being vile, attempt to break in, and even set fire to them.

Protest properly against the government- against the fat cats making the money off it.

Whilst this hatred and division continues there will never be a rational discussion as people are polarised and either side of debate feels nearly obliged to defend it beyond even reason at times.

I find the mixed approach odd. On one hand there is talk of upholding laws and oth Labour pushes for riot gear on French beaches. But on arrival this switches. What a mess.

Plus the vast networking and criminality which has unsurprisingly grown due to laws from last century, it’s a multi billion trade. It’s profitable to the point it’s run with marketing and as I just heard people sign legal disclaimers before passage.

On your point being honest about migration and how many we’d need to take in the next few decades to share it globally could be said, but idk if people would just accept whatever that is.

MsJinks · Today 10:13

Twisterlollies · Today 09:58

This simply is not true - many Afghan men have been desperate to get their female relatives out of there.

I honestly can’t listen to another second of these desperate phony lies, because it’s actually making me very angry.

Well it isn’t a lie at all - try Google - but you don’t have to read my posts of course.

MsJinks · Today 10:14

Dmsandfloatydress · Today 10:11

Its it school time? You must be missing lessons

Haha - that’s a great response to avoid the question.

Dmsandfloatydress · Today 10:18

MsJinks · Today 10:06

I actually think migration is a global problem that should be addressed globally. We have to understand it will not stop - humans have always migrated plus there are wars and also the climate is making some places uninhabitable (reasons not for debate here).

This is obviously a naive hopeless idea I just daydream about, so in reality yes every country has to consider details of migration- hopefully some can work together.

I also think governments of every shade should be more honest about immigration- reasons, facts (the illegal asylum claimants really does grind my gears for eg).

Hatred is useful for rich and/or powerful people - it sows division and stops anyone looking at what they are doing.

I despise the hatred - I will never accept that an asylum claimant doing an abhorrent crime means folk should gather round other hotels being vile, attempt to break in, and even set fire to them.

Protest properly against the government- against the fat cats making the money off it.

Whilst this hatred and division continues there will never be a rational discussion as people are polarised and either side of debate feels nearly obliged to defend it beyond even reason at times.

I actually agree. I worked in those hotels when the protests were happening and all they did was traumatise already traumatised little kids. It was incredibly cruel as many of the hotels house women and children who have suffered terrible things and children who were still screaming at night after experiencing bombing The way to address this is through the proper channels. Writing to your MP etc. Im actually pretty please with Shabana Mahmoods policies. They really should help. My view is that we should simply do what we did with the Ukrainians. Homes for refugees but just women and children with no way to bring adult male members. In this way we can compassionately help the most vulnerable and ensure integration as they will spend the first 6 months living in British Homes and being helped by those who have volunteered and who have cultural capital.
Better still, rural areas should be prioritised so that refugees have no choice but to become completely immersed in British Culture.

MsJinks · Today 10:20

Twisterlollies · Today 10:10

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous. This very voluntary and deliberate faux confusion over ‘X men are more likely to offend than Y men’ and ‘Y men never offend at all’ is absolutely pathetic.

I’m asking genuine questions - and I’m not pretending men of any nationality don’t violently and abhorrently abuse women - this is the biggest issue - don’t you pretend it doesn’t happen.

Actually main differences seem to be money/power - in that it seems to be your average foreign guy caught for such crimes, and having the whole of his nation villified for it - but often here/the west it’s the higher placed guys who get away with more as they can cover and get it covered up and no one considers villifying all white men.

DidIJustHearWhatIThinkYouSaid · Today 10:23

Twisterlollies · Today 07:38

We don’t keep the data which is why there’s no ‘proof’. So it’s easy to demand evidence knowing full well this isn’t recorded. Sweden is trying to get a grip on it but there’s radio silence where a proper government run study should be.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-45269764

Think you need to read the full article instead of posting selectively.

“But Sweden had thousands more reported rapes, and there is no ethnic breakdown for those”.

"We are very clear in the programme that it is a small percentage of the people coming from abroad who are convicted of rape," chief editor Ulf Johansson told the BBC.
He pointed out that the number of reported rapes in Sweden was far higher, so no conclusions could be drawn on the role of immigrants in sexual attacks.”

trueredstart · Today 10:26

@Dmsandfloatydress It's a nice, idyllic idea but it would not work.

Homes for refugees but just women and children with no way to bring adult male members.
The problem is that the rest of the world sends their men, not their women.They are not the same as us.

Better still, rural areas should be prioritised so that refugees have no choice but to become completely immersed in British Culture.
They've ruined the cities, and now we should ruin the last bastions of British culture? No thanks.

MsJinks · Today 10:29

Dmsandfloatydress · Today 10:18

I actually agree. I worked in those hotels when the protests were happening and all they did was traumatise already traumatised little kids. It was incredibly cruel as many of the hotels house women and children who have suffered terrible things and children who were still screaming at night after experiencing bombing The way to address this is through the proper channels. Writing to your MP etc. Im actually pretty please with Shabana Mahmoods policies. They really should help. My view is that we should simply do what we did with the Ukrainians. Homes for refugees but just women and children with no way to bring adult male members. In this way we can compassionately help the most vulnerable and ensure integration as they will spend the first 6 months living in British Homes and being helped by those who have volunteered and who have cultural capital.
Better still, rural areas should be prioritised so that refugees have no choice but to become completely immersed in British Culture.

Thank you. It’s certainly the hatred upsets me most - I actually don’t think that even if a hotel housed a full set of criminals that we should try and attack/burn it down - I don’t think it’s great for our society - it isn’t part of our values and it saddens me - there are other ways.

It is particularly horrible for traumatised people - it must have been hard to work there. One counter protest at a hotel I attended that should have been the day they played footie with other local teams - obviously they were locked down. This doesn’t help with integration though and nor does hearing folk screaming ‘paedo’ ‘go home’ either tbf. I counter this to let them know some folk are ok here. But there are many better ways to protest.

I actually don’t like Labour’s immigration rhetoric or policies - but I’m ok to agree to differ on that - what I’m not sure about is that these policies are addressing people’s concerns, directly, and reducing immigration massively - what else is required?

EasternStandard · Today 10:32

Dmsandfloatydress · Today 10:18

I actually agree. I worked in those hotels when the protests were happening and all they did was traumatise already traumatised little kids. It was incredibly cruel as many of the hotels house women and children who have suffered terrible things and children who were still screaming at night after experiencing bombing The way to address this is through the proper channels. Writing to your MP etc. Im actually pretty please with Shabana Mahmoods policies. They really should help. My view is that we should simply do what we did with the Ukrainians. Homes for refugees but just women and children with no way to bring adult male members. In this way we can compassionately help the most vulnerable and ensure integration as they will spend the first 6 months living in British Homes and being helped by those who have volunteered and who have cultural capital.
Better still, rural areas should be prioritised so that refugees have no choice but to become completely immersed in British Culture.

Mahmood’s policies are and will do the opposite of what you’re after. They will pretty much stop women and children applying.

Twisterlollies · Today 10:33

MsJinks · Today 10:29

Thank you. It’s certainly the hatred upsets me most - I actually don’t think that even if a hotel housed a full set of criminals that we should try and attack/burn it down - I don’t think it’s great for our society - it isn’t part of our values and it saddens me - there are other ways.

It is particularly horrible for traumatised people - it must have been hard to work there. One counter protest at a hotel I attended that should have been the day they played footie with other local teams - obviously they were locked down. This doesn’t help with integration though and nor does hearing folk screaming ‘paedo’ ‘go home’ either tbf. I counter this to let them know some folk are ok here. But there are many better ways to protest.

I actually don’t like Labour’s immigration rhetoric or policies - but I’m ok to agree to differ on that - what I’m not sure about is that these policies are addressing people’s concerns, directly, and reducing immigration massively - what else is required?

The hatred of Afghan women by the men that are supposed to protect them?… oh wait

I could never be more upset about ‘hatred’ as a concept than I am the rape, torture and paedophilia going on in Afghanistan. You can hold two thoughts at once.

MsJinks · Today 10:37

Twisterlollies · Today 10:33

The hatred of Afghan women by the men that are supposed to protect them?… oh wait

I could never be more upset about ‘hatred’ as a concept than I am the rape, torture and paedophilia going on in Afghanistan. You can hold two thoughts at once.

I’m sorry - what had this to do with how we protest outside hotels? How we handle immigration?

You are super focussed on Afghanistan - it’s becoming a bit of a concern tbh. This stuff happens all over the world though Afghanistan is under nearly the worst regime in the world. You must spend your life very, very upset and I recommend you step off the news and sm to avoid hearing anything distressing to you.

And until and unless you have personally walked in those shoes of Afghan people I’d hold off these extreme judgments.

AlternateLook · Today 10:38

oldFoolMe · Today 09:43

Posts like this are such a trigger for me, it makes me feel like being abused as a child by a white english man is minimised, that its only migrants who do such things. The problem is men.

Nobody's saying anything of the sort. Of course, we know sexual crimes are commonly committed by indigenous men, but per head of population, that pales in comparison to that which is committed by foreign men, particularly of a certain culture.

Ponoka7 · Today 10:58

WellThatsAlrightThen · Today 00:28

They do know it’s different here otherwise they would be raping women in the middle of the day in the supermarket. It’s kept secret, hidden away, done in the dark. I do agree that most women’s first sexual assault expirienced as a child.

There have been cases of women and girls being raped, after being dragged off the street, during the day. It could be that they don't realise that our Police will react.

Whatdomenactuallydo · Today 11:06

trueredstart · Today 10:26

@Dmsandfloatydress It's a nice, idyllic idea but it would not work.

Homes for refugees but just women and children with no way to bring adult male members.
The problem is that the rest of the world sends their men, not their women.They are not the same as us.

Better still, rural areas should be prioritised so that refugees have no choice but to become completely immersed in British Culture.
They've ruined the cities, and now we should ruin the last bastions of British culture? No thanks.

Why not? It worked for Ukrainians. Just let it be known that we won't be accepting any asylum claims from men at all. Men cause almost all of the problems people are fleeing from anyway. We keep your women and kids safe and you brave men go home and fix your country.

EasternStandard · Today 11:08

Whatdomenactuallydo · Today 11:06

Why not? It worked for Ukrainians. Just let it be known that we won't be accepting any asylum claims from men at all. Men cause almost all of the problems people are fleeing from anyway. We keep your women and kids safe and you brave men go home and fix your country.

This could happen but you’d need an Aus style system with humanitarian visas.

MandingoAteMyBaby · Today 11:08

1dayatatime · Today 09:05

Again another post that denies actual facts and evidence. It is exactly as I explained:

The Centre for Migration Control report showed that Afghan nationals were 22 times more likely to be convicted of sex offences than British nationals.

Madeleine Sumption, the director of the Migration Observatory however disputes these figures estimates the rate to be 14.5 – not 22 – times higher for Afghan nationals.

So in summary Afghan nationals are between 14.5 to 22 times more likely to commit sex crimes than British nationals.

Yet still I'm sure that you will either refuse or dispute these figures.

What is being compared in those statistics ?

Afghan migrants are overwhelmingly young males. So their “per-capita” is among a population of young males.

The British “per-capita” is measured against the whole British population - Grandmas included.

It would be appropriate if The Centre for Migration Control (which is in fact just one guy with a remit to faux-scientifically blame migrants for anything and everything, paid for by right-wing lobbyists) used the same young male demographic as the background population for their UK figures.

But they didn’t. Why ?

Weeallthewayhome · Today 11:10

Dmsandfloatydress · Today 10:18

I actually agree. I worked in those hotels when the protests were happening and all they did was traumatise already traumatised little kids. It was incredibly cruel as many of the hotels house women and children who have suffered terrible things and children who were still screaming at night after experiencing bombing The way to address this is through the proper channels. Writing to your MP etc. Im actually pretty please with Shabana Mahmoods policies. They really should help. My view is that we should simply do what we did with the Ukrainians. Homes for refugees but just women and children with no way to bring adult male members. In this way we can compassionately help the most vulnerable and ensure integration as they will spend the first 6 months living in British Homes and being helped by those who have volunteered and who have cultural capital.
Better still, rural areas should be prioritised so that refugees have no choice but to become completely immersed in British Culture.

No, don’t prioritise rural areas. They are the last bastions of an age where life wasn’t drained of colour, freedom and possibility. People who live there appreciate, revere and respect the culture.

I used to wonder how Soviet Russians could swallow such utter horseshit about things being good in their uniform grey groupthink drab dead lives.

But I’ve watched the country I love go that way for decades. Importing millions from the incompatible cultures some of us were thrilled to escape, has been a total disaster. No integration and two-tier everything has simultaneously emboldened those who have a dystopian world view.

I weep for my adopted country. I will vote for Rupert Lowe. The most unexpected revolutionary figure. No beret or guillotine; a ruddy face and a Barbour and the only patriot on the horizon.

MandingoAteMyBaby · Today 11:15

Weeallthewayhome · Today 11:10

No, don’t prioritise rural areas. They are the last bastions of an age where life wasn’t drained of colour, freedom and possibility. People who live there appreciate, revere and respect the culture.

I used to wonder how Soviet Russians could swallow such utter horseshit about things being good in their uniform grey groupthink drab dead lives.

But I’ve watched the country I love go that way for decades. Importing millions from the incompatible cultures some of us were thrilled to escape, has been a total disaster. No integration and two-tier everything has simultaneously emboldened those who have a dystopian world view.

I weep for my adopted country. I will vote for Rupert Lowe. The most unexpected revolutionary figure. No beret or guillotine; a ruddy face and a Barbour and the only patriot on the horizon.

Ironic really.

Given that rural areas suffer from young people moving away from them in droves to seek exactly that colour and freedom you espouse in urban areas.

50sandFabulous · Today 11:17

Imagine our army on the beaches. Imagine that every man arriving on a small boat, gets loaded into another boat, and taken back to France and left on the beach there, and then small boat is confiscated and destroyed. How long would it take for men to stop paying £10k for passage across the channel?

Operation Sovereign Borders in Australia did exactly this, and the problem was solved almost overnight.

Why aren't we doing this?

Toops · Today 11:29

Not every country is party to the refugee convention. We have to be strict and harsh to them unfortunately.

Weeallthewayhome · Today 11:29

MandingoAteMyBaby · Today 11:15

Ironic really.

Given that rural areas suffer from young people moving away from them in droves to seek exactly that colour and freedom you espouse in urban areas.

Ironic really. I’m espousing colour and freedom in the country, not the towns.

Of course kids want lights and fun. But our cities are no go crime ridden shitholes not the exciting place you’d go for a career or to find a partner.

Our rural towns and high streets are so decimated there are no longer options for the horses that want to bring up young families in safety and in a familiar culture.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · Today 11:30

Dmsandfloatydress · Today 08:45

Even one more rape from someone from a migrant background is too many as we women have enough to deal with , with home grown rapists ,thank you! I have spent many years working with refugees and yes, its the culture. Many young men coming from places like Afghanistan, Pakistan, Sudan literally have no reference points to understand this society. Those in Home Office accomodation rarely receive any kind of cultural orientation and therefore view our society through their own cultural lense. Women are mothers or whores and women walking around scantily dressed, on their own are clearly prositutes so its normal to rape them. There were many rapes in home office accomodation when I was working with the cohort.
These young men are often disgusted with our society and consider us degenerate and heathen. However, they love the economic opportunities afforded by living here. Please dont be naive. I used to be very left wing about this sort of thing and after workingn n the sector I now appreciate that there are some cultures that literally cannot be integrated into this society and I fear for British Young Girls who will have to deal with the threat these young men pose.
If I had my way we would only allow women and child refugees to remain in the UK. They pose no threat to other women and children and will integrate much faster without the men. In addition, when in comes to civil conflict , we have no ide if the men we are importing are in fact war criminals and no way to find out.

Hear hear! We have enough home grown rapists, we don't need more. Even one more is one too many.

Taking women refugees in similar numbers would not pose the same risk and generally speaking they also need refuge more than the men.