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To wonder why so many male migrants have committed sexual assaults:even if they are evil people, wouldn't staying in the UK be an incentive to abide by the law?

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Jane379 · Today 00:05

I KNOW that plenty of the men who come are not evil and don't want to commit sexual assault. But clearly a number who have come are, and there's strong evidence that male migrants are disproportionately lileky to do so.

This almost surely at least partly caused by misogynistic culture in various areas meaning back home they perceived uncovered women as permissible to assault. But surely they know it's different here? That they will likely be caught? They are at least more likely to be punished here for assault.

Or are they convinced our police system will let them off?

Or they're not aware our norms are different?

Or just don't care about the consequences?

I wonder also if criminals are in a sense selected for since they may have little to tie them to their home countries, or even be escaping punishment there.

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Tryingtobegreenfingered · Today 20:57

Beachtastic · Today 20:52

As always, I think this thread shows up the difference between women who have faced these issues personally and those who haven't. For those who haven't, this is just a political/philosophical argument and an opportunity to show how liberal-minded and fair they are. For those who have, there's a lot more at stake, and the fact that there are no clear stats from which to draw definitive conclusions actually makes things worse. Nowadays, with the internet and transparency, people can't massage data as they once did. Instead, they are simply very careful when formulating the questions to be investigated in the first place. What I'd like to know is who controls these questions and what they are afraid of.

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Well I haven’t faced these issues personally but if it looks like a duck etc… it’s just bloody common sense to me. Some people tie themselves up into knots so worried about being seen as racist. I think given the medieval attitudes to women in some countries- Pakistan, Afghanistan, parts of India, Sudan it’s not surprising that some young men come over here with those attitudes and attack women (who are not veiled/behind closed doors) these cultures are not compatible with Western living. Makes me mad. Women collateral damage as per usual.

Toops · Today 20:59

trueredstart · Today 20:56

That was ten years ago??? I thought it happened six months ago, as the first time I'd heard of it was in 2026. Utterly disgraceful.

How is this happening time and time again? Why do people bury their head in the sand about these painfully obvious issues?

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And Germany still went full open borders

AlternateLook · Today 21:00

pointythings · Today 17:36

Oh come on now! What caused the downfall of the Shah's regime was that it was doing all the things the current regime is now also doing - it was a horrific dictatorship. So there was a revolution and sadly, people ended up going from the frying pan into the fire. Nothing to do with 'leftist women', you are making that up.

Due to the West's influence, primarily the US, the Shah went too far. Tehran ended up like Las Vegas by the end. The Islamic Revolution pushed things too far the other way, though, and look at Iran now.

Toops · Today 21:03

Iran was one regime oppressing people and them a new regime came in which actually learnt how to oppress people "better" and stay in power.

Wipeywipey · Today 21:28

Beachtastic · Today 20:52

As always, I think this thread shows up the difference between women who have faced these issues personally and those who haven't. For those who haven't, this is just a political/philosophical argument and an opportunity to show how liberal-minded and fair they are. For those who have, there's a lot more at stake, and the fact that there are no clear stats from which to draw definitive conclusions actually makes things worse. Nowadays, with the internet and transparency, people can't massage data as they once did. Instead, they are simply very careful when formulating the questions to be investigated in the first place. What I'd like to know is who controls these questions and what they are afraid of.

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I think it is showing off a lot of "only migrants" single mindedness ignoring the fact most women in UK are abused by men they know.

Men are the problem, wherever they are from. Even educating them and giving them free healthcare doesn't seem to change them, just makes them better at hiding their acts. Poverty is usually a precursor to most crime but it is usually perpetuated by men. Anywhere you get a lot of poor men will not be safe for women (and other men). I don't know why stating that would make me liberal minded, just a realistic feminist who knows it doesn't matter where men come from, they are often a threat to women.

Toops · Today 21:29

Wipeywipey · Today 21:28

I think it is showing off a lot of "only migrants" single mindedness ignoring the fact most women in UK are abused by men they know.

Men are the problem, wherever they are from. Even educating them and giving them free healthcare doesn't seem to change them, just makes them better at hiding their acts. Poverty is usually a precursor to most crime but it is usually perpetuated by men. Anywhere you get a lot of poor men will not be safe for women (and other men). I don't know why stating that would make me liberal minded, just a realistic feminist who knows it doesn't matter where men come from, they are often a threat to women.

Let's not import more men from the 3rd world.

Tryingtobegreenfingered · Today 21:30

Wipeywipey · Today 21:28

I think it is showing off a lot of "only migrants" single mindedness ignoring the fact most women in UK are abused by men they know.

Men are the problem, wherever they are from. Even educating them and giving them free healthcare doesn't seem to change them, just makes them better at hiding their acts. Poverty is usually a precursor to most crime but it is usually perpetuated by men. Anywhere you get a lot of poor men will not be safe for women (and other men). I don't know why stating that would make me liberal minded, just a realistic feminist who knows it doesn't matter where men come from, they are often a threat to women.

Yes, we know that!!! But the point is that we have enough of our home grown offending men without importing groups who are MORE likely to offend against women statistically, from misogynistic societies. The two can both be true you know. It’s not complicated.

Wipeywipey · Today 21:33

Tryingtobegreenfingered · Today 21:30

Yes, we know that!!! But the point is that we have enough of our home grown offending men without importing groups who are MORE likely to offend against women statistically, from misogynistic societies. The two can both be true you know. It’s not complicated.

It isn't complicated but not letting anyone in fleeing from men doing male things isn't the answer either. Going further right like the Taliban and evangelicalism is only going to increase the fear and violence on the streets a la Tommy R as it did over the weekend. Why would anyone want to encourage that and keep perpetuating the fake narrative that these violent apes are helping or protecting women?

Tryingtobegreenfingered · Today 21:40

Wipeywipey · Today 21:33

It isn't complicated but not letting anyone in fleeing from men doing male things isn't the answer either. Going further right like the Taliban and evangelicalism is only going to increase the fear and violence on the streets a la Tommy R as it did over the weekend. Why would anyone want to encourage that and keep perpetuating the fake narrative that these violent apes are helping or protecting women?

I am definitely not a Tommy R fan- hateful
man. But rubbishing people’s genuine concerns just feeds him and his followers. It’s quite telling that you seem to assume I’m a TR fan from what I’ve posted

Toops · Today 21:44

Intimate Partner Violence is horrific and disgusting but higher in Sudan, Somalia , Afghanistan. I don't want to say it, but have you also heard of FGM.

The world bank gender portal says IPV is higher in Afghanistan than the UK.

HRTQueen · Today 22:01

Wipeywipey · Today 21:33

It isn't complicated but not letting anyone in fleeing from men doing male things isn't the answer either. Going further right like the Taliban and evangelicalism is only going to increase the fear and violence on the streets a la Tommy R as it did over the weekend. Why would anyone want to encourage that and keep perpetuating the fake narrative that these violent apes are helping or protecting women?

We can’t not openly discuss the issues of a large number of young men who are here without families, from countries where all they have known is violence and who are mostly likely to hold misogynistic views towards women and views that western woman are less worthy because of the fear that racist thugs will use this argument

they are using it anyway

do you really believe if you take 100 men raised and educated here and 100 men from let’s say Afghanistan that they would hold the same opinions about women and how women should behave and what woman’s roles are in society, it’s not just about predatory men who sexually assault women it’s the views they hold about women and the place we hold in society

we are not supporting the far right but we want open and honest conversations about the impact and the safety of women and girls

EmeraldShamrock000 · Today 22:23

Tryingtobegreenfingered · Today 21:40

I am definitely not a Tommy R fan- hateful
man. But rubbishing people’s genuine concerns just feeds him and his followers. It’s quite telling that you seem to assume I’m a TR fan from what I’ve posted

Indeed. When you are accused of being a far right racist for having concerns about these issues, it is shutdown mode.
People in professional roles cannot risk being labelled a racist. It isn’t just toothless and unemployed that who are impacted or are concerned , it doesn’t mean anyone who has concerns wants to be like TR. Far from it.
What’s done is done as far as mass immigration but it needs to be stopped now, it’s out of control and costing Europe millions, so many women have already died or been sexually assaulted, it needs to stop.

Beachtastic · Today 22:26

Wipeywipey · Today 21:28

I think it is showing off a lot of "only migrants" single mindedness ignoring the fact most women in UK are abused by men they know.

Men are the problem, wherever they are from. Even educating them and giving them free healthcare doesn't seem to change them, just makes them better at hiding their acts. Poverty is usually a precursor to most crime but it is usually perpetuated by men. Anywhere you get a lot of poor men will not be safe for women (and other men). I don't know why stating that would make me liberal minded, just a realistic feminist who knows it doesn't matter where men come from, they are often a threat to women.

Yes, I once thought that way too. Until...

Jane379 · Today 22:45

Sorry, I only had time to get back to the thread tonight! Thanks for all the replies, I'll read & try & reply now.

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Jane379 · Today 22:46

Ponoka7 · Today 00:22

They don't know that it is different here, who do you think is educating them? Most women's first sexual encounter is as s child, but very few men are charged with child sexual offences. Even for people who migrate here,there's no support groups to teach a lot of things. Life in our prisons, is better than what they face, as a asylum seeker etc.

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Most women's first sexual encounter is as s child

  • what?? That's terrible if so. Is it really so high? Do you have any link on this?
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Jane379 · Today 22:48

TheSmallAssassin · Today 00:39

I think More or Less have covered this a couple of times, there isn't any evidence, let along strong evidence, that male migrants are disproportionately likely to commit sexual offences. Maybe give it a listen @Jane379 ?

A common mistake this it made is not to compare like with like, for instance male migrants are usually young, and younger males in general are more likely to commit sexual offences than older men, so you need to compare against younger British offenders, not all ages of male offenders.

The recent claims by Annunziata Rees-Mogg used figures from Dorset Police that were shown to be completely wrong (an AI hallucination, apparently)

I agree age is definitely a factor.

Most are also coming without families. Men with families to support can obviously still be evil but have more incentive not to commit crime.

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Jane379 · Today 22:52

OtterlyAstounding · Today 00:49

Absolutely. Yes, it is men. But within the demographic of 'men', there are cultural and social differences for sub-demographics that mean sexual or domestic violence is more or less common.

For men who grow up in regions where women being treated as less than men is normal, with laws meaning that marital rape, spousal abuse, financial control etc are acceptable behaviours, it makes sense that they're going to be more prone to that. Equally, if they grow up in a sub-culture that normalises abuse and violence, despite the laws of the country not supporting that behaviour.

For instance, sexual abuse is seemingly (it's hard to get data because it's generally hidden and not spoken of) highly prevalent amongst Amish communities. I would imagine that the 'traditional' lifestyle and ingrained misogyny of that sub-culture, along with its isolation from wider society, has something to do with that.

And I imagine (for instance) Russian men, and men from many Middle Eastern cultures, have higher rates of sexual or domestic violence and misogynistic behaviours because of the laws and values within the societies they come from.

To pretend otherwise is silly. You can acknowledge that some societies are markedly more misogynistic than others, and at higher risk of enacting sexual or domestic violence, without absolving white British men of the sexual and domestic violence that they also engage in.

Exactly. I'm not saying all men from these cultures behave this way or think this way, just that some cultures foster mores that make it more likely.

Russia I read in the Times once has a proverb 'if he beats you, it means he loves you'. I need to research more on this, but if so, that's clearly the kind of mores which would facilitate DV!

For instance, sexual abuse is seemingly (it's hard to get data because it's generally hidden and not spoken of) highly prevalent amongst Amish communities. I would imagine that the 'traditional' lifestyle and ingrained misogyny of that sub-culture, along with its isolation from wider society, has something to do with that.

  • re Amish, I actually read a book on this recently, can't remember the title but it would be a very sobering read for anyone who romanticised the Amish community. Any closed off community, especially with strong norms of male authority, is likely to foster that...
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Jane379 · Today 22:54

HelmholtzWatson · Today 04:21

Why do I get the feeling "virtually" is doing a lot of heavy lifting here? 🤔

and anyway, this misses the point. We know young men of the lowest socio-economic status commit the most crimes.

Hence why we don't need an excess of this demographic, who even if they don't commit any crimes are likely to take far more out of the system than they will ever put back.

Hence why we don't need an excess of this demographic, who even if they don't commit any crimes are likely to take far more out of the system than they will ever put back.

  • I think that's a bit unfair. Law abiding male migrants may be keen to work hard, and potentially advance.

Otoh I agree we cannot accept more migrants.

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Jane379 · Today 22:57

GeneralPeter · Today 05:48

Haven’t seen UK data, but European data does show very stark differences in sexual assault/rape offending by origin country.

I’d guess a mix of: i) chance of getting caught quickly is a much stronger deterrent than harshness of punishment. We do badly at this, ii) maybe they expect it to be treated as a minor crime at best, ie they don’t expect serious punishment even if caught, iii) most criminals are very impulsive anyway, which correlates with low IQ, and the typical national tested IQs of many of the highest-offending origin countries is very low.

typical national tested IQs of many of the highest-offending origin countries is very low.

  • why is this? I suspect lower IQ is at the root of a lot of this. Probably bad diet & health are is one element. Another element is generational cousin marriage, I suspect. These must be changed...but the UK has enough of its own problems.
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Jane379 · Today 22:57

GeneralPeter · Today 05:48

Haven’t seen UK data, but European data does show very stark differences in sexual assault/rape offending by origin country.

I’d guess a mix of: i) chance of getting caught quickly is a much stronger deterrent than harshness of punishment. We do badly at this, ii) maybe they expect it to be treated as a minor crime at best, ie they don’t expect serious punishment even if caught, iii) most criminals are very impulsive anyway, which correlates with low IQ, and the typical national tested IQs of many of the highest-offending origin countries is very low.

chance of getting caught quickly is a much stronger deterrent than harshness of punishment. We do badly at this, ii) maybe they expect it to be treated as a minor crime at best, ie they don’t expect serious punishment even if caught, iii

  • Also good points.
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Jane379 · Today 22:58

millymollymoomoo · Today 06:31

Leftist social women caused the downfall and Islamic takeover in Iran…. And yet they’ll still do it here, it’s like turkeys voting for Christmas. I despair for my daughter

Don't just blame leftist Iranian women, many leftist men did too.

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Jane379 · Today 23:01

Cyclebabble · Today 07:18

So whilst acknowledging there are good and bad men in all groups, Sky News fact checked Nigel Farage’s claim that Afghan men had a 22 times higher propensity to rape. It found that a cross comparison to UK society as a whole was very difficult as the incoming refugee population were largely younger males and exact data does not exist. However, it does suggest that there is a considerable disparity of perhaps 4 or so times, which is still quite significant, though again data is difficult to cross compare.

I was brought up in a Muslim country (Malaysia), and generally most Muslim men are very respectful of women. However, as you travel to certain more strict areas, the society can be deeply oppressive for women and there is a really ingrained culture that a women not at home and not dressed extremely modestly is “asking for it”. The concept of consent is also not understood. Rape in marriage is still legal in many countries and a woman meeting a man alone might be seen as being very provocative.

In short there is a dangerous initial clash of culture which is not being properly managed. I understand refugees get some counselling on UK culture, but it will be anywhere near enough to override years of culture in Afghanistan.

On a risk basis, we should look for more secure units for those who pose the most risk.

news.sky.com/story/fact-checking-farage-are-foreigners-more-likely-than-britons-to-commit-sexual-offences-13407029

Thanks for giving your experience, that is very worrying.

I may be very inaccurate on this, but I wonder of some Muslim migrant countries have extra issues Malaysia does not due to issues like clan/honour morality. Eg. The Taliban are arguably more influenced by the Pashtun honour code of pashtunwali than by Islamic law re women.

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Jane379 · Today 23:04

BashthatTerriesorange · Today 07:14

But looking at all migrants is the wrong data set. No one is suggesting that American/ Australian/ New Zealand/ Western European nationals have higher rates of sexual offending. People are concerned about offending from men from misogynistic cultures. You’d have to examine the data set from that group alone ( and decide if you were looking at legal or illegal/ asylum or all three) to see if claims of higher rates of offending were true. And then delve deeper to look at reasons why.

Good point

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Jane379 · Today 23:12

LoopyLoo1991 · Today 07:22

There are many urban myths in their home countries that British woman are so easy, them travel here to 'get lucky'.
Romanian lady who lives down my area saying they all watch Geordie shore, influencer blogs, old big brother and think many English women behave like that.

Guy at my old worksite is of Turkish-Cypriot extraction. Back on the island and mainland etc, a man accused of raping a woman is likely to end up dead. They sometimes rape special needs men instead as no one gets offed for that and no body cares.
Britain and Scandinavia are seen as soft places with easy woman and light jail time. Almost zero of these type of men will be killed or attacked for assaulting attractive women.
He was telling a few of us this and we couldn't believe it at first. Another person chimes in and said that's why Soviet soldiers were so feared in world war 2 and in Eastern European countries, as it was a license to rape many local women with no come backs. Do that in Russia, gulags in Siberia if you were lucky. This was still happening in 1983 in some Soviet satellite states.
Being born when USSR fell I never knew a fraction of this. Will have to do some reaches on my 'workbreak week' in August.

This is disturbing. It's notable most people (including me) have been focusing on migrants from Muslim countries. But you seem to be suggesting former USSR men like Romanians are also often more dangerous ?

I wonder what the data says?

'Another person chimes in and said that's why Soviet soldiers were so feared in world war 2 and in Eastern European countries, as it was a license to rape many local women with no come backs.'

  • is this person USSR? I'm partly Polish myself and my understanding is that the terrible sexual assaults by the Red Army were more due to poor army discipline, revenge on Nazis & the war environment in general. I wasn't under the impression most of the assaulters were simply doing what they had always wanted to do back in Russia. I will look into these claims.

Guy at my old worksite is of Turkish-Cypriot extraction. Back on the island and mainland- have Turks & Cypriots also been committing more SA? Again I'll check the data.

It's notable also that you're saying these men come from countries where rape is punished severely, so they're committing assaults here because they see it as softer, not because they think it's not a crime (as pps suggested re Muslim migrants potentially

Re English women being seen as sexually immoral, I think that is a belief in various places. I've heard about some in some Italian areas believing that for one, as you say it' probably a hangover from ladette culture era.

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