AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

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I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

The dress you posted isn’t formal. And whilst your dress may have “lots of colour including pastel” the dress you posted does not.

If the dress code is pastel, I’d pick a pastel dress / a dress with (primarily) pastel colours.

I think views like this are sadly in the minority. All these bridezillas talking about colour ratios, whose weddings would be ruined by some flowers on the white background of someone’s dress. They don’t understand what marriage and weddings are about!

Because that is what flower girls wear, just get her a normal dress from Next or similar.

Yours looks fine, if patterned like the pic so not really white.

The invite said that any colour is ok. DM told me she had suggested pastel on the invite because people had asked her if that was allowed and if there was a theme for the bridesmaids, which there isn’t

For your DD I'd choose something like

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9047946895-monsoon-girls-floral-yellow-dress?referrer=catalog

or https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/8829792781-beautiful-ted-baker-girls-dress?referrer=catalog (bit pink)?

orhttps://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9057978095-nanos-floral-occasion-dress-teal-green-size-4-years

basically anything which doesn't say "wedding" in the description.

Oh well maybe she was just trying to be helpful.

What is that longer little blue dress for DD like op? Are there more photos?

I think that is a play dress. And as for the worn once! Again we have the vinted crumple!

There is one more photo:

Agree, much prefer this one. https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9057978095-nanos-floral-occasion-dress-teal-green-size-4-years

There are so many dresses out there for wee girls without shiny satin and bows/rose embellishment.

I presumed the OP dress (or a dress similar to the OP dress but apparently different pattern and different colours) was something you already had and wanted to rewear.
But if you bought it specially from vinted I don't understand why you didn't get something more suitable, if you're asking if it's ok or too white you must know it might not be, so it's not going to be very good for other weddings either. And I agree with PPs, if the wedding dress code is formal you should get something formal instead, not a dress you'd wear for a pub garden on a nice day.

Oh I think that is a satiny fabric too maybe. I thought it was perhaps a linen ramie type fabric with a subtle sheen.

But at four she will be getting a bit of height and I think a long fluid dress would look quite pretty.

Honestly no! A pretty dress as others have posted would be perfect, a bridesmaid style dress not.

Are you upset your dd isn't a flower girl/bridesmaid? You seem absolutely determined to dress her as one regardless of posters linking lovely dresses.

No, this is the type of dress DD said she wanted, a shiny one

But shiny dresses aren't appropriate and she is 4 so doesn't get to dictate.

That’s a bridesmaid dress.

Then you need to take charge and say no.

She's 4. You decide what is appropriate for her to wear to a wedding and a bridesmaid style dress is not it.

To be clear, he has five nieces, plus a much younger sister. I have one niece, and five young female cousins are who all angling for a position in the bridal party also. It would have been absolutely insane to include all of them, and unfair to include some and not others, and there is no reason the BRIDAL party needs to come from the groom’s side - especially when some of the groom’s side were absolute bullies to us, and in particular me. They made our lives hell and no longer a part of them. That is why I drew the line at my one niece being a flower girl, rather than having 12 of them. So no, it wasn’t “a bit unkind”, and I suggest you answer the OP’s question instead of trying to slate me about this.

A 4 year old can wear a shiny dress with a big skirt to a wedding and it's really fine. She's 4! She knows there's a big party happening and wants to wear a big party dress.

The handwringing over a child wanting to wear a fancy twirly dress is ludicrous.

Well I think a sheen could be fine if it was a little A-line shift dress or similar.

A friend of mine had similar but red flowers and ran it by grooms mother who was horrified and also said wearing red is deemed unsuitable for a wedding!! What is that about.
Definitely check before wearing it as I’m sure some brides are not strict.

Yes I think the op can still find something the DD loves.

Would she like the sequins on that long Monsoon one OP?

I think red is again the whole look at me thing.

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su867089/y09806

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su767388/w64430

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su964779/w17180

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su942939/w06204

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su852037/v00493

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su834803/w99906

Etc etc

It was fun looking - my daughter is 13 so it's just being grumpy and wearing black in our house now. I miss the cute dress phase!