AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

[brillfrill]

I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

No, those aren't appropriate, especially the one for your daughter. She shouldn't be dressed in all white. Don't do that to her. She's 4, she doesn't get to pick, you have to choose an appropriate dress for her.

The invitation specified formal and pastel
The one you've picked is neither. Go by what the invitation says.

Are you unhappy with who your bro is marrying? Because that's what it's coming off like.

Never Fully Dressed (loads on Vinted) is my go to for wedding outfits, plenty of colour, no need for any white. I second Monsoon for girl’s dresses, plenty out there that aren’t bridesmaidy.

I’m Irish and we really dress up for weddings, the original dress is perfectly nice but not formal enough, imo.

It means you are a "scarlet woman " apparently. I had red bridesmaid dresses 30+ years ago and my late mil needed a lie down 😂

What is it with women on MN and their compulsion to wear white or near white to other people's weddings?

Yes apparently you’ve slept with the groom. Who makes up this rubbish??? Jesus!🙄

Tbf I think it's selection bias. People post because they (or someone else) has had second thoughts about their outfit. I wouldn't post a wedding outfit on here for approval because I would simply choose a suitable one in the first place.

Because it's a very common style to have a pale background with a floral pattern on a summer dress which is traditional wedding attire and normal people don't get all het up about traditional wedding attire being inappropriate.

All of these dresses are cute and imo great for a little girl for a wedding without it looking like you are trying to insert her into the wedding party.

I also wanted to say i don't understand the bridezilla comments they have a colour/theme for their wedding, it is no different from "black tie" or whatever nobody seems to call that bridezilla but add a bit of floral or pastel on the invite and it is the bride has lost her mind !

Oh I would apply the same annoyance at being told to wear black tie as I would to wearing a specific colour.

Tbf, I wasn't at all bothered by what people might wear to our wonderful shoestring budget, DIY, informal wedding many years ago... But still, no one did wear white. And I definitely wouldn't wear something more than 25% white to a wedding myself. I just think as there are so many other colours to wear, it's easier to just avoid it altogether in case the bride is bothered by it.

I have no idea! I haven't heard red mentioned like that for years it just reminded me of Mil and her attack of the Vapours 😀

They don’t have a colour/theme for the wedding though

It's not even "that" white to become a problem, absolutely wear it!

It was a friend of mine who questioned it tbh, she send this emoji as a reaction: 😶

But they almost always argue back and defend the percentage of white - "it's just a white background!", "there are sprigs of flowers!", "it's not the least bit bridal, just floorlength..." "I've never heard of this no white rule before," on and on.

The ones your previously posted are bridesmaid type dresses how about this
www.joules.com/style/su823688/w94980

I agree with this.
Despite all the advice and links to more suitable, less formal dresses, you still only seem to be considering satin, structured, pooffy bridesmaid type dresses, as close to white as possible.

All of which are perfectly sensible viewpoints.

Isn't that just an every day play dress?

ETA deleted suggestion! Was clearly not shiny when i posted the big pic!

She was right to. It's both too white and too informal. Can you return it?

But this a wedding, OP, not a Disney Princess dressup party.

Just saw she doesn't like pink - I think I was thinking of my own daughter at 4

Could do something plain coloured too -

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su812239/w64284

next.co.uk/style/su851924/y07334#y07334

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su948936/g16407

https://www.next.co.uk/style/sv072946/y55065

I think it’s a lovely dress and definitely formal enough and coloured enough. The which dress for dd is a maddening issue mostly brought up by people trying to create drama where there isn’t. Most little girls party dresses also could be flower girl dresses because that’s what little girls wear to parties. Get her what she wants and ignore the idiots.

Yes, I think there is truth in this.

I looked again at the ones you posted op, and I think the little white one with flowers could look ok if you both like that. Yes, it is white, but such a very strong pattern would be unusual for a flower girl dress.

ETA some of the posted suggestions are more what I would put a little girl in to go to nursery, and I think it is perfectly acceptable for her to have a special dress. I'd still avoid all white and long and puffy.

My sister threw a strop that I suggested DD, who was a flower girl at her wedding, wore a white dress with a sash. Only she was allowed to wear white. And that included white backgrounds on flowery dresses.
Only you know if the Bride is likely to be crazy.