AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

[brillfrill]

I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

You’ll be fine in a flowery dress. I wouldn’t dress your daughter in white - it will give ‘stealth flower girl’!

They are all very bridesmaid looking because they are probably bridesmaid/flower girl dresses! Satin, pouffy, a couple of them look actually white. Maybe the second to last at a push, but for what you’ll pay including postage, I think the discounted monsoon ones were far more suitable for a 4yo guest at a wedding. Or the one further upthread, can’t remember the brand now but it was a-line with flower appliqué on it and came in a couple of colours.

Would a bow be ok instead of a flower?

That's absolutely fine.

The top two are bridesmaid-y the bottom three are ok

Yanbu for the dress, the contrast pattern means it's not remotely bridal. Yabu for dressing a toddler in white, recipe for disaster and won't be white for more than 2 mins haha

Oh I only said “without the flower” to make it clear which pale blue dress I liked. I don’t think there’s any issue with a flowery dress in general.

Nope. Don’t wear white to a wedding unless explicitly told to by the bride.

Satin dresses for a little girl do look quite bridesmaid. I always liked Monsoon party dresses for my DDs for summer weddings. This sort of thing https://www.monsoon.co.uk/khia-floral-broderie-party-dress-multi-55801630020.html

They are all satin, mostly 1 colour and quite flower girl type

I would go for something patterned in an easy to wear fabric for dd

The dress you posted for you looks ok, but I wouldn’t class it as formal wedding clothes - which is what the invitation states. Maybe the one you have is less casual but hard to say without seeing!

Or this
https://www.monsoon.co.uk/lemon-rose-print-party-dress-multi-55801500020.html

It’s also NOT the dress she will be wearing!

But any dress that your daughter enjoys wearing. And bear in mind at that age it might be helpful to have a back up outfit in case of mishaps. One of the youngest guests at my wedding ended up changing clothes several times due to various spillages / tumbles etc 😂

No, but she's posted it as a representation of the one she IS wearing. Unless the one she's wearing is a wedding dress, it's fine.

Yes, I thought the blue without the flower might be ok too OP (Not the blue one with the flower but the flower removed.) Is that longer one a more lineny fabric?

It might look quite nice with a hairband with a small bow and sandals. That, I think, is in line with how her mum will be dressing.

I have to be honest and say (and I expect the full weight on MN to come crashing down one me) I sometimes feel that, especially for children, vinted just ends up providing crumpled second-hand things that have once been ridiculously very expensive but have knocked about in a closet and are now being flogged for the same price as a decent new little dress.

They are bridesmaids dresses that’s why! Clearly!

Hi Op - I’d be looking at something like these for your DD - there’s lots similar on Vinted 🙂

https://www.johnlewis.com/monsoon-kids-floral-frill-tulle-dress-green/p114591482

https://www.johnlewis.com/monsoon-kids-anastasia-embellished-tulle-party-dress-blue/p113676091

https://www.johnlewis.com/monsoon-kids-ingrid-tiered-sequin-flower-dress-blue/p115026684

The Monsoon dresses above are all so pretty, perfect for a wedding and age appropriate.
Far better than the white or close to white pooffed out satin ones, with flounces and bows.

It's lovely OP. Imo

Yes, all the Monsoon dresses that have been linked are gorgeous, and very appropriate in look.

ETA: Whoops, I meant to reply to @BCSurvivor

To be fair to her we all said any colour but white.

But I agree, full-skirted in satin is still flower-girly.

Another vote for monsoon, my DD went to a wedding last year age 4 and the possibilities on vinted were endless, I ended up buying around 4 dresses, monsoon do lovely semi-formal dresses for little girls that don't look like bridesmaids dresses.

Stay away from puffy satin.

The third one you’ve linked to here is beautiful, pastel, not flower girl style, and very age/wedding guest appropriate!

I think the dress is fine. But if they’ve actually put something on the invitation about what they want people to wear I’d think they might be “fussy” and I’d resign myself to buying something that falls into their parameters. I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where someone has stipulated the colours guests can wear.

Agreed. And in fairness to the op, while I do get the feeling she and DM are trying to ambush with a flower girl dress, I also sense the bride might be quite Bridezilla-y. No flower girl, pastels please.

GMs look forward to having their little GDs as flower girls. I don't know how many DGC she has, but it seems a pity,