AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

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I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

What about some of these for your daughter?

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/8659225951-next-girls-dress

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/7789719591-next-girls-dress

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/8898914887-next-girls-floral-party-dress-size-4-years

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/9014858071-girls-sage-green-floral-occasion-dress-with-oversized-bow-next

Or these

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/8732061730-gorgeous-girls-party-dress-with-bow

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/6440947169-monsoon-teal-special-occasion-dress

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/7552337365-party-festive-girls-dress

https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/8951274980-navy-formal-occasion-dress-bow-detail-size-110cm-4-5years

Completely agree! Although it’s not bridal at all, there are so many other colours just wear one of them. Unless the vast majority is floral or patterned with a white background, sometimes in photos it isn’t clear.
If your daughter isn’t a flower girl I wouldn’t put her in all white either because then it’s like she’s part of the wedding party.
Can just ask the bride maybe? Although she will have enough on her plate so if you need to ask the question just find another dress.

This is rage bait surely? These are still too white imo. Wear literally any other colour!

Nope, just more examples of perfectly acceptable dresses to all but those who are actively looking to be offended.

I’m one who would fully avoid white. I think white stands out in group shots, even if it has a pattern over it. I definitely wouldn’t dress DD in white unless she’s been asked to.

Out of a million colours the only suitable dresses are mostly white?
I always 🙄 to this because I think the person who thinks this must be very hard work...

If you search on h and m’s website for “tulle skirt dress” there are quite a few that would be nice as a wedding guest dress for your dd

If I was the bride, I wouldn’t even consider that a “white” dress. As for the little, no-one will be offended. It’s a kid!!

What would Mumsnet have said about some of these I wonder?

Lovely dress! I still think it’s batshit to put DD in a white (or white appearing as with the very pale blue or pink) dress if she is not a flower girl…. This is cute if you can find similar? https://www.next.co.uk/style/su748393/h85306?gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=7971580444&gbraid=0AAAAADm_5UUZy3LJfEZ4VHa-S3Nd2MSQ5

Or this! https://www.next.co.uk/style/su859997/h90323?gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=8000299803&gbraid=0AAAAADm_5UWVwvxfSrO6U_SQtyj2SABbF

That all the little girls in white were probably asked to be flower girls or bridesmaids?

🤣🤣

How about the two women in white dresses? (Princess Anne and another guest)

To be fair, the royal family aren’t exactly the benchmark of “well-adjusted behaviour” plus it’s no secret Diana wasn’t liked.

And in my opinion, it does ruin the photo somewhat, as despite the dresses having other colours, they stand out more than the bride!

As far as I'm aware though (correct me if I'm wrong) it wasn't seen as a faux pas or a slight at the time, and I can't find any comment/criticism of it in contemporary reports, so I assume it wasn't considered a big deal?

At Harry & Meghan's wedding there were at least two guests wearing white floral print dresses too. I've never seen as much fuss about it in real life as I have on MN.

This guy covers it all very thoroughly. Has some good guidelines. For example:

"If you're considering a patterned dress with white elements, apply the visual 50 percent test: if more than half the visible fabric appears white, choose something else. A navy dress with small white polka dots is fine. A white dress with navy trim is not."

Can You Wear White to a Wedding? The Definitive Rule | Wedding Guide Anatole

Ludicrously overly complicated "rules" one guy has come up with and apparently convinced at least one person he is some kind of authority. Funny enough I would take a punt on it being parody.

I agree. Also this guy declares a strict "no more than 50% white" rule and mentions Debrett's, but all I can find from Debrett's is "Women should avoid head-to-toe outfits in white or cream" which is very different.

Agree! They really draw the eye away from the centre of the photo, and the bride and groom.

I have to put my hands up and agree with this actually.

Good pic to illustrate something I was struggling to see. I still think my dress was not as extreme as their outfits but if there’s a group photo I really don’t want to be that person.

My eyes went first to "Zara" and I then wondered how she was so old at Diana's wedding! Family likeness!

But yes, the white distracts from the bridal group.

I don't see it all but the important thing is you wear something you are comfortable in.

I still think it's a shame that women are being told to second guess completely normal choices and made to feel their very standard dress choices imply a desire to make some kind of point. It just promotes the bridezilla over the normal bride in a very tedious way.