AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

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I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

OP's dress is much nicer (though I'm not sure about mother and daughter white + white combo). The first one is extremely tight/'look at me') and the second one few figure types can carry off.

I think it's a gorgeous dress, whilst appreciating it's not your actual dress.

Two suggestions, as others have said:

1. keep your daughter out of white because it's a bit flower girl like
2. run your choice past your brother. He'll likely say it's fine/why are you even asking - but it will put your mind at rest.

@StartingToday010626 thanks for that. Another site for me to spend money on 😬😂
some beautiful dresses.

This "no white" rule some of you cite is barking mad. It originally derived from not upstaging the bride by wearing a long white gown, but has morphed into any item of clothing with any white on at all being a harbinger of doom. We aren't in China, colours have little significance (apart from MoG dressed head to toe in black....)
And who cares what a tiny girl is wearing?
"Is she a flower girl?"
"No, she just loves this dress"
"Oh right, fair enough"

I’ve found some other dresses that i’d like your thoughts on please

Id be more concerned of a toddler getting a white dress dirty tbh

Why do they have to be white. A million other colours you can choose and you want white with print. Just wear what you want be don't come back asking why the bride was cold to you

I think they are both nice Op. I think if you have nice shoes, nice (but plain) jewellery and your hair is well done they could both be very nice. They are both sufficiently patterned imo.

I prefer the roses of the two. Personally I don’t really like the shirred waist on the butterfly one. If you feel great in either one, feel you can accessorise well, move, dance, enjoy the day etc etc, then go for it.

I think that's a body type thing in all honesty. It will suit some people better than others. But I agree the roses are rather romantic for a wedding.

I don't think anyone could look at either of those and say you looked like you were trying to be the bride or that you hadn't made an effort OP.

She’s clearly doing it on purpose now

I just think it makes the pattern pop out more when it’s on a white background

Don’t think it looks remotely bridal

Unfair and unsubstantiated comment, i’ve already put lots of effort into looking into other dresses both for me and for my DD

Fucking hell.
you’re just being obtuse now, OP.

Yet you can't find ANY other colour apart from white. With all the colours there are in the rainbow?

Try harder

Its not a white dress though, it's a dress that includes some white. I don't see the issue. Many summer dresses include white or cream and it's not unusual for people to wear them for a summer wedding.

Chiffon dresses look cheap. I’d steer clear of this material for a wedding.

Why are you only considering white dresses?! Literally just search for any other colour than white.

It’s pretty widely accepted that you don’t wear white to a wedding. To do so implies that you don’t care enough about the brides feelings to wear a different colour or you actively want to upset her.

The only reasonable excuse would be if you were struggling to afford a new dress and had limited options. However the fact that you have found different potential dresses suggests this isn’t the case - yet they are still white…..

Lovely dress. I don’t think it’s inappropriate for a non bridesmaid.

Well to be honest the dress will have to be quite cheap… so it’s unavoidable. I can’t spend a fortune on this, it’s not my wedding so I’m getting everything second hand. Don’t think anybody in my family except for the groom is buying anything new clothes wise so I’m already going above and beyond

They aren't.

This is also how I see it

neither for a wedding
try filtering exclude white
if you can't afford to buy new try renting

You can still avoid chiffon when buying second hand. Just because you want to keep costs down, doesn’t mean your dress has to look cheap.