AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

[brillfrill]

I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

What is the colour theme? Dont wear that colour.

You're the one who brought your problem here of what to wear to the wedding. Own it. I know what to wear to weddings, so not my problem.

There is no colour theme

i don’t get it either. It’s really not hard to wear a different colour

Completely agree! Some MNers can be really ridiculous about this so-called rule.

I think there is a big difference between owning that I don’t know a lot about weddings and wedding rules and saying I don’t like that my brother is having a wedding!!!

The pink dress with floral skirt you have pictured looks lovely for your daughter, not flowergirl at all.

Always ask the bride if it's white or near white. Only the bride knows if she will be offended or not as wearing white to a wedding is an unwritten no no. Some don't mind at all and it isn't a huge swathe of white but you never know. I personally wouldn't have minded but not everyone is me and others could be upset with anything white even as broken up as it is.

It’s fine … not really white, has plenty of colour. Likely most people will be in a lighter colour for an August wedding, add some coloured accessories.

Meow … think that’s personal taste!

Speak for yourself. Not all of us are getting that vibe.

Lilac?

Nothing. People are being extremely weird on here. Small girls at weddings generally wear a small girl's idea of a party dress. The majority of these also look like 'flower girl' dresses, because the brief is identical. It would only be awkward if she carried a bouquet or a basket of petals - which she won't be, presumably.

I think 'wedding formal' is intended to mean something like a TV presenter (not children's or outdoor programming!) Possibly more fitted than the item in your OP, but much depends on the fabric and how it fits on your body.

If the bride's young and lives on Instagram, she may mean evening dress - even then, I sure as hell wouldn't suggest a skin-tight gown with a huge, bold motif: that genuinely is trying to steal the limelight. Since we're Brits not Americans, it's always safer to dress a little down when unsure.

It’s isn’t white , it’s a multi coloured print.
Summer dresses with a print almost always have a pale background colour. This is getting silly now. No white means nothing that looks like a wedding dress, it doesn’t mean that you can’t wear a pale floral, or white trousers, or (in my MiL’s case) a cream suit .
So no long white dresses, and no all black outfits, anything else is fine !

Something like this for your little girl
www.next.co.uk/style/su753445/w56055

OP: DD doesn't like pink or red.
PPs: Put her in this pink dress.
🙄

No it hasn't. Not the pearl clutching about even a hint of white. Wearing all white, yes. Wearing a bridal style dress, yes. Fainting over a hint of white or off white in the background of a patterned dress is very much a MN modern phenomenon.

Lovely! I don’t think you’ll be mistaken for the bride. Relax and enjoy the day

When I got married, I had a colour theme and my sisters were bridesmaids. I didn't have flowergirls but there were nieces, nephews, friend's children in attendance. Personally I would not care a jot what the kids wore. As it turns out, two girls under 10 wore white dresses. I was perfectly happy about it. My SIL also wore a white dress, shift type dress. I wasn't asked but I had no problems with it. I did get asked about it by another guest. I think double checking with the bride would be a good idea. Just let her know you are fine if she says no but these were the dresses you were thinking of. I was much more focused on wanting everyone to have a good day than what anyone was wearing.

Loubissous says it better than me!

Agreed. It was Queen Victoria's era that it started and she's pretty long in the tooth these days.

That's true. The problem here, though, is op has said this is "representative" of the ratio of white.

It doesn't look bridal in style though, so I think she's fine.

I don’t understand why this would have anything to do with it? We all love my brother so obviously we’re not trying to do anything untoward

Given you like your family, I don't understand why you would potentially risk upsetting you future SIL by wearing what many consider to be a controversial option for a dress to the wedding. If there is a chance the bride wouldn't like it, I wouldn't risk it.

If you don't think she would have an issue with it, why not check with her in advance? Then you can know for sure if shes ok, and wear it with confidence, or have plenty of time to find another option. Completely appreciate, around half of respondents here have said its fine, but is that a 50/50 chance of upsetting her? Not a risk I would take on a close family members wedding.

I personally wouldn't have had an issue with a dress like that at my wedding, but also wouldn't choose one to wear at someone elses. I would stay well away from white as a base colour. As you aren't trying to do anything untoward, just ask and be sure it isn't a problem?

I am such a dinosaur that I would say Victoria started it, and then only those of wealth could afford white considering the difficulties of laundering. It reqlly only appears to be post second world war that white wedding dresses became standard for the masses.

I got married in gold.