AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

[brillfrill]

I plan to wear a white dress with a nature print on it for my brother’s wedding in August. Picked it out with DM, she thinks it’s definitely fine. The thing is my toddler DD will also be wearing a white. Do you think anyone would take offence? I’ve added a picture of a similar dress on this thread because I don’t want the actual one on here if I wear it.

Wondering what you think?

That really is madness! Flower girls are most often white I would say.

What is it with women on MN and their compulsion to wear white or near white to other people's weddings?

What is it with wedding guests making perfectly normal style choices for summer weddings?

As long as people aren't trying to look like a bridesmaid or a bride, cause confusion or outshine the bride it isn't a problem. End of story.

Does she like blue?
This is from Next.

Absolutely fine. And very lovely

I really don't mean this in a rude way, but have you been to many weddings?

These dresses all look 'bridesmaidy' because of the fabric, style and colours.

It WILL look like she's a bridesmaid wannabe.

Not since DD was born and tbh I never paid much attention to what children wore back then

Personally I would not risk wear anything white to a wedding. You don’t know how the bride would feel. There’s plenty of other colours to choose from

I think your dress is ok but perhaps a little informal if they've asked for "formal wedding clothes".
None of the dresses you have shown are suitable for your daughter because they look bridesmaidy/flower girl.
You should choose a dress for her to match the colour of a colour accent in your dress.

I agree with this and all the other posters saying it’s not a particularly nice dress. I’d be dressing up a bit more for my brother’s wedding. The ones someone linked upthread are much nicer for a wedding.

I'd buy a bright orange shrug to wear over that dress during the service, and an orange hair accessory - that would cement that you are wearing orange rather than white to most people and then you can take the shrug off later if you get hot. As this is only an example dress, obviously you'd need to change "orange" to whatever your actual dress uses.
I don't think a sleeveless dress is formal enough for a 'formal' wedding service, however, that is quite a smart everyday dress rather than a formal one - and if it is in a church then generally you'd want your shoulders covered for the service anyway.

Are you unhappy that your brother's getting married @brillfrill ?

@bigboykitty
What a stupid question!! What’s the point of commenting if you’re just going to be rude?!?!

Yes, whatever about OP’s slightly too-casual dress, that child is clearly being done up to be taken for a flower girl in the wedding photos.

The dress really isn't all that inappropriate as to infer she is unhappy. It is chiffon.

To be honest I think her dress (well what I imagine it to be in the actual colourway) is more appropriate than some of the floor length things suggested for a day time wedding.

And while I don't think she should dress her DD in a fully white/ivory flower girl style dress, the truth is, as another pp said, little girls' formal dresses ARE flower-girly. Some of the suggested dresses posted are just little cotton play dresses suitable for the park or nursery, and I can see why OP wants something special - far from her not being happy about her brother's wedding.

Might be missing something here but what is the point of asking about a dress you plan to wear if there is no picture of that dress, and instead a picture of another only vaguely similar dress that apparently does not even share a similar pattern or colouring. What a run around the houses. Either show it or don't OP or it's as good as pointless, nobody can tell you if it's formal enough or the colour and pattern are acceptable.

All the children's dresses in the images obviously look like they would be part of the bridal party, and most look quite used so unless the child is in the bridal party then they are all a no.

OP, show the actual dress or ask the bride and groom themselves if your choices are ok, this is the only way to get a reliable and accurate answer. I don't think it's anywhere as near as hard as you're making it - you could just go on the NEXT website, type in girls dresses and find dozens of nice and usable options in appropriate styles and colours.

Agree with this. Always baffles me when you can just wear literally any other colour!

I do think your daughters dress choices look like bridesmaids dresses.

Something a llittle dressier perhaps, depending on the vibe of the wedding and general outlook of DB and fiance. You haven't said what other colour your dress has with the white - is it actually much paler than the orange shown? I can't understand why you would want to wear something that would even raise dress colour as an issue. In general, if you have to ask .. its a no. And a definite No for your DD's dress. Its a bit odd to say the least to plan for her to possibly look like a flower girl.

Nothing clearly about it. She's 4. She has ideas of what she wants to wear to a big party (which is all a wedding is to a 4 year old) and there's really nothing either wrong with that or anything in it that suggests any nefarious purpose.

Personally I wouldn't wear that or have my girl wear white. She wore white when she was actually a flower girl and the dress was chosen by my sil. The dress you've chosen doesn't give wedding guest vibes, especially if it's for your brother

I don't read that as a white dress at all but don't dress your daughter in white

I think that dress looks lovely for your dd, @brillfrill. You could put a coloured sash round it with wide ribbon , if you wanted to. And a dress similar to the picture in your OP looks perfect for a wedding guest too.

You didn't answer the question though.

It's not a stupid question at all when your choices don't match what's specified in the invite. It looks like you're using your child's dress and yours to make some kind of point and it's not a pleasant one.

A print on a white background is fine. I wore a dress like that but with lillac flowers to a wedding and had a short sleeved lilac jacket, lilack shoes and bag. It looked great.

A toddler wearing white is quite normal for a wedding.

I didn’t answer the question because it is a stupid question!

What kind of point am I trying to make in your fantasy world?