AIBU to think a younger partner could genuinely find Justin Fletcher attractive?

[LittleRobins]

Justin Fletcher (AKA Mr Tumble) has been in the news recently as the media have discovered he is with his co-star who is 21 years younger than him. I say good for them both and I hope they are happy.

There are so many comments however about her only being with him because of his money. I realise for certain people this would be an attractive prospect but I don’t understand why it’s so hard to believe a younger woman would find him attractive? I’m a similar age to her and if I was single I would date him, regardless of his money. I think he seems like a genuinely lovely, talented, hard-working man who is great with children and has done a lot for kids with special needs. That would be attractive to a lot of people. If I was with him I’d be happy to live in a small house and for him to leave his money to a children’s charity if he so wished.

So AIBU and naive to think there are others out there with a similar mindset to myself? I recognise there are gold-diggers out there but in this case I think Justin has a lot going for him even without his bank balance?

I’m not trying to be unkind - I just have reservations about age gaps large enough for one partner to be the other’s parent.

If my daughter, who’s in her early thirties, brought home a 55-year-old man, I’d be uncomfortable with it. And I suspect many of the people praising this relationship would feel the same way if it were their own child

The thing is, your discomfort is irrelevant. Two grown adults, who met as grown adults, choosing to have a consensual romantic relationship aren't doing anything wrong.

@PoppyGalore1

Who is 'praising ' the relationship.

I think people are merely pointing out that there is nothing wrong with this relationship between two consenting adults.
I probably wouldn't want a relationship with someone so much older, but that's my personal preference, not because I think there is something inherently wrong in it.

Has being Mr Tumble made him rock star rich

But you didn't leave it at that, did you? You tried to make a link with his role with young children which is completely unjustified and nasty.

People spend a lot of time at work which is why workplace relationships / affairs / friendships form because of constantly being in vicinity of each other and then forming connections. It is entirely possible that they fell for each other organically because of the environment they were in, when in the outside world they probably wouldn’t be looking for that criteria in people (age range etc)

Exactly. My largest gap is 15 years, I couldn't imagine adding another decade in age gap for ME but I dint have to date men in their 60s. Anyone able to consent to a sexual relationship is free to do so.

So what has that got to do with his day job?

I'm quite dismayed by all the comments that refer to Justin Fletcher as an unattractive tubby man and implying that a younger woman couldn't be involved with him except for his money. It's disappointing that women feel this way after the way that women have been 'judged' for their looks for countless years. My late husband was thirteen years older than me and we were together for thirty six years before his death in 2012. I was definitely not his 'type'! He was tall, dark and very handsome and I was short, tubby and very average looking. But we adored each other and the looks and our age difference weren't ever an issue. In fact, if ever I was feeling a bit low about myself he'd always say that I was "bloody gorgeous!"! (I really wasn't!!) We were soul mates - end of. And may I just add that I'm a recent convert to Justin and Mr Tumble. As I have tinnitus I have to put the TV on when I go to bed and find that children's TV programmes are a great way to send me to sleep in a nice, happy state. When I discovered 'Something Special' I was bowled over by Justin's wonderful way with the children that he meets. Then, to see him morph into Mr Tumble...well, I find it quite remarkable that they are the same person! And, yes, I'm a little bit in love with them both...warm, funny, multi talented, kind and reassuringly 'old fashioned'....who cares if he's a bit tubby?!