AIBU to think a younger partner could genuinely find Justin Fletcher attractive?

[LittleRobins]

Justin Fletcher (AKA Mr Tumble) has been in the news recently as the media have discovered he is with his co-star who is 21 years younger than him. I say good for them both and I hope they are happy.

There are so many comments however about her only being with him because of his money. I realise for certain people this would be an attractive prospect but I don’t understand why it’s so hard to believe a younger woman would find him attractive? I’m a similar age to her and if I was single I would date him, regardless of his money. I think he seems like a genuinely lovely, talented, hard-working man who is great with children and has done a lot for kids with special needs. That would be attractive to a lot of people. If I was with him I’d be happy to live in a small house and for him to leave his money to a children’s charity if he so wished.

So AIBU and naive to think there are others out there with a similar mindset to myself? I recognise there are gold-diggers out there but in this case I think Justin has a lot going for him even without his bank balance?

Debbie McGee got a terrible amount of stick at the time. I recently started watching some of the old Louis Theroux documentaries and he did one on Paul Daniels and Debbie. You can see they were a really quirky, fun loving couple who were as nutty as each other.

I still think 21 years is too big an age gap for any couple really. When she’s his age now he’ll be an old man.

You say that as if being Mr Tumble is in any way sexually appealing.

They like each other, can people just deal with it please. I think he’s great. I watched him on TV and now my kids do too. Happy he’s found someone.

Takes all sorts doesn’t it really? He gives me the absolute creeps, but I don’t consider my own to be the only right and correct opinion on him! Bit like me fancying Danny dyer, my ma thinks I’m off my rocker but so it is and so it goes.

Totally agree.

I don’t know what he’d have in common with someone 20 + year younger…

I’ve heard mixed things. Some say he’s super nice - others say he wasn’t interested in their kids and wasn’t friendly.

I imagine it gets pretty tiresome shopping in Waitrose and parents saying to their snotty one-year-old, “look it’s Mr Tumble let’s say hello” every single day.

Why does that matter? My friend's husband is dying from stomach cancer at 45. Nobody is guaranteed to enter old age with their partner alive or in good health regardless of age.

Yes, I remember this too. I feel like someone on that thread had actually slept with him as well!

I remember that. I had no real opinion about either of them beforehand but think they came over well and as genuine.

Musing on it, I'm sure people who work closely/in partnership in entertainment or any other field see each other at their best and worst for long periods daily, so if they finally do get together, there's the solid foundation of actually knowing that.

I don't think it's remotely unusual or suspicious for two people who work very closely together in a specialist, more or less unique business and spend a ton of time together to end up dating. They've probably got absolutely loads in common and will have got to know each other really well by working and travelling together for a long time. They're not Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall, ffs.

Also - even if she actually was only with him for his money - which I doubt is the case - what's to say they couldn't be happy together anyway? And more to the point, what the hell has that got to do with anyone else? They're a pair of complete strangers and whatever their relationship is built on is nobody else's business.

They work in the same industry.
So they have that in common 🤷

Same, I’m so surprised at this thread.

Not sure why its had so much attention. Age gap relationships aren't new. Good luck to them.

I'm sure his bank account is sexy as fuck 🤣

I read they bonded over a love of musical theatre.
He's not my type at all but he's a grafter and i admire that - i saw him being interviewed on a chat show a few years ago and was struck by how much he appreciates and enjoys the career he has, and works hard at it. He came across as pretty low key and affable. And as someone with an autistic child i appreciate how much he's done to expand mainstream children's entertainment for those with special needs. So if he's finally found his 'better half' I hope they're very happy together.

They both work as actors in children’s tv. I would imagine they have more in common with each other than they would with someone who has a 9-5 office job who was in the same school year.

One of my best friends husbands is an actor who worked with Justin Fletcher in a pantomime several years ago. We went to meet him backstage before the panto, I thought he was lovely, great with the kids, very charming. My friend has always said he was one of the nicest,most genuine actors he's worked with.

Mr Tumble is a character, not the man.

Idk maybe he has mad game, some men who are less conventionally attractive home their craft and can spit immaculate game…

I genuinely thought he was gay.

He seems like a lovely man, we enjoy watching him. As for the age gap, I do think it's a lot. My parents have a 10 year age gap and they have always been at different stages in life, so a 21 year age gap seems to be too big. Having said that, it's their life, as long as they are happy then good on them x

When I was 19y0 I was dating a 40yo who wasn’t famous, didn’t have money and was overweight and not overly good looking. But he had a wicked sense of humour and was great in bed. I was head over heels in love. I’ve always had a thing about older men. 🤷‍♀️. I’m not a gold digger. I can happily believe she loves Justin for who he is.

My first husband was 23 years older than me. The failure of our relationship had nothing whatsoever to do with age and everything to do with the fact his ex had cheated on him and as a result he was wildly insecure although that didnt come out until after we got married. So on the surface I don't think the age gap is that much of an issue. I was 30 and he was 53 when we married. We had been together for 5 years when we got married.

The marriage ended because his insecurities become violent and it breached my line in the sand. Nothing to do with the age gap.

It may work out, it may not. But good luck to them.

The only thing that’s shocked me is it’s a woman.

I thought he was gay?! I thought he was previously with the man who plays Little Cook.

My best friend is 20+ years older than me. We have tons in common.

There is nothing most women young enough to be his daughter would find sexually appealing about this man, and even less so if he stacked shelves in a supermarket.

How do you know what other people do/don't find appealing?