AIBU to think a younger partner could genuinely find Justin Fletcher attractive?

[LittleRobins]

Justin Fletcher (AKA Mr Tumble) has been in the news recently as the media have discovered he is with his co-star who is 21 years younger than him. I say good for them both and I hope they are happy.

There are so many comments however about her only being with him because of his money. I realise for certain people this would be an attractive prospect but I don’t understand why it’s so hard to believe a younger woman would find him attractive? I’m a similar age to her and if I was single I would date him, regardless of his money. I think he seems like a genuinely lovely, talented, hard-working man who is great with children and has done a lot for kids with special needs. That would be attractive to a lot of people. If I was with him I’d be happy to live in a small house and for him to leave his money to a children’s charity if he so wished.

So AIBU and naive to think there are others out there with a similar mindset to myself? I recognise there are gold-diggers out there but in this case I think Justin has a lot going for him even without his bank balance?

I couldn't really say exactly.

But knowing your girlfriend wasn't feeding from her mother's breast and could independently wipe her own arse 3 years after you've left school/university, is a pretty decent marker for any man.

And of course you haven’t picked the one token more mature picture of her amidst all the ones where she does indeed look extremely young, including her own social posts. You wouldn’t possibly be that disingenuous now, would you….?

I hadn't seen Something Special for at least 10 years and then saw it about a month ago. I didn't know his martial status but I did think whilst watching it, he seems a lovely man and so kind.

I saw a programme on Eurovision recently and didn't realise his dad was a famous song writer/producer or similar, in the 1970s!

The outcry about two grown adults’ relationship due to age gaps gets very tedious. And often incredibly rude regarding the woman’s “ulterior motives” (when the man is older). My DH is 23 years older than me. We’ve been very happily together for years. I have the same amount of money as he does. We both own our own homes next door to each other. We are equals in every way. I’ve always found him incredibly attractive. And funny. Decent. Hard-working. The things I am as well.

Goid luck to them.

"Every pan has a lid"

I thought he was gay.
21 years is far too big a gap.
Even 10years is a lot but it can work.

But on their next birthdays, (56 and 35) they’d pass your random made up rule/law. Would the age gap suddenly be ok then? What, really, will have changed? I don’t get it.

As a child of parents with a 20 year age gap, it’s a no from me. It’s fine until one day it isn’t. And yes there will be those who say anything could happen, of course that’s true. Think of the children, don’t do it. (I also thought he was gay.)

A lot, if you work together

Google search her, it's the first ones that come up. Paranoid much

Why just a man? Aaron Taylor Johnson, now that one IS yuck.

Must only be me but I thought he was going to be the next Jimmy Saville. He makes my skin crawl.

There was a highly disturbing thread about ten years ago where somebody wrote another poster into a Mr Tumble erotic story. I don’t remember the details, but I do remember she spent a large amount of time describing Mr Tumble’s dick in detail and I needed brain bleach afterwards, so I’m not looking it up again.

If you find other men 20 plus years older not on TV, no money, just working at the local shop attractive then might be a point. How often do older men get girls 20 years younger when they have no good looks but because they have a great personality. It’s money!

I see your point, but, if we’re talking about it not being about looks etc, it’s rarely the man with a woman 21 years older… Anyway, good luck to them.

She doesn't "look like a teenager". God, puritans are weird.

My daughter is early 20s and grew up watching mr tumble. The idea of her turning him on but not on the tv gives me the right ick. It’s not the age gap, that gives me the ick.

To be fair, lots of couples get to together through the workplace or because they go to the same hobby - it’s what they have in common that starts the relationship as opposed to something purely physical.

I worked retail for about a decade in various different shops and we had loads of mismatched couples getting together.

I need a 🤢 button

Imagine the Tumble nose honk deployed at the wrong moment.

He first appeared on the TV in 2002 by that time his partner while younger than him would have been well beyond watching CBeebies. She has only known him I would imagine as a colleague. Senior as he owns his production company I think. But colleagues.

Of course, I’ve read many’a thread on here over the years with mums gushing over the guy. He’s charismatic, talented, seems kind and witty. I don’t know anything about the guy beyond his public persona but I bet I’m right about that. Some people genuinely see beyond looks, or a person naturally becomes more attractive through their personality.

I also don’t see an issue with the age gap whatsoever. It would be weird if she was early 20s but she’s in her 30s so she can definitely make her own mind up about this!

Untrue. I have a colleague who is getting married to a former PhD student. He didn’t supervise her but she was in our department. He’s in his early 50s and she’s my age- 33. They suit each other well. He certainly isn’t rich! He also isn’t conventionally attractive, she isn’t either tbf but they look good together.

Well lucky for you Mr Fletcher partner is a 34 year old woman he met through work and not some "early 20 something" 🤔

Yes, several men in my academic department are married to former postgrads of the department with that kind of age gap — and their academic salaries certainly aren’t the draw…

Isn’t Sean Penn currently dating someone 30 years younger than him?