AIBU to think a younger partner could genuinely find Justin Fletcher attractive?

[LittleRobins]

Justin Fletcher (AKA Mr Tumble) has been in the news recently as the media have discovered he is with his co-star who is 21 years younger than him. I say good for them both and I hope they are happy.

There are so many comments however about her only being with him because of his money. I realise for certain people this would be an attractive prospect but I don’t understand why it’s so hard to believe a younger woman would find him attractive? I’m a similar age to her and if I was single I would date him, regardless of his money. I think he seems like a genuinely lovely, talented, hard-working man who is great with children and has done a lot for kids with special needs. That would be attractive to a lot of people. If I was with him I’d be happy to live in a small house and for him to leave his money to a children’s charity if he so wished.

So AIBU and naive to think there are others out there with a similar mindset to myself? I recognise there are gold-diggers out there but in this case I think Justin has a lot going for him even without his bank balance?

If it's this Mr T, I can see that 😂

Not a real rule thank goodness. Mr tumble can sleep easy tonight phew

There was an 18th century British politician, name escapes me, who from all portraits was really, spectacularly not favoured with good looks by any yardstick possible, he made Justin Fletcher look like the young Robert Redford by comparison. He owned it. He was extremely, notedly successful with women. Asked how he did it, he apparently said " Give me 20 minutes and I can make any woman laugh enough to find me handsome" or close words to that effect.

You don’t speak for me. He might have a six pack under that waistcoat and be super funny.

Lots of women are still attracted to older men anyway, and in this case they’ve most likely connected on an emotional level given they work together.

If people with serious disfigurements and disabilities find love, I don’t know why anyone would be shocked at this.

It should be a real rule. It should be the law.

Why? Because you say so? 😂

On a literal discussion about their relationship, you think people should 'leave them be' because they disagree with you?

Blimey, weird sort of discussion forum that would be 🤦‍♀️

@Thiswasanescapeplan As soon as I wrote that I regretted it! Pal actually said to him, " stop being a dick,Justin" so it was definitely the rotund kiddies' TV presenter🤣

Haha sorry I just couldn't not. I understood you meant the tumble 😅

@Thiswasanescapeplan thanks for your humour, you've made me giggle🤣 I was also expecting a pile-on for criticising the little tinker(Justin).

I don’t know what her intentions are, but a 21 year old gap is creepy and I judge him for that.

I didn’t find him attractive when younger.

I met him. He is t an attractive personality imo

I was disappointed to find that their ‘glorious chickens’ are just chickens.

Surely it’s pheasants that are ‘glorious chickens’?

Re Debbie McGee - she had quite the life before meeting Paul Daniels. Her tale of fleeing Iran during the revolution was very dramatic.

I may yet get a MN pile on for my comment on page 1.

You never know which way the fickle fates of MN go on a thread!

What teenagers are you hanging out with? She really doesn't look that young

@SleepingStandingUp I think some on this thread must know some really strange looking teens if they think this 34 year old looks like one 😂

I think she means his money.

Thing is you see "mismatched" people in all walks of life. She's not exactly young, she's had plenty of time to find a hot man her own age, and if she has it hasn't lasted. So she's fell for the funny guy at work, that she's known for years, that makes her laugh. Hardly unknown.

Good luck to him! Many happy couples meet through work, wish him and his girlfriend every happiness.

So what's acceptable? Given she's in her 30s so not some naive young thing, expected to be a fully fledged adult, why is it creepy she wants to date a guy a few decades older?

She's an adult, literally nothing to see here.

I said it’s creepy he wants to shag someone 20 years younger, I just think it’s gross, I think about people 20 years younger than me and I couldn’t begin to look at them sexually, they’re so much less mature, less life experience. I think it’s quite selfish as well.

What's selfish about having a relationship with another grown, consenting adult?

Because the relationship is invariably doomed. They’re at different stages of life, he’s too old to be a dad (not that that’ll probably stop him), she will likely end up caring for him, being widowed young-ish. If it’s is it a fling it’s just gross, but if it’s aiming for more it’s selfish. I think if someone really loved someone, they wouldn’t want that person to be with someone decades older as they’d see the likely hurt down the line.

It's not "invariably doomed" at all.

Not everyone is interested in having children.
Not everyone ends up needing care.
People can die at any age - she could just as easily die before him.

Some people would rather have a short, loving relationship than not have one at all. It's not remotely selfish (or gross - how old are you - five?).

Sorry, but the maturity level between someone in their 30s and 50s is pretty much the same, subject more to life experiences and personality.

I'm 44 so someone 21 years younger than me hasn't got a fully developed prefrontal cortex and very little life experience, but someone 21 years older just have different experiences.

But again, what is your acceptable age gap? What age of woman is he allowed to want sex with?