AIBU to think a younger partner could genuinely find Justin Fletcher attractive?

[LittleRobins]

Justin Fletcher (AKA Mr Tumble) has been in the news recently as the media have discovered he is with his co-star who is 21 years younger than him. I say good for them both and I hope they are happy.

There are so many comments however about her only being with him because of his money. I realise for certain people this would be an attractive prospect but I don’t understand why it’s so hard to believe a younger woman would find him attractive? I’m a similar age to her and if I was single I would date him, regardless of his money. I think he seems like a genuinely lovely, talented, hard-working man who is great with children and has done a lot for kids with special needs. That would be attractive to a lot of people. If I was with him I’d be happy to live in a small house and for him to leave his money to a children’s charity if he so wished.

So AIBU and naive to think there are others out there with a similar mindset to myself? I recognise there are gold-diggers out there but in this case I think Justin has a lot going for him even without his bank balance?

Can people really not separate the character from the real man?

Apparently not 😂

Characters, surely! It’s a million years since I watched any CBeebies as DS is now a teenager, but I thought Gail Force on Gigglebiz was genuinely well-observed.

I admit to finding the Mr Tumble persona a bit sinister, though — I didn’t think I had a clown phobia, but maybe I do! It’s the smile.

This. I'm in my 30s and I didn't notice JF on tv till I had my eldest child, who is 19. Anyone who's shocked at people in their 30s and 50s dating each other, get over it.

But your daughter is at least a decade younger than his girlfriend so I’m not sure of the relevance?

Sorry but what is your point? Your early 20s daughter doesn’t fancy Mr Tumble? Ok good, we’d all be concerned otherwise.

Justin Fletcher’s 35 year old partner did not fall in love with Mr Tumble, that’s just a character FYI

I think if you can't possibly believe that two people couldn't have anything in common, just because they're not the same age, you maybe don't have much imagination.

I've had relationships with a man who was 20 years older than me, and two relationships with men who were around 15 years older than me. I had loads in common with all of them - that was why we clicked. Shared interests, same sense of humour, similar views, similar outlook on life etc. I also have friends who are older than me and friends who are younger than me - again, loads in common.

Firstly, so what? The woman Justin Fletcher is dating isn't your daughter, so this isn't something you have to worry about.

Secondly, the woman he's dating is in her mid-30s and is a colleague of his, not some random girl who only knows him as someone she watched on telly as a toddler.

Thirdly, I would have assumed that most parents get the ick from imagining their daughter fucking anyone, not just Mr Tumble.

Mr Tumble is a children’s TV presenter whose whole identity is built around being accessible to very young children and their parents. A 20+ year age gap in that specific public relationship reads differently than a random couple meeting at a pub.

not when the younger partner is over 30, and was when they met. You are just being nasty.

@PoppyGalore1

But she is not in a relationship with Mr Tumble.
She is in a relationship with Justin Fletcher who is a successful business man with a long established career in TV and for whom Mr Tumble is only one of dozens of characters and TV shows he has created.

Not unless you think a 34-year-old woman is somehow equivalent to a child.

Also, as others have pointed out, Justin Fletcher is an actor and a businessman. He's not actually Mr Tumble any more than David Tennant was actually Doctor Who.

Mr Tumble is a kids' TV character.

Justin Fletcher is a normal bloke in his 50's.

They are not the same.

Batshit.

I agree, OP! He is a cut above. A really good guy. Was really happy to see he's got a GF!

I’m fine with it, but I do get confused when he gets out his spotty bag.

My DH has come across Justin professionally. He is an incredibly hard working person. He is also very private. My DH says that Justin is a thoroughly decent fella. I think it’s lovely that he’s found someone.

wl your daughter is a decade younger than his gf so I'm sure he's not interested in her

But do you really think he sits around the farm dressed as his many characters and asking her what's behind the trees dot? Given her age and job, I'm sure she's fully aware Justin is a guy who's good at his job, but she actually a guy with multiple weird personalities including his own grandad and aunt.

As for t"nheext Jimmy Saville" crap, the guys faults are what? He's not attractive so the Mom's aren't switching on just to perv (see Tom Hardy storytime) and he's not "manly" hence all the gay assumptions. He clearly likes being with kids and cos he's a man, and probably gay, it must be sexual. Same reason people demand male nurses don't treat their kids and my sons nurse didn't ever talk about his bf. Men who enjoy the company of kids are seen as some how abhorrent unless they are manly enough for the Mom's to want to fuck

I don't doubt the money helps, but one thing I've noticed is that charismatic people are usually more attractive. And he must have a fair degree of it to have such a successful performing career.

Bang on. Some of these comments say more about the people commenting than about Justin.

Totally agree @SleepingStandingUp

Sick of the implied sinister to children accusations. It’s actually just annoying at this point. Every single man is a pervert.

I think you shouldn’t be dating someone with a big enough age gap that you could be their parent.

Also heard he is not a very nice person in person.

Nurse!