AIBU to think my SIL was rude about my clothes?

[UninterestedInFashion]

Over the half term week we saw dh family a few times. A kids birthday party, family bbq and couple of outings to the park and pub.

I admit I’m not very fashionable , don’t really follow it and wear what I like and what suits me. For context this is what I wore each time Kids party : black 3/4 length leggings and striped vest top and converse
family bbq hibiscus pattern dress and sandals
park denim shorts and a vest top and sandals
pub same hibiscus dress (it’s very old I’ve had it years but I love it)

The first time SIL said ‘oh here’s Y2K girl’ and laughed at the dress. The second time I wore it she quietly said to me ‘a spotty dress would suit you better - polka dots are in right now’

When I wore the denim shorts she said ‘you’re brave ! They are very short ! How many years have you had those!’

When I wore the 3/4 leggings she again took me aside and said ‘let’s go shopping one day - you need some wide leg linen trousers not these leggings ! I’m surprised they even still sell them or are they vintage again ‘ and laughed?

I said to her no thanks I’m comfortable and it’s hot so I’m wearing what I like and what keeps me cool. She said ‘come on sometimes we all need a bit of a refresh!’

AIBU to think she was really rude ??? I didn’t feel hurt but just irritated.

Next time she says you need fashion advice say “ off you?!!!” and laugh.

Say "Calm down Gok Wan, I never applied for a make over" and laugh 😂

She's a cheeky cow and I'd tell her that.

I mean she is rude but some people are rude.

When I wore the denim shorts she said ‘you’re brave ! They are very short !

She's jealous.

This. Perfect.

It is rude I suppose, but she won't be the only one thinking it. I'm not even in that in to fashion but 3/4 leggings and a stripy top are definitely y2k, I didn't think they were still available, they didn't stay around long for a good reason. Short shorts aren't all that great for parents, or anyone over the age if 25 really. The dress could probably pass as nice vintage. Not 3/4 legging and a stripy top though. If you really don't care about what you look like that's fine, maybe SIL thinks you just don't realise how dated it is.

Comment unfavourably on her clothes. She must sometimes wear clothes you dislike.
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It’s just not the done thing to comment on someone else’s appearance unless it is to say how lovely they look.

You know she was being rude.

How do leggings keep you cool?

Ah the family fashion guru.
We have one of those
Does she think she's Gok Wan?

Tell her there's a difference between "fashion" and style.

Yeah, everyone is jealous of the average mumsnetter.

Yanbu your clothes sound similar to what i wear im not into what's fashionable or not and rarely notice other peoples clothes. I think you just have to say I'm really not interested in all that stuff. This is the equivalent of someone going on and on about for e.g. tennis and saying you should really play lets go racquet shopping. No im not interested and you're boring me

It’s rude ‘you suppose’? So do you make unsolicited remarks to people about their fashion choices and make recommendations they didn’t ask for? Do you point out dated clothes? If not, why?

I can’t even understand why she’s care how you dressed! I dont think Ive ever been fed up with how someone else dressed.

But so what? Yes its y2k style. So? It can still look nice.

I am very into fashion, but would not bat an eyelid at somebody wearing black cropped leggings and a striped vest top!

She was rude! I would never comment on someone’s clothing unless it was to compliment them.

Not everything which is ‘in’ suits every figure. I’m short, and if I wore wide leg linen trousers I’d look like a walking square! I’ll stick with my slim leg trousers, thanks.

Wear what works for you, that’s what’s important 🙂

I don't think anyone who wears cropped leggings can criticise Asda or BooHoo.
However you shouldn't comment on other people's clothes choices, unless wildly inappropriate.
@UninterestedInFashion you need to be as rude and blunt back, by telling her to keep her opinions to herself.

What?!

I live in leggings and stripy tops, dresses
if Im dressing up. Range of jeans. Im guessing this counts at 2000s? All the women I know around me do a similar combo with their own personal touch. Most of us are too tired to care. Most people I know are in their 30s/40s.

What is the supposed slouchy mum style suppsoed
to be now? All I can think of is big lips and black crop top/gym top?

Someone’s probably said it already but as a 25yo 3/4 trousers are very much back in :)

She sounds passive aggressive. I bet if/when you pull her up on these comments she'd try to argue that she's only trying to help, you shouldn't be so sensitive, you've misunderstood, blah blah. I have sisters/ aunties/sisters-in-laws with very varying sartorial tastes, but never has anyone felt the need to give me or each other condescending "advice" about their clothes. She was rude. Continue to wear what you want.

Does she want you to update your style… which is uneccessary and not her business. Or is she hinting that your clothing is inappropriate? Aka too small, very worn, obviously very old and she’s worried you won’t buy yourself new clothes for some reason?