AIBU to think my SIL was rude about my clothes?

[UninterestedInFashion]

Over the half term week we saw dh family a few times. A kids birthday party, family bbq and couple of outings to the park and pub.

I admit I’m not very fashionable , don’t really follow it and wear what I like and what suits me. For context this is what I wore each time Kids party : black 3/4 length leggings and striped vest top and converse
family bbq hibiscus pattern dress and sandals
park denim shorts and a vest top and sandals
pub same hibiscus dress (it’s very old I’ve had it years but I love it)

The first time SIL said ‘oh here’s Y2K girl’ and laughed at the dress. The second time I wore it she quietly said to me ‘a spotty dress would suit you better - polka dots are in right now’

When I wore the denim shorts she said ‘you’re brave ! They are very short ! How many years have you had those!’

When I wore the 3/4 leggings she again took me aside and said ‘let’s go shopping one day - you need some wide leg linen trousers not these leggings ! I’m surprised they even still sell them or are they vintage again ‘ and laughed?

I said to her no thanks I’m comfortable and it’s hot so I’m wearing what I like and what keeps me cool. She said ‘come on sometimes we all need a bit of a refresh!’

AIBU to think she was really rude ??? I didn’t feel hurt but just irritated.

Extremely rude

Of course she was rude.

But you need to tell her firmly you're not interested in her opinions.

It's just a shame that you clearly are.

She's off her tits. Next time ask her why she thinks your clothing is her business. What a looper.

She probably means well/just wants to revamp you/mini-me, if she's into all that, rather than being a Trinny/Susannah mean girl (am giving her benefit of doubt) so I'd just smile and wave, smile and wave...
Rinse, repeat, move on.
Fwiw, I am on your side. I am you. You know what you like and you aren't shallow, you prefer comfort and reuse as opposed to discomfort and fast fashion. It's fine xx

And as for awful linen trousers, I honestly wouldn't want to be cremated in them!

I think it depends what she's like about other things, really. How is she with you usually?

Sil it is a shame you can't get personality alterations isn't it? You bloody need one.

Tell her to mind her own business, you are happy and comfortable shame she's so shallow.

Next time she says something underhand and laughs, ask her to explain the joke?

Next time she says you should wear X - tell her you didn't ask her opinion or need it and that youre good as you are. Thank, but no thanks.

If she says something is in right now say you couldn't give a monkey hoot whats "in"

YANBU. What a cow!

Agreed, and a polka dot dress!

I love style and fashion but couldn’t care less what friends and family wear. It would not cross my mind to critique someone. She is very very rude and I would have to say something. Who the hell does she think she is?

If she tries to tell you what's "in", say "No thanks I'm not a sheep. Funny, because you're a massive cow!"

She sounds tedious and I would tell her to bore off.

It sounds like she thinks you need to update your style and that you might need help to do it. And it also sounds like her intentions are good - she's not being rude out loud in front of other people etc.

But she's clearly got the hide of a rhino - a normal person, after the first comment not getting much of a response, would back away and accept that you don't need or want any help with your look.

She’s very rude!!

Very bitchy

Rude cow.

"Did you mean to say that out loud?"

Those sound like the outfits of a woman who is confident in her body and can carry off items that some other women feel they can't. Sometimes some women try to put women like that down if they don't feel the same way about themselves.

She is rude. Just ignore or tell her you just don’t want her help.
To be honest, I would love to take my SIL shopping. She looks so dowdy for her age. She wears busy, busy pattern tops, cropped trousers, sketchers, fit flops and dresses made from very dubious materials. She’s quite dumpy and her choices don’t help.
But never in a million years would I say anything to her. I keep my thoughts to myself

She probably means well, however, if it’s upsetting you, you need to be firm with her and tell her that it’s nice she is interested in you but you wear what makes you comfortable and if you ever decide to go clothes shopping and want her opinion you will be sure to ask for it.

And your husband just stood by whilst his sister was so rude?

It very much depends what image you are trying to project and unfortunately your clothes sound very dated. It sounds as though she was trying to update you, and perhaps thought she was being kind . . .

That’s incredibly rude. My sil genuinely does have terrible dress sense. She wears a lot of shiny stretchy nylon clothes. Never seen tne like. You know the really cheap looking stuff, I’ve no idea where she even buys it.

I always tell her she looks lovely. You don’t seem in that bracket. Yes your clothes maybe a bit dated, but she should keep her opinions to herself.

Wtf is wrong with her

she’s probably insecure with the fact you have your own style and dont give a fuck