AIBU to confront workmen about stealing my engagement ring?

[Marooney]

TLDR- workmen are only people who could have taken my engagement ring, do I confront them?

Need some urgent advice please-

We’ve had 2 workmen here for several days repairing the patio. They don’t need access to the house and come in and out the side passage which leads directly to the garden from outside. One of the men has done several jobs with/for DP over the years, let’s call him Bob, the other guy is an assistant DP doesn’t know.

On Monday night DP left my new engagement ring in its box on a table near the front door as he was going to take it to have a small adjustment done, however on Tuesday morning he forgot and on Wednesday noticed it wasn’t there. He assumed I’d taken it but I hadn’t and there’s no one else in the house, no cleaner or visitors, no one. We live in a rural area and I haven’t always been locking the front door when I pop out on errands as the builders are around - I never thought they themselves might be a risk- and it’s a cul-de-sac so no one passes by except one middle aged neighbour who we’re friendly with, walking her dog. Our Ring doorbell has not recorded any stranger entering our front gate.

We don’t know what to do. Obviously we can’t accuse with no proof, but it seems clear that one of them has taken it. My only idea so far is to have a word with Bob, ask him a bit about the other guy and how long he’s known him etc then say a ring has gone missing and we’d rather sort it out now than look through days of Ring camera footage (we have cameras but unfortunately not in that area, but he doesn’t need to know that). That way at least we’d be implying to Bob that we don’t think it’s him. Incidentally, DP hasn’t categorically said that it couldn’t be Bob.

Any suggestions gratefully received!

I did read this.

I’m not rage baiting my dear.

Sorry rage posting.

But you are helping the post get to 1000 🤗

So why ask why I didn’t check where the cleaner had been? I had no idea she’d been in my house!

If you read my original post with this I’m annoyed that you went on for a while (can’t list pages here). Then you argue the point about how much you’d gone on about it I know you no longer suspect them. But you certainly did up until recently (last night?). I pity your DP if this is how you go on about things and then indeed make groundless assumptions.

Your ring was lost. Surely if it’s lost you look into anywhere it could be or who could have tidied it away. At least that is what I would do.

I’m out. You don’t seem to get it.

But in all seriousness where have you got that from? I said ages ago we no longer suspected him, as soon as we’d spoken to Bob

Would it honestly occur to you that your fortnightly cleaner, who had come only the day before, had popped round, let herself in and tidied something away? The fact that it happened is unbelievable enough but I now have people suggesting I should have considered it as a reasonable possibility!

I’m impressed you came back op and said what happened - you are def getting some flack

I mean your baby can wait until you hit 1000! Obs!

It’s not like you’ve spent hour upon hour protesting your innocence!

Surely the bedtime routine should’ve started by now?

No! But it wouldn’t have occurred to me to accuse someone without evidence either!

Are we nearing 1000 yet?

Oh yeah I forgot about the baby, wonder where she is

I didn’t accuse anyone. I speculated about it anonymously on the internet. No accusations

Haha! Not near enough!

But it seems a bit audacious to take a ring that’s been left right by the door. It would be too obviously missing, surely?

I keep misplacing items and can’t believe I have done so. I do think it really is possible that it’s DH…by accident.

Loads of people reading this thread said he didn't seem like he would have taken it.

So the suggestion that everyone reading the thread thinks he is a thief is bizarre.

Have you read the thread or are you just making stuff up because you're bored?!

Thank you for replying and explaining. I suppose I’m wondering why you need her to realise that?

I’m not necessarily expecting you to have an answer for that, I don’t really know why I feel the need to post the things I do sometimes. Interesting though I suppose.

I expect Bobs mate has hidden her… who else could it be?

Apart from what else could he have stolen…

Thank god for Bob? Because bobs mate would’ve been subject to a diplock court otherwise!

Favourite post of the thread is the one where someone blames OP because she wasn't going and checking on her engagement ring regularly in her day-to-day life. Maybe the cupboard should become a shrine?

This thread has brought out the nutjobs who don't realise that text can be revisited and re-read and insist that their utterly correct memory of what they reckon OP said last week is gospel. There are a surprising number of these!

Your DH has smuggled her out in his toolbelt, into his van, on the way to visit the other woman. Who is...... the cleaner!

The baby has a can of rug detergent under her babygro, and she deliberately disabled your Ring doorbell.