AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

Other peoples teeth they have forcefully redistributed under the latest five-year-teeth-for-all plan.

You muppet

I’d switch therapists personally. I make a mental note of vocal Reform supporters on our local Facebook page and when I need work doing on house etc I won’t use anyone who is.

I figure there are Reform voters who will actively prefer to use them so it all evens out in the end but I’m not giving any money to them and I would feel the same with your therapist even if she has different views to her DH.

Can’t see how people think you are unreasonable to use your freedom of choice.

But we won't have a nice planet. Net Zero does not reduce carbon emissions, it makes them go up .

Maybe she’s on mn, will recognise this and you can both say at the same time let’s end the service.

Huge difference between someone scanning your shopping with whom you exchange basic pleasantries and whose last name I doubt you would ever get to know let alone find how their partner votes and a therapist with whom you spend an hour every week exploring personal issues in a private one to one setting.

Honestly this.

I think it’s reasonable to feel uncomfortable sharing your inner life with someone who has demonstrated that they are comfortable being married to someone with views you find abhorrent.

Absolutely!

What happens if you need a doctor and the same thing comes up? A fireman? The police!? There are so many areas of life where someone completely clashes with your political views. Are you turning them all away?

I don't trust reform research.
Always were in bottom sets.

OP as someone who's had quite a bit of therapy, I would say that if the political views of your therapist are likely to affect your feelings of safety and ability to be open in therapy it would be appropriate to leave. You could bring it for discussion to help your decision but may prefer not to. It's clearly not the same as another paid relationship such as your dentist or shop cashier. Personally in your situation I think it would depend upon what I'm discussing but I would be likely to leave if I felt the therapist didn't respect me or members of my family.

The cognitive dissonance some wives of Reform councillor might suggest you have a point OP. Apparently this chap had a serious interest in Buddhism, which explains the Swastika tattoo

www.mirror.co.uk/news/politics/reform-councillor-with-swastika-tattoo-37200813.amp

No , this would put me off too .

Oh here we go with the transphobia! You are aware of the definition of feminism, are you?

it's not Reform research. We don't do it here, so people do it somewhere else then we ship it here on dirty dirty ships.

Carbon goes up
costs go up

nobody benefits

Really???? You compare a therapist to a cashier? Unbelievable!

I do exactly the same.

Being a feminist is not compatible with the mens rights movement of trans ideology.

Exactly same applies to the far left, whose position is currently being filled by the Greens.

Maybe you have an intimate relationship that revolves around sharing your innermost thoughts and leaning on the for guidance, but the average person does not. You are comparing chalk to cheese.

OK, you posted;

Hopefully it ends in people with far right racist views being ostracised and losing trade

So, you wouldn't purchase Italian goods sold in the UK at the moment?

If the French vote for a far-right government, you would avoid purchasing French goods sold in the UK?

FFS.

You can do whatever you want.

It seems a shame to lose a relationship or service that's been helping you, but if finding out this piece of information about her husband has prejudiced you so much against your therapist that you no longer think it will be useful, then you're completely within your rights to stop using her services.

Why do you feel the need to ask of other people think you're overreacting? What difference does it make if they agree or disagree with you?

Both sides have valid arguments. I can respect the other side whilst having my own opinion. We have the highest energy prices in Europe.

YANBU and please don't pay attention to usual spineless lot on here who don't actually hold to any politics. A very recent marriage says a lot about her values too, and given the nature of a therapist relationship this is absolutely something that should be considered. I know it's hard to break away from a great therapist but I would consider finding someone else.