AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

Yet you are on every thread about Reform. I'm amazed your superior attitude wants to be in the same posting space. You're no better than anyone else love.

You have proof of this?

I don't think it's even about Reform being bad or not, it's about having a therapist who potentially supports, or at least condones, a world view you are completely opposed to.

It's less like using a cashier who votes Reform and more like going to the doctor as an unmarried woman to get birth control or a termination and finding out that doctor is married to the local Catholic priest. Some people would be fine with this, many would not.

@MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack I've just observed a tiny interaction on public transport. An older white British man in shorts and summer top and a man of a similar age in traditional Pakistani (?) clothing. They were nodding and smiling and offering each other the one seat. Tens of thousands of people do not buy into Reform's hateful nonsense, Thankfully.

Even Farage didn’t claim that. He said the data showed Afghan nationals were convicted at 22 times the rate of British nationals.

Sky analysed the same data and found it’s more like 3-4 times. Which sounds shocking until you remember that most dales and sexual assaults are committed by perpetrators known to the victim and a vast number go unreported for that reason. Who is more likely to be reported? A stranger. Who is more likely to be convicted? A stranger.

And this is why people are suspicious of Farage and his acolytes. He lies, making an already worrying thing worse and without context, and they parrot. I can see what he has to gain 💰 but those who spread his lies?

https://news.sky.com/story/fact-checking-farage-are-foreigners-more-likely-than-britons-to-commit-sexual-offences-13407029

BTW Bit odd to claim the government tried to hide it when the data was released under a government scheme - FOI - which allows them to prevent release on several grounds.

Very true! Millions in fact. It is easy to forget that, especially on MN at times.

You'd have had a fit if the Pakistani man said he voted Reform. Not sure of the relevance of the white man's attire either.

There are nations in Europe that actually track the data per capita... The results are atrocious.

Yes I was way off there, millions.

She described both men's attire, for obvious reasons.

I was merely describing a small and pleasant scene. Which is I believe more typical of the UK than the hatefest stirred up by Faridge.

Not everyone is as biased as you- thank goodness.

I don't get this. You observed a scene which takes place a hundred times every 5 minutes and think its worthy of note. I don't think it's Reform voters who are keeping the division going. Why shouldn't those two men be civil to each other and what on earth has it got to do with Reform wanting to tackle illegal immigrants, not everyday Pakistani men. You are the only looking for problems.

Yes that's true, anyone can do whatever they want. But all actions have consequences. You are happy for people to lose their livelihood due to political beliefs, I am not. There's no codswallop about it. And op asked for opinions on his actions, which in my view are misogynistic and indicative of someone with black and white thinking (lacks any nuance, people are either good or bad, she can't be a good therapist and have a husband who supports reform).

Yes I think most catholics would be more than a bit upset or mainly confused with the local priest being married.

So because they are a new political party it's okay to hate them?

You're right. The vast majority of people are fundamentally decent. We need to hold on to that fact, and remember that, while the racists might now feel empowered to be open about their racism in a way that they couldn't have done previously, they are still a minority. And hopefully always will be.

Actually it isn't called prejudice.
Prejudice (hints in the name) is pre judging a person as having a set of characteristic based on an inate characteristic. What we're referring to with the Reform thing isn't pre judging based on an unknown, but actual judging based on a known.
So just as it would be prejudice to decide that an immigrant would be likely to commit a crime with no other knowledge of them than their immigration status, but not prejudice to decide based on them telling you they intended to commit a crime, so it is with the Reform supporter. They are stating their values and being judged accordingly.

😂 fair enough, forgot that. Other important Catholic person then? Member of a more traditional religious following. Point being, in certain circumstances people's world views and what they tolerate or condone or who they marry or mix with is relevant and important to some people.

I think it is reasonable to change therapist. I couldn’t be with a reform voter.

Nobody supports mass illegal immigration. Nobody.
It's a highly complex situation and Reform are interested in playing to the baying, disatisfied masses.

Baying masses? You mean legitimate voters?

This is ridiculous. Reform aren’t the KKK.

You observed a scene which takes place a hundred times every 5 minutes and think its worthy of note

That is the point though. Millions of people in the UK from different heritages largely live alongside each other with no issues. The very opposite of what Reform and Farage and Lowe and Robinson et al attempt to portray.

Yet there's always nuance when it comes to anti-semitism. What do you mean the Reform thing? Do we say the Labour thing or the Tory thing?