AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

Immoral behaviour??

How do you get through life?

Actually they didn’t, they said ‘from a cannon?’ Which is an obvious (and dare I say old) joke.

I hear this a lot - ‘people vote Reform because other people disagree with their ideas’. And if you think disagreement is fascism, aren’t you really saying Reform voters are fascists?

They did not.
The poster replied to someone who used the word 'fired'. They responded 'from a cannon?'. With a question mark.
It was quite clearly a joke about the use of the term 'fired' on the thread, which has repeatedly been used in error, both because the OP isn't employing anyone to 'fire' and because if she were, this being the UK, she would 'dismiss' them.

I did. A poster said her partner had a Union Jack flag and asked if he should be fired and another poster said ‘yes, from a canon’.

No they didn't. They asked "from a cannon?"

At least be honest about it.

😂😂😂😂😂

On lamp posts.

I actually find reform voters absolutely fine to have a debate with. They have their opinions and will express them and listen and maybe you can find common ground to bring them out of their opinions.

but the left I find very hard to have any kind of debate without it being immediately shut down.

anyway - I’m out, too much of a nest of vipers for me ✌️

I was that poster and what I actually said was "from a cannon?" which is a question not a statement of intent. If you are going to quote someone then please do it accurately. It was a lighthearted response to what I considered to a daft post. Of course anybody can have flags flying and be mates with someone who has flags flying and not be at risk of losing their employment. The flags flutter unfettered in the wider countryside near to me, in fact we have a council who have spent £75k on flags and flag supports.

Same, I don’t mind talking to anyone with opinions I disagree with. The thread is about whether OP is U to pay for their services. For some reason lots of people have used it as an opportunity to advocate for Reform and/or shake out their victim complex.

Stay hydrated ✌️

These Reform voters are sensitive. Maybe therapy?

I assume it was a humorous response to a silly question. Not aggressive at all ffs.

But what if the therapist's spouse is a woke, snowflake lefty? Could be a dilemma.

You misunderstood my post. It wasn’t the Poles voting it was my neighbours voting to get them out. There’ll be plenty of people that aren’t white ‘racists’ voting for Reform I assure you.

Exactly. They will need to check the credentials carefully to ensure their mindset is respected

I thought insulting people drives them to vote Reform. Is that what you're trying to do? Insult us in the hope we will be forced against our will to vote Reform?

. Sovereignty - people didn't want to be governed by unelected bureaucrats. You can't vote out the European commission. We have a free trade deal with the EU

. We need to limit immigration.

. Energy costs here are very high, they hurt industry and consumers. We are 1% of emissions.

. Many of these asylum seekers have unfortunately commit heinous crimes.

this is what I feel is wrong is instead of having any kind of discussion they tell people to get in the bin. This is why reform are so popular because if you squash the discourse and discussion of just moves people to a movement where they feel they can express an opinion without getting cancelled. From what I’ve found it’s the people who say ‘hope not hate’ who are the most hateful and mean ones to deal with

There's been plenty of discussion about all the main issues Reform have policies for (including the big one). There was plenty of discussion available to consider and take part in about Brexit and its likely effects, there is plenty now about the economic realities of immigration, ageing population etc. Most of the time Reform supporters are not up to it. They spew out a couple of sentences from the childishly oversimplified "economics" they've been fed, in which immigration causes absolutely every societal ill and brings no benefits to make up for it, and then the moment they're challenged - however intelligently, politely and objectively - they spit the dummy and wail about how nobody listens to them.

The latest one is the fact that net immigration is actually plummeting, to half what it was a year ago and a fraction of its height during the Boriswave. You'd think this would be an opportunity for Reform supporters to say "oh, we ARE being listened to, the government IS taking our concerns into account", right? Wrong, instead we have every damn contortion possible to try and insist that that's not really what's happening, and anyway was never really what it was about (it was about small boats ONLY, or deporting people with moustaches, or something, apparently).

So they GET what they want in the Brexit referendum...

They GET what they want in immigration policy...

At the expense of everybody else who wants to actually approach these subjects rationally and not commit societal suicide over them. But oh no, the problem is still that the poor little Reformers are shouting to have their voices heard and nobody's listening.

And I really object to the one-sidedness of this supposed victimhood. Have you seen how some of these people talk about the "liberal elite", the "woke brigade" etc? In the runup to Brexit I engaged with posters on here who opened described how they wanted to see middle class people suffer. But that's OK, because they're the victims after all. Don't dare tell a racist when they're being racist though...

Many of these asylum seekers have unfortunately commit heinous crimes

Is it many or is it actually a small percentage? Do you have the stats?

Do people here refuse to be civil to Tory councillors.

Sorry, totally misunderstood you. Looking at it through my own prism - the Poles I know are very anti-immigration to the UK - that is why I said 'newcomers, etc.'.

But we have spell check?

Party wise, they hate brown people. They wheel out a few misguided token people.

No, because they are along established political party. Not a bunch ot racists.

Do you remember Nige and his hate pre Brexit?

I know. And generally my typing spelling is pretty good these days as a result of auto correct. But the way I spelled it it wouldn’t even autocorrect! Kept trying to correct to facial or something like that.

but feel free to keep taking the piss! Trust me I’m used to it. School in the 90s gave me a pretty thick skin.

Many of these asylum seekers have unfortunately commit heinous crimes.

Source and exact numbers please. This isnt a local Facebook page you know.