AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

Cutting carbon taxes, green levies and VAT will bring costs down

'Fired' in respect of therapy is usual parlance. Sometimes clients fire their therapist and sometimes therapists fire their clients. Yes therapists are often, but not always, self employed but that makes them more not less vulnerable. They won't have employment protection rights. If everyone took the stupid approach of op, firing someone they have no actual problem with but based on the political views of her husband, then she would struggle to earn a living right? It would be a witch hunt. Any time a group of people decide that another section of the population are scum based on beliefs or politics or religion or skin colour, and and that such section of the population should be boycotted and ostracised, you are basically looking at oppression and mob rule. It's the antithesis of a civilised society and not the kind of society I want to live in.

And to all the posters who expect higher standards of therapists than other professionals it shows a deep seated misunderstanding of what therapy is. What op should actually do is raise his issues with the therapist and talk it through - that would be far more productive and therapeutic. But I dare say he won't because he sounds like a pompous arse who prefers to see others as lesser than himself.

No it's not. Have literally never heard of anyone firing their therapist or being fired by their therapist having worked in the field for 30 years. It's errant nonsense.

You should get out more then.

Poor little Reform supporters. All they want to do is vote through a referendum that decimates our economy and stifles our children's futures; shout their tits off about immigration policy that is both potentially devastating to thousands and economically self-defeating anyway; render the climate of the very Earth we live on uninhabitable; jump to conclusions about every damn crime that gets reported about how it must have been those horrible muslim asylum seekers (and then go strangely silent when they're wrong); go to marches to hear the likes of Tommy Ten Names spout vile, bigoted crap about their bogeyman du jour; vote for a party that openly plans to remove free access to healthcare, destroy the government's tax base and therefore all possibility of decent public services with it, and turbo-charge our already spiralling economic inequality...

And people won't even be nice to them and be their fwiends!

The far right insanity taking over the world at the moment is a revolting disease, and the people who openly and proudly attempt to impose it upon our futures can go wallow in their festering hole of self pity and do whatever they have to do. It's not our responsibility to make them feel better about their racism or their gullibility. Our responsibility as citizens and as parents is to fight back and salvage whatever sliver of hope for humanity we can.

I'm not going to tell you you should find another therapist, but that's what I'd be doing. And I'd tell her exactly why.

From a cannon?

Why would you say something so aggressive?? That is what facsim is. Telling someone they can’t beleive something and they can’t vote that way. I don’t vote reform but neither do I stoop to the level of just being horrible.

What absolute codswallop. Nobody is under any obligation to go to any particular therapist and - notwithstanding whatever notice period etc. may have been agreed - they can stop any time they like for whatever reason they like.

And not wanting to ostracise parts of the population doesn't mean you have to tolerate people who actually ARE doing things that are morally repugnant or, more importantly, practically harmful to the rest of us.

You’re just repeating yourself, so I’ll assume you don’t have any more information yourself.

What Reform have proposed would cut bills by about £80-170 per household per year - funded by cuts to public spending, much of which the poorest households rely on - but it would still be much more expensive than comparator countries.

That's not actually what fascism is.

It is characterised by dictorial power and this poster promoting violence against people who don’t subscribe to her way of thinking is where the far left goes round and reaches the far right

JFC, why does no-one know the actual meaning of fascism?

From Merriam Webster (a dictionary not a person before anyone gets confused)

Fascism : a populist political philosophy, movement, or regime (such as that of the Fascisti) that exalts nation and often race above the individual, that is associated with a centralized autocraticgovernment headed by a dictatorial leader, and that is characterized by severe economic and social regimentation and by forcible suppression of opposition.

It’s not a difference of opinion on Mumsnet, however strong. It’s organised oppression by the state or para-state actors, often including militarisation.

I dont think i could trust or respect someone with such terrible taste

Yes and these posters who promote violence against a different opinion clearly want state wide oppression of anyone who doesn’t beleive their way of thinking.

what do you call a violent response to anyone who doesn’t think their way? Is there a term for it?

ha! Im dyslexic - but don’t worry I’m used to the ableism of being dyslexic

Sorry for being dyslexic! But thanks for being mean about it

This isn’t a thread about political debate though, it’s about whether OP is unreasonable to sack her therapist having found out who her husband is.

Would you work with a therapist who did not support single sex spaces in schools?

Who on this thread has promoted violence against a different opinion? I think you are over-egging your pudding.

Yes and these posters who promote violence against a different opinion clearly want state wide oppression of anyone who doesn’t beleive their way of thinking.

That doesn't follow at all. People promote violence on a personal level all the time without necessarily wanting it to be state oppression.

what do you call a violent response to anyone who doesn’t think their way? Is there a term for it?

They weren't responding to anyone who doesn't think their way, they were responding to one particular individual about one particular subject.

And FFS, they were obviously joking. Get over yourself.

I was actually making a joke about the woeful understanding of fascism by multiple posters. I didn’t even notice your typo and I knew what you meant, which is why my reply to you focused on your failure to understand the term, not your spelling of it.

Who on earth is promoting violence? You should report that.

We just call that violence. It’s handy to have different words to describe different things.

I can't understand this view point at all DH and I probably vote difernrt we are different people.

Anyone can vote reform indeed the two most vehement reform voters I know are both polish.

I did. A poster said her partner had a Union Jack flag and asked if he should be fired and another poster said ‘yes, from a canon’.

this is what I feel is wrong is instead of having any kind of discussion they tell people to get in the bin. This is why reform are so popular because if you squash the discourse and discussion of just moves people to a movement where they feel they can express an opinion without getting cancelled. From what I’ve found it’s the people who say ‘hope not hate’ who are the most hateful and mean ones to deal with