AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

It's as if therapists' husbands suddenly "have the power" to majorly impact their partners' clients.

The Greens stood down their candidate in Makerfield. Farage has publicly renewed support for his, despite Kenyons admittance he is sexist, and his demonstration of such with degrading, demeaning comments about women's abilities and bodies.
I'd have thought you, as someone so concerned with men respecting women that you started your thread accusing Andy Burnham of misogyny for one error in a comment about the trans issue, four years ago; would be highly concerned about what this says of the culture within Reform.
Because rogue candidates slipping through the net happens (Reform do seem to have a particularly loosely woven net, but, it happens to other parties too) its the response that speaks to the culture of the party.
Farage has given a clear message that misogyny is acceptable within Reform.
Does this not give you, who repeatedly frames himself as an advocate for women, pause for thought, and make you doubt your wisdom in being all over MN drumming up support for a party who would find it acceptable to speak about your daughter that way?

She clearly shows disappointment from her therapist for married this man. You can disagree on many points but political general beliefs/ life values are pretty essential in a relationship, especially in a marriage.

Seriously? Who votes what is not your business. 🤷‍♀️

You have no idea what issues the OP is bringing to therapy. The repeated suggestions that her political views represent a therapeutic issue are highly unpleasant.

Yeah they said some stuff that allegedly happened 50 years ago. Teenage boys have always said edgy things. You'd find no different today. What matters is how you treat people in actual adult life. Nigel's worry was about Romanian crime gangs and free movement.

If it's going to make you less able to be open/honest/vulnerable with your therapist then yes it's time to move on. It's a waste of everyone's time to continue in a situation where you don't feel comfortable or safe.

Seriously? Grow up.

if you stop speaking to everyone who votes reform you’ll lose a lot of friends. The lefties are out of touch.

Where did the OP suggest that?

When it is public it goes back to the fact there will be potentially be repercussions. I said above I take note of who is vocal about being pro Reform on my local Facebook page and won’t use them if looking for someone to do work on my house or use their shop if they have one as there are alternative options I would rather give my money to. Another poster says she does the same.

Other people I would think would be more likely to use them I would guess so assumably they aren’t out of pocket. If they aren’t vocal about their views I am none the wiser so there isn’t an issue. It’s only when people have put their political views out into the public domain.

DD has counselling. If she found out her counsellor was in the same situation as one in the OP I know she would quickly look for another.

Wonder why you didn't cancel with her there and then. I'm also wondering how this forum with react if the OP told the platform it was going to drop services because they didn't like mix race couples. Her therapist's choice of partner is personal to her. You can only control how you want to be affected by it. You don't get to change it or cheapen it which is what you did in your OP.

Exactly. That's absolutely right. There's been a left wing infiltration of our schools for some time now. Hopefully a Reform government will keep that in check.

Well it is really, isn't it? Given that we only have one vote ourselves, and the 48,199, 999 votes that will collectively decide who governs us belong to other people. That's why we have political discussion and debate, because we know our vote alone is pretty insignificant and its what other people do that will decide our futures.

Personally I think you are being ridiculous not to see the bigger picture and where the OP is coming from with this post but different strokes for different folks and all that ! It is still currently a free country.

If I was unfortunate enough to have friends who voted Reform, then it would be no loss at all to lose them.

But none of my friends would dream of voting Reform anyway, because they are decent people.

I do know plenty of Reform voters but they are not the types of people that I would ever aspire to be friends with.

Support for Reform is currently sitting at around 26% in the polls. They are far from a majority.

Quite. Why be explicit when teachers and lecturers can place their bias in teaching material?

The point I am making that judging a professional woman's skills on the basis of her husband's political views is misogynistic in the extreme.

That pesky little thing called misogyny goes to the back of the queue when a chance to call people racist comes along.

I would not be able to be civil to a Reform person, let alone have them as a friend.

I don't agree.

Being a Reform Councillor says you are an arse and a Racist. End of.

So you wouldn't be civil to a professional high tax paying individual because they vote Reform? That says more about you.

Why would anyone want to be friends with someone who insults them as an 'out of touch leftie' because they don't support Reform?
My in laws are staunch Conservatives. They despise Reform, and are very vocal about the stereotype they hold of those who support them. They would certainly doubt the intelligence and integrity of this therapist and would have her down as "not our type".
Which is obviously snobby of them, but I'm pretty sure they dont qualify as 'lefties', and their popularity in their circle of like minded Tories will not be diminished.