AIBU to stop therapy after learning my therapist’s husband is Reform?

[CanyonRider]

I live in a small town. I started having therapy maybe a year ago. I feel it’s been working for me and I like my therapist. However I realised today that she is (very very recently) married to a man who recently stood and won as a reform councillor in our local election. I detest reform. I’m married to an immigrant (EU citizen) and am delighted that my kids are dual nationals and have the option of travelling, working and living in the EU should they desire. I’m also very pro the transition to green energy. I have solar and drive an EV. Finally I cannot stand Farage and the political grift embodied by people like him and Jenrick and am dismayed by the harms caused by Brexit.

My therapist is also an EU national and is here under indefinite leave to remain - as is my wife.
Read a few interviews with her husband today and he spouts the usual anti EU, anti immigration, anti green transition rhetoric you’d expect from Reform. I don’t feel comfortable continuing therapy with someone who’s married to a reform politician, and am very surprised that she is comfortable with his views and by extension those of Farage.

Am I overreacting?

Reform are no where near fascist. You want fascist you want Restore. There are twats in the party as there are with every party

There are labour party members who have said vile things as well.

Open borders and legalisation of all drugs. Get bigger knockers through hypnosis 😆

Its far right, run by a racist. I was born in a communist country, that was equally shite.
Just own it if you support it, strong nationalism is always far left or right.

Regarding your SIL you will always get tokens which Reform like to parade.
Like that will.convince the rest they really are not a racist party.

I vehemently disagree with the greens a lot.

There is nothing in your statement to support your claim that they are far right nothing at all state your argument

they don’t have my support I just despair at pitiful political
debate.

like yours.

I'm sure even you can tell I was expressing agreement with MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack's reply. So it wasn't meant to be an argument, genius.

Clearly, as you’re not winning anybody around with your stunning political debate

Come on you are all over MN supporting them! I can't be bothered to bring up your past messages, but don't be disingenuous. Farage wouldn't be very sad about being described as being far right, not nazi far right but far righter than the Tories.

It could be very easy argued that the greens are for more or authoritarianthan anybody on the right

Of course it would be incredibly easy to find a new therapist. But how to know they’re not Reform? No therapist would reveal political views to a potential client. And what if OP didn’t like them? Or didn’t gel with them? Even if they did like them, it takes sessions and sessions to explain all your issues and history, to build rapport and a therapeutic relationship. OP will be wasting their own time and money starting again. It hurts no one but themselves. The current therapist will easily find a replacement client.

No, I’m not supporting them in the slightest. I am saying that political debate needs to have nuance and intelligence not just throwing around slogans and accusations that are baseless.

There are many many reasons to attack reform you do not need to make things up

In fact, my position is that they very much need to be attacked and every time you attack them we’ve baseless smears like this thread it makes it far less likely that any subsequent attacks will actually land which is bad for the country

Basically, I mean do better

You're obviously getting heat from a lot of Reform supporters.

I'd stop the therapy. I wouldn't use a business or company that supported Reform. I wouldn't put money in her pocket and I'd assume she's not a very authentic therapist because the values and behaviour of Reform supporters are not consistent with the compassion and insight required to be a therapist.

Edited for typo - I wouldn't use a business or company that supported Reform

There is a lot that can happen between "secure borders" and "gas chambers", as I'm sure you well know.

If you think that people are objecting to Reform simply on the grounds of them planning to secure our borders, then I suggest that you are actively choosing to look in the other direction and turn a blind eye.

Your conscience, your choice. We will all have to live with our decisions in the end.

You can tell very easily.
Trust.
Avoid Avoid Avoid.

Not to get locked into the political fray here but as for the therapy, why don’t you simply bring up your discomfort in your next session?

See how the therapist handles the conversation and whether you can feel more comfortable having expressed your concerns. If after that it’s not working then by all means move on, but it seems mad to give up a year of good work in the therapy relationship without even saying anything.

If this is the level of discourse in the country we deserve to get Reform

There is so much space between secure border and gas chambers it's offensive you even wrote that down

Do you seriously think you vote for one but you actually mean the other?

Seriously?

So what do you talk about then? What are the issues raised, and what do people see as the solutions? And what about those solutions did you think sounded reasonable, as in appropriate, feasible, affordable and likely to achieve the desired outcome?
Just one example would be great, to help demonstrate what you're telling us.

Clearly not as OP is very anti reform and didn’t have an inkling for a year.

Clearly the OP could not tell over the past year but overnight they have donned a black uniform with skulls and lightning strikes on which clearly made them easier to spot

How is it "far right"? How are Nigel Farage, Richard Tice and Zia Yusuf all "racist"?

Wanting to have control over immigration, borders is not far right?

Wanting to physically harm immigrants is. Physically harming anyone is wrong.

Good for you OP. You're in the right for therapy reasons (a therapist you can't feel vulnerable with just isn't going to work for you) but also with regards to where you spend your money it's perfectly valid to use your spending power anyway you wish, including to the detriment of people with values you oppose (boycotts/vote with your feet etc).

Individual freedom and freedom of speech - surely Reform supporters would be on your side here, if anything! (If you happened to catch them at a time when it suited them to pretend to believe in those things.)

Yes, you're right, I don't think it's possible to vote Reform and be a good person, with the exception of those who are simply not intelligent enough to actually understand what they're voting for - those people are just easily manipulated.

I would also feel fine to say to a potential new therapist that I would like to know about their political leanings on the basis that your political values are important to you. I would say I'd broken up with my previous therapist because they were involved with Reform and you don't want to engage with a right wing therapist. If they swerve the question, you have your answer.