To feel weird about being second woman on sex chair

[TheBloomingDahlia]

I don’t think I am BU but interested in whether other people would just get over it.

Been with my boyfriend for two years, we don’t live together yet and he has just got some furniture out of storage after moving house. One item that he has recently mentioned is a curvy foam chair/sofa thing made for sex. I will add a photo of similar. Although he originally bought it new I think it’s fairly likely he has had sex with his ex on it.

I am not usually jealous at all but I feel really weird about this - I guess because it’s specially made for sex? And because it’s foam I feel like if it wasn’t covered it has probably absorbed some juices 🙈. Although surely any bacteria will be dead after two years. I just don’t want to be lying on this thing knowing his ex was in the same positions, thinking maybe she was face down in the same spot and we would be basically cheek to cheek!

These feelings are all new to me as I don’t usually think about exes and I’ve never been confronted with sex furniture/toys/accessories that weren’t my own or bought new. AIBU to feel weird about this? Would you just put a waterproof sheet down and try to get over it, or refuse to use it because you don’t want to feel uncomfortable during sex?

Trust me after this thread, shall never again look at a bean bag in Auntie Bunny’s house in quite the same way. And I think I need to consider bringing a towel with me wherever I go from now on.

BTW I’m even wondering now about your rather wonderful username 😂

Damn censorship. I had links in the post.

Search for tantra chair positions or karma sutra chair positions. Lots of variety and not just doggy. Helpful diagrams too.

Pretty sure he has changed the sheets in 2 years so hardly the same thing at all is it?

@TheBloomingDahlia I think you are unusually fixated on people having a past. Yes, he has had a previous partner. You seem fixated on this chair, but this partner may also have shared his home, his sofa, his bathroom, his bed, etc.

Most people have had previous partners and relationships and that's just a part of life. Most people don't have an issue with it. I wouldn't have an issue with it either.

So I'm not really sure why the idea of a man having a previous partner is bothersome. If purity is important, then the only option is that you have relationships with virgins, but that's going to drastically reduce your dating pool.

King Edward VII had a sex chair commissioned when he was a fat old bastard who needed some help to have a menage a trois.

The sex chair in the image is gimmicky and off putting, I mean what makes it so different to shoving a pillow under your guts for doggy if needs be.

Anyhow, no, I wouldn't be shagging my man on a specifically designed sex aid he'd rogered someone else on. I wouldn't even have it in the house. Gross.

I agree. Definitely a contender for Classics!

I'm sorry, I wasn't taking any of this very seriously tbh...

So the sort of material they use in soft plays? Wouldn’t that feel… wrong?

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Be honest, Hedgehog. Are you just jealous because you work for their deadly rivals the Sex Coffee Table Company?

I maintain that chair was purchased by a secret anti-royalist (or as a joke), as I will never believe that it was sturdy enough to support his great bulk. It would be a heap of splinters.

And the footplates look tiny. Did he have tiny little feet?

Yep. This totally. He likes being bent over and pegged.

Just got to say this thread is hilarious! Deffo wouldn’t want to use a 2nd hand chair! Ugh. Loving the comments on here 🤣

The bottle of wine was never enough to stop me being turned off by my partner in his negligée.

Suddenly it all makes sense.

There was a thread where a sex chair was being bought by a man when his partner found out about sexy goings on at his work. Somehow it was the partners fault (poster on MN) for neglecting him so a sex chair was clearly needed to get the marriage back on track.

Woah! This is a man and bedroom hygiene may not be on a list of priorities. A UV light would reveal more!!!

I’d probably burn it. Yeah I know it’s not great to burn plastics/synthetics.

Bet there is an OnlyFans for it.

The one I think is listed here is £500. What a waste of money.

Prob some on eBay. Almost new, lightly used, easy wipe.

I just checked EBay. As well as some flimsy cheap things there is a used one. Boak.

I watched Abby Clancey visit Caprice's house . Sex swing and f*nny steamer ( I'm sorry can't say it on God's day!). I know she's beautiful but if I looked like that I'd be doing Jack all to move things along. What temperature do you need? was my question because my brain works like that
The DH is quite amused after a 'busy' morning with dodgy knees.

One careful owner? I'm not going to look. Can you imagine your partner telling you he's nipping out to collect the sex chair he's bought at a bargain price.