To worry more about adult DC than I ever did when they were little

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I was never an anxious parent. But now I think a combination of menopausal anxiety and no control over what they do, I worry constantly and think the worst possible outcomes. Both are lovely capable mostly responsible girls.
DD1 is 24 and travelling. I worry about her constantly. Haven't heard from her for 12hrs/she hasn't posted on SoMe and my brain worm is thinking all sorts. She's 6hrs ahead so is obviously asleep.
DD2 is 18 and out for a friend's birthday. Now in the pub and am having to sit on my hands not to message her.
This is never going to stop is it ?

They don’t see us having a conversation in which I express an opinion as ‘interfering’. You are honestly saying that your adult kids would be pissed off if you said ‘don’t feel obligated to share your location with friends if you don’t want to’? They sound pretty sensitive and easily offended.

They’d be inclined to ask why I felt I needed to state that - don’t you think your kids know that already? Maybe yours are more innocent than most?

This is actually a really weird conversation 😂.
Ive never had that particular discussion with my kids, so this is all an entirely fabricated scenario based on you asking me whether I felt that people tracking other people is intrusive. So no, my kids aren’t particularly ‘innocent’… I’ve never had this conversation with them, because they don’t allow their friends to track them.
If they did, and if I felt it was a problem, I may say to them that they don’t have to do it just because everyone else does etc. In this entirely fictional scenario, I envisage that they would either roll their eyes at me or maybe say ‘yeah, actually maybe you’re right’. But I don’t know, because it’s a fictional scenario that was invented by you, not me.

I mean, I could be completely off track and maybe in this fictional scenario they’d react completely differently. Maybe they’d laugh hysterically and run around with their pants on their heads? Who knows, because it’s a fictional scenario.

What an odd take.

Do you have adult children @dreaminglife ?
Are you not able to discuss different things with them ?

Not sure why you are pressing TotalBaloney on this hypothetical situation ?

And maybe you interfere more in your kids lives than you like to think.

Yes, in this entirely fictional scenario made up by you, maybe I’ve fictionally interfered too much in my children’s lives. I will apologise to them.
You’ve pressed me and pressed me on this for absolutely no reason other than you appear to want an argument. Do I think people tracking each other is intrusive, generally speaking? Yes. Do I care if your adult children track their friends or vice versa? Absolutely not, I couldn’t care less what your adult children do. Can we end this episode of Jackanory here?

When my 16 year old son was angry with me he would slam out of the house, get on his motorbike and drive away. Much more worrying than toilet training, or did he want to wear his wellies in bed!