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Partner won't pay back what he spent

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Covermeinrainsrops · 20/05/2026 00:31

Partner got a bonus in work this week (8k) he had known about it for a few months and in the meantime he used my credit card to buy some things and told me he'd pay it off in full when he got his bonus. He has bad credit so doesn't have his own cc.

anyway the bonus has came and he won't pay back what he spent he has said he didnt use it all he bloody did and it's clear to see on the transactions he did. We got into a massive argument about this tonight and he's refusing to send me the money to pay it off.

He has a second job so brings in more money than me and when I complain about money being tight he tells me I should get a second job but how can I we have three kids who I am primary carer for he works shifts then on off days he will do this second job. I pay for 80% of the kids things he doesn't realise how fast kids grown out of shoes coats etc.
i hate asking him to pay towards anything as it turns into an argument so I will just pay ot myself. But this credit card bill has now added on at least £100 to my already tight budget to try and get it paid off quickly. I can't even go up to bed right now I am so hurt he has put me in this position.

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GrantMyWishes · 07/06/2026 22:35

Thanks for the update OP. It's so good to hear that probably for the first time in your life you have set boundaries, and I'm also glad to hear that you didn't give in to the counselling that he wanted you to do. You're absolutely right, counselling can be useful for couples who still actually want to make their relationship work, but when you know deep down that you're 'done', there's absolutely no point prolonging the agony. Has he fully accepted that the relationship is now over?

MadeofCheeese · 09/06/2026 15:19

Great news! All the best going forward xx

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