To be annoyed Dh calls out little boy by his initial?

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I know it’s his son too and he can call him what he likes but after months of carefully choosing the perfect name together which also has its own well known abbreviation I do feel a little miffed that he has taken to calling him by the first letter of his name.
The letter is also commonly a shortening of a completely different name altogether.

As long as he doesn’t mind you calling your son by his full name/accepted abbreviation, YABU.

ETA: my DH calls our daughter by a variety of made up nicknames that sometimes have absolutely no relation to her name whatsoever

If that’s the thing you find most annoying about parenting with your DH, then you’re lucky. Sounds like you’re both doing really well.

Is it H? I had a Harry and people always called him H. I didn't mind and neither did he.

So I'm guessing it's something like Jackson or James and he calls him J?

It's completely reasonable and not at all weird and I honestly can't see why it would remotely annoy you.

I'm assuming its J if it's a common shortening of another name?

YANBU, especially if it’s Jay, because all I think of when I hear that name is the bellend from The Inbetweeners.

We spent ages choosing names for our DCs and call them anything but their names - it’s just a term of endearment, assuming he totally loves his son.

No it’s J which I think sounds like Jay/Jamie/James.
His actual name is Joseph and he could call him the very similar sounding Joe if he wanted to shorten it.

Or he could call him J which is absolutely fine. I call mine Crumpet more than I use their actual name. It's completely normal and it's odd you're annoyed by it.

I'll ask my kids poppet, angel and sweetheart, see what they think 🤔😉🙂

Is you DH posh? All the poshos where I grew up used to call each other by an initial - e.g. ‘H’ for Henrietta.

Lovely name but Joe is quite grown up for a baby imo and J is cute
Also he can call him whatever, anyone can. I went to school with a Joseph we all called J-dog. Can't remember why but it could (and perhaps will) be worse

My sister won't let anyone abbreviate her sons name. She has stuck to it from day one. If it bothers you I'd say it to DH.

Would it help if you thought of it as Jay rather than just an initial? Joe is a fab name. Could you find a good time to tactfully suggest he uses that instead?

There are always things that get on our nerves that don't bother other people, so it's not really fair for you to be told YABU.

I would hate that op, have you asked him about it?

Of course there is the name Jay anyway so quite confusing calling him J for other people.

I often call my kids Fishface 🤣

It could be so much worse, just let it be.

Hate to say it but J sounds loads better than Joseph for a little boy, did you pick Joseph together?
There's nothing wrong with him shortening it, it's like Joseph is his Sunday school name and J is more endearing, relaxed and will be used more with family and friends.

I like the name J. I know a James who goes by J. Personally it wouldn’t bother me.

I’m not keen on Jay (makes me think of JJ, the annoying kid from cocomelon) so I sympathise.

I think I have about 40 different names on rotation for my child that get used in a single day including J. My husband sticks with Jack. I don't think it even occurs to him to be bothered by what I refer to our child as. This is probably one of those to let go, unless your son is bothered by it then it's not really your concern.

It’s annoying. Even worse are the dimwits on fbook only calling their kid D or M to “protect their privacy”.

Fuck sake, stop posting about them then. We really don’t need to know how grown up D is because she eats sushi or whatever.

I have a Joshua and from the day he was born,I called him jj

Then that got shortened to j

He's 26 now and knows hes in deep shit if I call him Joshua(he knows hes in even bigger trouble if his middle names come out!)

Oddly,im the only one who calls him j-nobody else ever did

I'd just have as word if it bothers you that much

YABU

Having carefully chosen the name has nothing to do with anything for a start, of course you choose carefully.

He can call him whatever he likes, it might change as he gets older, or it might stick. Your child might pick his own nickname.

It would be irritating if it was the in-laws, because they don't get to chose what someone is called! A parent or a friend on the other hand, pretty normal.

My kids, Squidge, Mooksdalooks and Wobble reckon he's got it off pretty lightly.