To be annoyed Dh calls out little boy by his initial?

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I know it’s his son too and he can call him what he likes but after months of carefully choosing the perfect name together which also has its own well known abbreviation I do feel a little miffed that he has taken to calling him by the first letter of his name.
The letter is also commonly a shortening of a completely different name altogether.

Well, my friend is called Donna, but gets called Hazel.

It's fine.

You sound very over the top in your approach to a name he didn't really have a say in, in the first place.

It's a nickname given with affection the whole point is he's doing it because he loves her and it shows how special she is to him. I can't believe you're so angry about him showing affection towards his own child.

My daughter has lots of nicknames, but none of them are anything that would be mistaken for a real, legal name.

She’s now eleven years old and can call herself whatever she wants. But I didn’t agree to spend her early years correcting people who assumed that Lia was her actual name on paper, or to have to “correct” the spelling if a nickname I never wanted in the first place. (Most people around here would assume it was L-E-A-H.)

He was perfectly able to veto the name, and I know he felt comfortable doing so because he vetoed a different one. This wasn’t some nickname that organically sprung up out of affection - “oh, where’s Daddy’s little girl? Where’s Daddy’s little Lia?” We were walking through a grocery store when I was a month postpartum and recovering from a C-section when suddenly out of nowhere, he comes out with, “Maybe we could call her Lia.” Which was something to bring up BEFORE she was born and after I’d said, “And one thing I love about [name] is that there aren’t any obvious nicknames” and was very clear that this was the name I wanted us to call her.

Yikes. That's very controlling. Why on earth can't your husband choose a nickname he likes for his own daughter? You don't have to follow suit if you prefer not to.

was very clear that this was the name I wanted us to call her.

I honestly don't see how you can type such a sentence and not see that you were controlling.

You can call her what ever you like, as can he. He's her equal parent is he not?

I have a Joseph and love that name. So he's not Joe,Joey or any other shortening. He's 24 now and always Joseph. Don't accept nicknames or abbreviations if you dont want to.

I call my son James J and my Henry Hen! They are rarely called their names unless I’m cross with them!

umm its not your name, its his name, he can do what he likes with it.

The child is his too

We all call Ds by his initial sometimes, which is not J, I have called the dc by all sorts of names shortening their names and ending up with something that doesn’t even make sense and we still use them now they are grown up.
It’s just a term of endearment and they’re easier to say than their full names

Same here. Faffelina Von Stinkentoesen….

I have about 20 names for my son, and sometimes i use his real name.

Yabu this sounds very controlling wanting to dictate the nickname a child's own father can call him?! Surely you have bigger things to focus energy on

I don't particularly care for Joe or Joey, but if my Joseph decides he wants to use that (or any other nickname) in the future, it's up to him. It's his name in the end, not mine.

None of your long-winded explanations make you sound any less rigid or controlling.

Yep. This is the ultimate in mummy-preciousness. It's 50% his child and 100% her name.

My kids Bageera, Brian and Lasenia agree 🤣

If he's only 8 weeks old, I can see why you're not in the headspace for the nickname thing, and I promise I don't mean that snidely, I really do get it.

But honestly, longer term, this really isn't an issue. His dad has an individual relationship with him and can call him whatever the hell he likes, that's between them. I have a million nicknames for my son, some of which his dad joins in with, but he also has his own set of names for him (and son happily answers to the full range). Honestly, the fact that your son's dad has nicknamed him is indicative of affection and bonding, just let them get on with it and enjoy your family, this isn't worth getting upset over.

My dad calls me by my first iniital. I like it. Only my dad does it. 💕

YANBU. I find it highly irritating when my children's names are shortened even to the correct abbreviated version. I call them by their full name. People always say oh do you call them x, y or z. No!!! I call them their name 😂

Hmm my eldest is mairead. She was never given a nickname until she went to secondary school and ended up Merry to her friends. Not sure how you'd stop it if they are ok with it

Thinking about it my mum was Jane but was Babsie throughout her school life and my gran called her that until she died

The thread has reminded me, my best friends’ parents gave both her and her brother short names that (so they thought) couldn’t be shortened. Hers is two syllable and his is one. They’re both common diminutives of longer names.

Absolutely everyone calls my friend by the first letter of her name.

Nicknames happen, and when like the OP’s they’re out of affection, and if the recipient doesn’t mind, then there’s no harm. It’s THEIR name, not yours.

Blimey at 8 weeks old I'm pretty sure that I was calling DD 'the baby' mostly despite us choosing her beautiful name at 16 weeks pregnant!
Now she's a bit older she gets all sorts from us both inc generic terms of endearment. She loves her name though and we love it.

Could be worse. I’ve been calling my son Bubba Gump for 14 years now. He’s called George.