To be annoyed Dh calls out little boy by his initial?

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I know it’s his son too and he can call him what he likes but after months of carefully choosing the perfect name together which also has its own well known abbreviation I do feel a little miffed that he has taken to calling him by the first letter of his name.
The letter is also commonly a shortening of a completely different name altogether.

If I were calling my baby by an inoffensive pet name I wouldn’t appreciate my partner telling me not to, even if he is the dad.

Think how you would feel if you were using a pet name and your dh told you to stop!

Not sure why it would have taken months of choosing his name, Joseph is a pretty bog standard name and not at all unique.

I think you're getting a bit of a harsh ride here OP, I understand why you're annoyed. Clearly it's not the end of the world, but I can understand the irritation.

When we named our DD my DH's only reservation was a common shortening of it which he really doesn't like - if I had started using that shortening just a few weeks after she was born he definitely wouldn't have been happy.

Obviously it's a bit different here as you likely hadn't discussed J as a shortening prior to naming your baby as you would reasonably have considered Joe, Joey etc rather than J, so it's not like he knew you would hate it, but I can definitely see why you're a bit miffed that he's using J instead of the more commonly used nicknames you had likely thought through.

100% I agree that you cannot control what others call your child as a nickname, but I'd have thought between 2 parents who have just chosen a name together that he would be using one of the shortenings you had (I assume) considered beforehand.

I’ve got a Joseph. Joe Joe Rabbit. (He’s 28)

I like it , I think it’s affectionate.
To quote another post I read recently ‘you don’t own him’.
Seriously though , this isn’t a problem .

Borderline insulting nicknames are the best esp when they are tweens/ teens - it makes them chuckle (because they know you love the very bones of them)

Lol best way to embarrass him by saying come here rattybag and planting a loud kiss on his forehead in public

OP, kindly, you are still very freshly postpartum, do you think you might be fixating on this being a bigger issue than it really is? If not, can you bring it up with your husband, or will he be annoyed?

We have a Felix and my husband semi-jokingly tried to make 'Lix' work as a nickname, which I was absolutely not going to join in with. It died its own death but even if it hadn't, I was fine with him using that as long as he didn't expect me to.

This is a hilarious thread. I thought the OP was going to say the child was 12 years old. Eight weeks! 😂

Mine is 15 and mostly answers to pumpkin (not her actual name, not even close!) Nicknames change and morph over time. It's nice that his Dad has a special nickname for him, no need for anyone else to use it.

Trixie?

I call mine Mildred and Hagrid. J is getting off lightly!

She sounds fun.

lol oh dear

Let it go

Because a friend's slightly older child couldn't pronounce our daughter's name she called her Biggles and it stuck for a while

Your son is very young and you are no doubt still in the throes of postpartum exhaustion so 💐

However, you chose his name you don’t own it.

Your DH can have a pet name for his son that’s different to what you call him.

Other nicknames will develop from other family members, friends and siblings.

The only person who gets to decide what he’s called is the child himself.

And advanced warning: he may not agree with you, so brace yourself 😆

As he ages his friends will likely call him something dreadful or ridiculous which might be entirely unrelated to his actual name.

This is really controlling. Sorry, but I think you're being unreasonable.

Neither of mine get their 'proper' names unless they are in line for a telling off. Always been J and B.

I wonder if the OP will be 'that mother' who because she dislikes her child's name being shortened will want the school to monitor other pupils' usage, calling it 'bullying', even though the child quite likes it!

I call my youngest Babs (he's a boy) 😆

My kids routinely get called Ratbag, Squidge and Pops. It’s fine 🤷🏼‍♀️

I still catch myself referring to one of mine as 'Bubby' occasionally. 'Bubby' is nearly thirteen😂

Move oonnnnnn.

OP, it's very early days. Over the years people will give your dc all kinds of names and nicknames. J really is is an okay thing for dad to call his son. You don't need to call him it but you don't get to have that much control over his dad. Congratulations on your baby.

OP I just had a little cry when I read this as my dad always called me by the first initial of my name. It made no sense, life calling someone "F" and he was the only one to do it. He died 6 months ago and I love that I have that memory of him saying my name that way.
My husband calls our DD "sport".

I think you’re over thinking it OP, with kindness. I know a beautiful very feminine Niamh that goes by Steve among family, because it rhymes 🤷🏼‍♀️

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