Just had a friend hide from me!

[Nefrititi]

I was just on the way back from the school run, I live on a main road so people can park all along it.
A good friend of mine parks there as she gets a lift into work from someone who lives up the road from me.
As I’m pulling up on my drive I see her getting out of her car but I’m already passed her to beep to acknowledge her (she defo sees me at this point)
So as I’m reversing on my drive I see her cross over the road (she normally walks my side and we’ll wave or a quick chat)
Then as I’m reversing she hides behind a large van opposite so that I can’t see her as I’m parked facing the road!
So I waited in my car to see if she would emerge the other side of the van but she didn’t. It was so obvious!
The thing is I’m the last person to hold someone up or chat for ages (massive introvert) and she’s the opposite and absolutely loves a chat.
We are actually going on holiday together next Monday with 2 other girls (me and one of the girls are paying for it as a treat as the other 2 are financially struggling).
I know I can be really sensitive but that just really hurt this morning. Also was my birthday in March and I didn’t even get a card from the 2 girls.

i’d have to mention it!

Are you sure she hadn't just stopped to take a call or text?

You need to text her right now and ask her why she was hiding behind a van this morning. You can do it jokily but it needs to come out into the sunlight asap. It is probably something like she was in a rush or some other reason and if she is going on holiday with you next week it is really unlikely she hates you or whatever your mind is saying right now.

Do you ever play hide and seek with her? Maybe she was trying to start a game?

Probably nothing to do with you at all. Just a bad time for her for some reason. You may find out what the reason is, you may not.

Try not to take it personally. If you are going on holiday together, you must be good friends.

For heaven's sake, OP, are you normally this paranoid? She stopped to answer her phone or send a text. Or she has broken out in spots or not combed her hair and didn't want to be seen close up. Or something upsetting has happened since you last saw her and she's not up for chatting?

As for the holiday - you and 3 others. But only you and one other are paying? Is it this friend who's one of the freebie ones? Did she get you a birthday card?

sorry for all the questions!

I have just rushed home from the school run cos I suddenly had really bad stomach cramps and realised I was about to poo myself.

Saw a school mum and had to rush quickly by with barely any eye contact, lest she stop me to chat or see the look of terror in my eye.

Or she could just dismiss it as the utterly unimportant thing it was and leave it.

I’d also have to message!

‘Hi Jane, I saw you duck behind that massive van for a while this morning- hope you’re alright?!’

Maybe she’s backing out of the holiday and doesn’t know how to tell you.

She wanted you to play hide & seek, that or she’s having a massively shit morning and couldn’t do with small talk this morning.

Oh no… that’s so embarrassing. I might do that - just not feeling up to talking to someone. Don’t think about it any more!

It could be a number of things. She could be having a bad morning and not feel up to talking or even be upset about something?

If she's the chatty one she might be avoiding you so she isn't tempted to stop and chat.

You could message her and ask if she's ok as you noticed she didn't stop to say hello this morning but don't accuse her of hiding.

She’s late and doesn’t have time for that in the mornings just wave and let her carry on with getting herself to work.

Also I never give my friends cards or presents and I wouldn’t expect them in return.

Oh be for real. Wtf

Leave it.

I often avoid people I know when out and about for various reasons - look a mess, don't feel like interacting socially, have a massive zit on my nose etc etc etc. Please don't make her feel awkward about it.

Well, all the answers are already in the op.

We are actually going on holiday together next Monday with 2 other girls (me and one of the girls are paying for it as a treat as the other 2 are financially struggling).

Wtaf????
She was prob just having a bad morning but this is kinda nuts given the holiday... I'd have to say something.

No make-up, a gigantic spot, a bad hair day, in the middle of a tricky phone call. It’s not always possible to see if someone’s on a phone call if they’re using headphones. There could be lots of reasons.

Op, it’s odd and unfriendly. If you are going on holiday together then she should be pretty comfortable around you so I doubt it’s a zit or uncombed hair.

Id just bear it in mind and see how she is on holiday etc. Not getting you’re a card for your birthday is also not good enough, I’m afraid.

I'd try to let it go personally.

There are many things that could just be personal to her- maybe she was having a secret cry, maybe she was running through a presentation in her head she was nervous about giving at work, maybe she squeezed a spot last night and then absentmindedly scratched it and make it bleed and needs to stop the bleeding and fix her face (I know that last one sounds stupid but I have totally hidden from someone I knew in this last scenario before).

She’s been talking about you and doesn’t know if you know

Yes, I would do this if I'd been squeezing spots or something. Maybe she has coffee down her front, was in a rush and hadn't done her hair or something. Maybe she's been crying