DH wont leave

[Rainymay12]

Dh refusing to leave. I have asked him to leave, I have had enough. I work to pay all bills and get his card “here and there” to “pop to the shop” i do all house work, childcare school runs whilst he spend 7 days a week working for his Dad’s buisness of which he gwts a tiny wage and we see none of it. Recently his mother has been more than horrific towards me and he has been so so complacent about it, he is complacent about everything, the house needs replastering and lots of work outside, we need a new car we need a new lawnmower my tumble dryer is on the blink. Im spending yet another weekend solo parenting with no car. I asked him to leave at linch time. He laughed and said hes not leaving to be without the kids. Do I pack up with kids and go? This is nothing new ive had countless convos about things needing to change, with countless promises..

Do you both own / have a tenancy?

It’s his families house?

Whose on mortage/tenancy?

If so, leave and take the kids. He does nothing anyway. And take the car.

If you have somewhere to go you can leave but I personally wouldn’t with children ect. Whose house is it? Why is he not contributing?

Whose home is it? Neither of you can simply demand the other leave a joint property without warning.

What you can do is put divorce proceedings in place and cut off his access to your money. The courts will sort out who gets what financially.

Its my fathers we rent it from him.

Go stay with your parents for a couple of weeks and let him do all the childcare, school runs and housework.

Get your father to evict you as he is going to sell up.

Divorce. Buy the property from dad.

This is exactly what I was going to say.

Are you both on the tenancy agreement? I believe you can give notice without his agreement so you both have to leave in a month but then your dad can rent it to you as sole tenant. I'm not an expert on housing though so hopefully somebody more knowledgable will clarify for you. Obviously file for divorce too.

If it’s your dad’s house don’t leave. Wait til he’s out, pack his stuff and change the locks.

Get your dad to evict you both, then move back in alone with the kids.

Is he not already "without his children" if he's working all the time and not paying towards them?

I left, and I mean everything. Is very hard to start from nothing, but was worth it to be without a man like that.

However if you rent it from your dad I'd be v v tempted to change the locks and tell him to fuck off back to his own dad.

If he has no stake in the house just change the locks.

That'll take months ans months

Tell your dad you want dh out. He can give you both notice, and as pps said he can then rent to you and the kids. Meanwhile see a solicitor and start divorce proceedings.

Also get dad to increase the rent 🤷🏻‍♀️ make sure it’s market value.

Move back in with dad while this all happens.

Maybe, but it's probably the only option if they currently have a legal tenancy - they can't just kick him out.

I would get legal advice from the legal route as opposed to what random peeps online think is correct. That way you can sew your case up tight from the start.
He won't take the kids, that would mean looking after them or more to the point getting his mum to do it.
He sounds a regular pita along with his gobby mother.
Your dad's house, his rules.

Have your father evict you, have him sell it, move in with your father and get divorced, then hope your father can help you buy somewhere.

No way is this a good idea, he will use it against you saying you were the one who walked out and left your kids.
Whose to say he would even look after them properly? Probably get his gobshite mother to move in to do everything.

According to Google, under the Renters' Rights Act in England, any single tenant in a joint tenancy can unilaterally give notice to quit. This legally ends the tenancy for everyone, regardless of whether the other housemates want to leave.

Wouldn't that be easier than your dad evicting you?

think you have to give 2 months notice

Stupid advice, she would have abandoned the children and he is then the primary parent.
@Rainymay12 You are being financially abused, you see a solicitor. Is both your names on the tenancy?

What is the contract you have with your father for renting? Renewal period ?

Start divorce proceedings and ask your father to begin proceedings to end the tenancy. Yes it might take ages but that's really the only way to end this. Husband might bugger off if his own accord after digging his heels in at first.

Them when he's gone take the tenancy on alone.