Husband has stormed out because I found messages on his phone

[Welshie2]

Hi everyone, I had so many supportive messages on my previous post which has now closed. I have started to implement some of the advice around finances etc. I’ve also filled this weekend with plans not involving my Husband. I said last night he was going at 100mph, and he is similar today. He has text me to say the delivery is arriving tomorrow morning and he can see if his parents can have DS so we can have some us time. I’ve told him I’m going to be out and he has just blanked me.

So thank you to everyone who is helping me navigate this. He is making it seem like everything is business as usual and that I am silly to be dragging it out in his words.

The OW haz kicked off, more likely.

I am still gathering information, I don’t want him to think I’m leaving. There are investments I know he has mentioned in the past which I know nothing about but I’ve found some paperwork at least which I’m sure he would have hidden otherwise. The only thing I can’t find any evidence of is bitcoin which I know he has held previously and I believe still does. These were a high value at one point.

We live 2 hours away from my parents so I need to be careful as I’ve nowhere locally I can go for a sustained length of time.

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Are you trying to do the big reveal of your sex and bondage chair? Because MNHQ’s filters probably take a dim few of this kind of posting as sexualised, unauthorised advertising. There have been some instances in the recent past where unpleasantnesses were involved.

ETA: Ah, I see it was the bit coin / C r y p t o reference that probably did it. That trips the filters too.

I think it’s because of the investment type beginning with B that it was initially hidden.

Any mention of BC triggers a manual review.

Probably best. This place would be crawling with spam otherwise. It’s bad enough as it is, especially overnight.

Makes sense to spend the day pulling together everything you can find

you say you are working though - how financially dependent are you on him?

I would tell him thing won't improve until he admits his wrong doing ,apologises unreservedly and his foul behaviour shows consistent change.
Oh and as for the "queen chair" words fail me ..
As they say often on mumsnet get your ducks in row and depart .

I admittedly read 'support a friend' as 'shag a friend'.
He really is a complete twat and you need to get out of this sham of a marriage, soon as yesterday for your childs sake if nothing else..
Look at it in the respect in another 6 months /year you can look back on this and think how much better life is without him. There will have been OW in that time, he sounds scummy so probably a few, but you will be well rid of.

And buys a sex chair.

Yes, because what woman wouldn't fall into her cheating partners arms and forgive him because he's offering her oral sex?😆
I know a lot of men keep their one brain cell in their dicks but even so, what planet is the lobotimized moron on?

Tell me about it, he said I can do whatever I want to him. My friend suggested I kick him in the balls..

What a prize he is!
Keep on with finding the financial info and get legal advice.

I’ve got second hand ick 🤮

he really thinks he’s something

Mate in crisis ! Means he’s off seeing his work colleague…

Long game, I get it now.

While he's out with his er, whatever, is a good time to find these hidden financials.

Still, he's acting extremely erratic and you need to be prepared for anything. Is he possibly using street drugs like coke or meth? I would get a go bag together for yourself and any kids and hide it somewhere you can get access to if you have to leave in a hurry.

This is going from bad to worse.
What an absolute load of rubbish about a ‘friend’
Probably meeting his ‘friend’.
As for the chair, please do not sit on it!!!
Either go away yourself or ask him to leave.
This is non negotiable.

I would too.
What a despicable partner (and father).

He returned about 5.30. Said he was able to cheer his mate up and they watched the final. I said this told me a lot about his priorities. He asked if I’m going to be in a mood all weekend and suggested that I was sexually frustrated and a good shag will help. Yes those were his words. Speechless at this point

I’m not sure how you can bear to look at him tbh

I’ll be having an early night and watching Eurovision on the big tele in our spare bedroom so won’t have to face him.

Good lord. He really is something else.

Is he a real person?

It’s starting to sound like a character from Rivals!

Christ almighty. What planet is this guy on.

Genuine question.. is it possible he is having a breakdown?