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To not offer to clean up my DD's wee

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milliec · 21/06/2008 20:28

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Desiderata · 21/06/2008 23:05

Yes, me too, Aitch.

BetteNoire · 21/06/2008 23:06

You mean we may have wasted all this righteous indignation?

Flashman · 21/06/2008 23:07

Well see that means that I am right Desiderata, why sack someone without hearing the otherside - it may all be in the mind of a crazy woman!!!

Desiderata · 21/06/2008 23:11

Of course you're right, darling ...

VeniVidiVickiQV · 21/06/2008 23:12

All sackings have the right of appeal flashman, you must know that?

So striking someone is out - even if it may have been self defence? [jumps into flashmans shoes for a moment]

Desiderata · 21/06/2008 23:17

Get out! They stink!

Flashman · 21/06/2008 23:22

Well of course if it was self defense - I would have both of them in and hear both sides rather than someone just say I was hit - ok I'll just fire the other one then.

And desiderara is prob right on that score - my trainers are grim.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 21/06/2008 23:30

Ewwww you're not wrong! I feel dirty.

bonio · 21/06/2008 23:30

I don't think you should have asked to use their loo,this is really irritating for small business owners.

However the shop assistant's reaction was completley unacceptable

Aitch · 21/06/2008 23:31

in what earthly way is it a problem, bonio?

bonio · 21/06/2008 23:43

would you be ok about someone coming to your door ten times a day and asking if their kid can use your loo?

That's what happens in my mum's shop ( small grocers) She is brilliant and always says yes because she is a sweetie and a softy but you would not believe the mess people make and allow their kids to make. they regularly pee all over her floor , leave taps running, stuff whole rolls of paper down the loo.

Would you be happy for this to happen in your house?

jammi · 21/06/2008 23:48

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Desiderata · 21/06/2008 23:56

Oh, be quiet, bonio.

The vast majority of parents wouldn't allow their children to make a mess in a toilet without cleaning it up.

It's more likely the adults making the mess.

Aitch · 21/06/2008 23:57

ten times a day someone asks?
and what proportion of those people have a destructive and ungrateful bent?

has no bearing on me, i'm v tidy and not a vandal, so i'd still ask on dd's behalf. i'd be no trouble to a small grocer and would certainly make a point of buying something from them as a thank you whether i needed it or not.

Desiderata · 21/06/2008 23:58

.. and before you get rattled, I'm a cleaner, and I've cleaned more shitty bogs than you've had hot dinners.

All from adults.

BetteNoire · 21/06/2008 23:59

Buy potatoes, have a piddle.
Fair exchange, no robbery.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 21/06/2008 23:59

Well, that's only if the situation arose though aitch, because ordinarily, you'd just pee in a nappy wouldnt you?

bonio · 22/06/2008 00:02

But Aitch that's not the point.

I have no doubt you would be a respectful user of the loo, as would me and my incredibly well trained children. But a shop owner could not tell that from looking at you.

Many are not. I don't know what proportion (about a third perhaps?)are messy.

You did not answer whether you would be happy for a steady stream of strangers to ask to use your home loo.

What is the difference between your home loo and the one in my mum's shop?

Aitch · 22/06/2008 00:03

ONLY ON A MOTORWAY VERGE, VVV. you make it sound like a bad thing.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 22/06/2008 00:05

Mines cleaner, bonio

Aitch · 22/06/2008 00:06

your mum invites people to come into her shop between the hours of 9-6 or whatever, it's an open house. in fact, she wants me in there, her real house with the no doubt sparkling bathrooms is reliant on my buying stuff from her.

i hadn't addresssed your question because it was so obviously ill-founded.

themildmanneredjanitor · 22/06/2008 00:06

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bonio · 22/06/2008 00:07

Calm down Desiderata.
No need to be rude.

so it's the adults that make a mess?

How does that make any difference to the situation or letting strangers use YOUR loo that happens to be in your shop?

Why should a small shop owner let people use thier loo as if it were a public loo?

You clearly have no experience of the reality of this so perhaps you should be the one to be quiet

bonio · 22/06/2008 00:08

No it's not an open house.
It's a shop

hatrick · 22/06/2008 00:10

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