To not offer to clean up my DD's wee

[milliec]

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A lasting effect - she is two for gods sake.

I would have thought it is generally better to correct wrong behave than to just lash out - does that teach why it is wrong. I never said nothing should happen to the girl - a warning or something. Something to shake her up, but thats it at most.

I don't think I have ever been so angered by a thread (the shop assistants reaction that is)
I also can't believe that anyone of an age to hold down a job would not know that this is a completely inappropriate way to speak to a child. If she can speak without thinking once then she can do it again. Of course she should lose her job. Why is it even in question?
Go to the shop and complain to the newspaper.
If nothing is done, then contact the papers.

Did she actually say that?!

Surely no one actually talks like thatwhen they're at work? Especially not to a chind?

Hmmmm, I mean:
Go to the shop and complain to the manager

people don't really talk like that to other people's children do they? Surely not?

Awful behaviour, your poor DD.

Because I would ahve thought that generally taking someones job on one offence is rather a lot - who knows why she is working there - she could be supporting a sick mother - or paying for college course, uni fees. Who knows.

She is in a public facing job.
She is unable to face the public if she can speak like this to anyone let alone a 2 year old child.
She needs to be shown that this behaviour will not be tolorated.

Exactly needs to be shown - not fired!

But did she really say that?

I am working on the premise that was what was said - i mean would someone really come on MN and write something like that to just troll

I suppose I can see a case for that, but I would certainly want her to be taken off the shop floor for a good long while. She is obviously in no fit state to serve the public if this is her reaction to such a relatively minor event.
I still think that if management refused to do anything though that the local newspaper should be contacted.

No matter how young or inexperienced the shop assistant is, there is absolutely no excuse for verbally abusing a 2yo.

And if she is unable to stop herself making comments like that then she should not be working in a shop.

I worked in sales for years and can say without any hesitation that anyone of our staff would have been out of the door for that terrible behavior.

Flashman,
It is also unimportant why she is working there, her reaction was inappropriate.

On one offence maybe Flashman (getting annoyed with a customer who is winding you up for example would no doubt mean a talking to by the manager)- but losing the plot with a tiny child is more than one offence

1 Losing temper
2 Using abusive language
3 Verbally abusing a child
4 Upsetting customers

Am sure she committed more than that but those are the main ones i can see immediately.

I have never said it was apporopriate - my point is that to fire someone is a big thing - and should not be the first thing to be considered.

if she worked for me, I would deffo sack her for talking to a customer like that, never mind a 2 year old customer!

But if it were my shop, I would want to know of the complaint before reading it in the local paper.

I have officially changed my mind, I think you should complain to the shop first, and if you don't get any joy there, then complain to anyone and everyone who will listen, local paper, radio, whatever...

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recalling events on MN can sometimes lead to people exagerating and making an event seem more shocking for a better responce. I'm sure the OP hasn't done this, but equally I'm not sure anyone in their right mind would actually say something like that to a child in front of their mother, would they? Have I lead a sheltered life?

If that is what was actually said, then I think the shop assistant needs disciplining in some way and better training.

flahsman you seem to enjoy arguing the toss i have noticed on a lot of threads recently

anyhow you say it wont have a lasting effect, but it could well knock the two years olds confidence and may well put her potty training into regression a bit, i had a similar experience when out in a park once and my ds2 wet himself, a teenager took the piss and he was VERY upset and it did indeed create problems with his potty training.

the young woman has NO right to speak to anyone like that, and she certainly should be reprimanded, and if that means losing her job then so be it, phaps it will teach her not to be so rude and agressive in future.

No, sorry, on a rethink, I can't see a case for it at all. I tried, but I can't.
That behaviour should mean out.

What about if the girl was having a bad day - she had lost a family memeber - broke up with a long term boyfriend or something like that?? If she said sorry and asked for forgiveness would you still say she hadto be fired?

Complain to the manager/owner

I wouldn't give a flying fig about losing this idiot her job - her manic outburst loses her all rights to be dealt with like an adult imo

Please complain but then make sure that YOU are happy with the outcome on behalf of yourself and your little one

Hope she is ok - potty training is hard enough without any added complication like this

I could scream I am that angry (and not at some innocent child, more like at my wall)
Love to you

For gods sake, it's just a bloody shop. Who cares if she gets sacked? She obviously doesn't talking to people like that. They're always hiring in Macdonalds, and nobody gets fired for being stroppy there.

I would sack an employee if they talked to a child like that. I would also think they where probably unhinged.

Yes, I would Flashman
No one would speak to my son like that and not have serious consequences to deal with
It's totally outrageous