To ask if you've mastered the art of not feeling bad about an ageing face

[CurdinHenry]

I spend too much on vanity and think it would be sensible to roll it back and stop thinking about it (I'm soon to turn 45). Obviously physical health is important but I mean the Botox/etc side of things.

HOWEVER my eyelids bother me and so will my everything else when it all eventually starts to go natural. I'll still dye my hair forever unless Armageddon happens in my lifetime.

I think the forties are an age of power and I am so pleased with my career and everything else so I want to stop being weakened by this one thing.

My only sibling died when not much older than you and one of my children died as a baby. Looking older doesn’t bother me a jot, I just think how happy both of them would be to have an aging face.

People who are obsessed with their looks and have loads of procedures are usually very boring to be with and tend to look quite odd. Self obsession is a pretty unattractive characteristic. Better to put effort into exercise, keeping healthy and eating good food. I dress well and make the most of the hand that nature has dealt me. Life is too short to spend looking in a mirror.

I can honestly say, aging, looks wise, has never bothered me. I am 62, and am happy with how I look. I am Ginger and have never dyed my hair, fortunate in the fact it has never changed colour. One half of my family are very vain, so am blessed that they never influenced me.
It's such a shame that some people can't be comfortable in how they look. Aging is a beautiful thing.

I’m 50. I have not had any Botox or work done. I try not to focus too much on how I look in photos. I try not to compare how I look now with how I looked 20 years ago. I look ok but it’s hard not to notice the signs of ageing. But I remind myself of all the people I know who never made it to my age. Some never even made it to 20yrs. Despite what the internet wants you to believe, ageing is normal and a privilege.

I LOVE getting my hair done
I LOVE getting botox
I LOVE buying premium products that I feel work really well for my skin

so I have no intention is halting anything
the point at which is don’t LOVE doing it… I’ll stop 🤷‍♀️

It’s a privilege to age. Do what makes you happy to look your best.
For me it’s a bit of Botox now and then and I boost my hair colour with Superdrug Colour Effects ( cheaper than chips). This week some white has shown through and my DH (the man who notices nothing) has said he loves how I’ve changed (I haven’t) my hair ( I was strawberry blonde) so I’m going to embrace the new white hairs and see how I feel.

I hate the fact that my mouth is beginning to turn down at the edges giving me permanent resting bitch face, but I just wouldn't ever consider Botox - it looks awful .

I'd like to know. I'm late 30s and really struggling with how I look. I realise we're lucky to get a chance to age but appearance still affects how people interact with you so it's still relevant in everyday life.

Focus on what makes you feel (and therefore look) healthy and happy from the inside - good food, good company, hobbies, exercise, fresh air, etc. The most attractive people are the ones who look relaxed and confident in their skin, not necessarily the most groomed/botoxed, etc.

For goodness sake, get over yourself. You could die of cancer tomorrow. Life is too short to waste on beauty treatments (btw men really don't care what your nails look like). You will also have much more spare cash if you don't waste it on unnecessary beauty nonsense.

Look up a Nefertiti Neck Lift - it’s one of the best procedures I’ve ever had. I promise it doesn’t leave you looking “Botoxed”.

I bet you have loads of friends 😆

Thing is, when people get work done they don’t look younger. You can have the best aesthetician in the world but you are never going to look 25 again. There is just no point. Eat well, keep your hair nicely styled and put together nice outfits. Smile and be nice. You’ll look stunning whatever your age.
growing old is a privilege denied to many. Embrace it.

Who mentioned men or nails?

Weird, I don’t think that op mentioned what men think?

I have always been plain. Big nose, no chin, jutting teeth, eyes too close together, seriously plain. I've found ageing to be a great leveller because I'm no longer being compared to my more beautiful friends, because, at 65, I'm basically invisible. It is fabulous being able to go out and not have men look right past me as they start chatting up my friend while I stand there twiddling my thumbs and trying to look unconcerned.

I'm twinkly and chatty and well disposed towards people and find I get far more attention now than I ever did when it was all looks-based. So I am loving it!

I'm almost 70. I think I look decent for my age, but I'm hardly going to judge my appearance against much younger women.

I would say yes and no. I'm 62, generally feel great. Very fit and healthy and active. Stride around the world feeling like superwoman must of the time. Then I see myself in a mirror or a photo and think, holy Christ. I thought I was fabulous!

Personally I found my 40s quite hard as I aged quickly in my early 40s after going through premature menopause.

Now in my 50s, I'm more comfortable in my appearance.
I do get my hair done but only 3 or 4 times a year max. I watch my diet, active and concentrate on flexibility and building muscle.

I've had Botox but I'm not overly keen on it. I think procedures make us look different not better.

Ultimately, we all need to do whatever helps us feel better.

Are you male? As only men think women want to look good for their sake.

It doesn't ferl like mastering an art, more about reaching an age where how someone looks should be the least interesting thing about them.

It sounds twee but I’ve started smiling at my reflection instead of squinting critically into the mirror and it’s making a huge difference.

I mean I agree with this. But recently I've discovered Botox isn't helping some stuff and is poss making it worse (the eyelids!) so think I need to start considering other world views 🤣

Or get someone new and better to administer

I have never doubted I'm interesting (arrogant emoji) but I know the difference between being ugly and being ok in terms of the access to life opportunities

I think at c.45 it simply stops working as well (although very open to your advice if your experience differs!)