To ask if you've mastered the art of not feeling bad about an ageing face

[CurdinHenry]

I spend too much on vanity and think it would be sensible to roll it back and stop thinking about it (I'm soon to turn 45). Obviously physical health is important but I mean the Botox/etc side of things.

HOWEVER my eyelids bother me and so will my everything else when it all eventually starts to go natural. I'll still dye my hair forever unless Armageddon happens in my lifetime.

I think the forties are an age of power and I am so pleased with my career and everything else so I want to stop being weakened by this one thing.

Calm down. Her thread is literally about getting over it.

Yes.

this is because I am in a wheelchair and struggle to walk.

my ageing face is the least of my problems.

But very clearly not even vaguely close to getting over it

if you truly believe that you grew up ugly and that you were told this many times @CurdinHenry - I think you’d benefit from therapy

Not all people who get any facial or other procedures are wanting to look 25. They may just want to be a better version of their current self. OP mentions her eyelids so she could get them done. It's her choice the same as it is anyone's choice to go grey or whatever . There's too many people on here ready to jump on anyone who wants to look their best - how about free choice? Yes people die young, yes no one knows how long they will live, yes the world is going to shit in a handcart - so what?

I don’t care, I’m just happy I’m alive. Also as I wear glasses, I just take them off and it takes 20 years off! When I’m looking in the mirror.
I also stopped dyeing my hair as it only lasted a week before the grey was back and I couldn’t be arsed anymore

Oh well then I’m fucked. Do you truly believe that? How shallow the world is that they would pass over someone with brains who could actually contribute something to rescue someone who they think is good looking, regardless of abilities

Don’t look in the mirror at the hairdresser. It’s cruel, and ages you by 10 years!

In 70 and have weathered hypothyroidism and Bell's Palsy. My face ain't what it once was. Lots of lines and wrinkles. It's all perfectly fine. I think of my beloved grandmother's face, laced with many lines. It's somehow comforting to see my own face like that now.

This! I'm 46 and people my age who gets botox/ plastic surgery do not look younger. They just look like a botoxed 40 year something. I think they are pathetic but wouldn't say it to their face ofcourse.

Of course it's fine..... ageing is totally normal.
Who wants all the faff and expense of cosmetic treatments?
Not to mention the fact that people who have had "work" don't look younger, they just look odd and unnatural..... I give you the Met Gala, all those bland, "perfect" faces..... totally creepy, tbh.
Just relax, drink lots of water and enjoy getting older!

OP should be embarrassed by her comment. It’s messed up!

@CurdinHenry

It has been proven that people who are attractive tend to be more successful in their careers and earn more 🤷‍♀️

Possibly. But I don’t know how people find the time and energy to place so much importance on something that is unlikely to last and could actually disappear tomorrow.

Yep. Depressing but true.

Some of us have sufficient intelligence that looks don’t matter. I, with my rough looks and lack of Botox, have recently got my dream job due to my skillset and passion.

It’s depressing that people value looks rather than skills, I agree. Luckily not everyone is that shallow or vain.

This was the comment OP was replying to

There are people on this planet who would give anything to have something as shallow as an aging face as one of their few worries

I don’t think it was referring to careers. Most likely much deeper than that -living in war torn countries, physically disabled, loss of a child etc, etc…

It was a pathetic response. And revealed OP is likely shallow.

Yes ok good for you but physical attractiveness is the ticket to a panoply of amazing experiences that unattractiveness people do not get to enjoy

Obviously ugly people can be successful but it's not the same life

Obviously one must accept de facto ugliness eventually unless very lucky

Yes of course it's only a "trend" not an absolute rule.

Not bothered at all. I’m a fairly new grandma and I’m embracing my age (46). I do dye my hair still but not religiously. I think as I’ve aged I’m less bothered about what other people think of me. If they don’t like what they see then they can lump it!

You have very serious issues dating back to your childhood op and you need professional support to talk it through

Well thanks for that. What sort of experiences are us uglies missing out on?

Shhhh

I focus on health and fitness and eating good food and don't worry too much about wrinkles.

I don’t work in a shallow industry luckily. None of the people who have climbed the greasy pole are particularly good looking, just very good at their jobs