To ask if you've mastered the art of not feeling bad about an ageing face

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I spend too much on vanity and think it would be sensible to roll it back and stop thinking about it (I'm soon to turn 45). Obviously physical health is important but I mean the Botox/etc side of things.

HOWEVER my eyelids bother me and so will my everything else when it all eventually starts to go natural. I'll still dye my hair forever unless Armageddon happens in my lifetime.

I think the forties are an age of power and I am so pleased with my career and everything else so I want to stop being weakened by this one thing.

Seriously op
to have grown up being told and thinking you are ugly is going to have consequences later on in life. And this is it. You’re all over mumsnet talking about surgery and lip fillers and worrying about aging. It’s endless and not healthy

I speak as a former and returning ugly faod

I know how different it is and I'm not punching down

There are endless studies demonstrating the professional and social benefits of being attractive it's simply not sustainable to argue otherwise

Obviously one can decide to live resiliently in spite of this but I like being a presence others are excited to encounter

I like flirting with men who find me intriguing too so sue me

“Pathetic”? Judgemental much? Part of the reason I give literally no fucks what anyone else thinks of me is because I honestly give no fucks what anyone else does to their face. Or in life actually, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else. Not my business. Judging people as “ pathetic” is a you problem.

Tbh I like flirting with women too

Low self confidence is one thing, projecting onto others is ridiculous.

This op is literally all over mumsnet talking about her looks and worrying about losing them and fillers, and surgery and treatment

This is what’s bothering me too, although the rest of my face is in fairly good nick at 47. I’m going for a first consultation next week, to see if there’s anything that can be done without surgery. I’m not sure about sticking needles in my face but don’t like looking so grumpy when I’m honestly not!
Weight loss hasn’t helped.

That is unattractice.

Wow. You do have issues. I know someone who has spent a fortune on her looks but has the personality of a dishcloth.

I am going to ask again - what chances do ugly people miss out on? Specifically please, as I’m curious

Stop projecting your own childhood crap onto everyone else - despite what you claim, you are in fact punching down.

You apparently had an attractive period in your life - well good for you, be grateful and concentrate on something that matters.

As I said on another thread, I fucked my way across the county back in the day despite being ugly.

And the only way to make herself feel better is make others feel bad. That is fucked up,

Jesus that's not really a claim to fame is it ? 😂

A "claim to fame" is a reason why a person, place, or thing is famous or well-known. It is often used to describe a specific, defining accomplishment, a unique talent, or a singular, often minor, fact that makes someone or something stand out.

So no, it’s not a ‘claim to fame’ but the OP and I had been on the same thread.

Well aging is better than the alternative 😅.
But seriously, I prefer to concentrate on health and longevity, diet and strength training etc, which hopefully makes me look a bit better too!

This plus soon you will be older than you are now so just stop and enjoy life now.
Its SUCH a waste of your time, energy and money and its rooted in insecurity.
Stop outsourcing your need for validation to others, its so empowering !

Ugly people earn less, get promoted less, get sacked more, have fewer friends and fewer sexual partners.

Get help op

I know plenty of people don't feel bad about themselves and I think that's great. Hence the thread.

@Vroomfondleswaistcoat me too! It’s so nice not to be “the ugly friend” who gets disregarded on a night out. The reward for being plain in youth is that we feel the effects of ageing less sharply than our more conventionally attractive contemporaries. Personally, I am embracing invisibility.

My hands look like old woman hands now, which bothers me. But my face? Meh, we all age. I use day and night cream and eye cream that’s as much I’ll do to combat wrinkles. I stopped wearing makeup years ago because my eyes are that frigging sensitive I end up looking like I’ve been punched in both eyes if I wear anything more than mascara!

I see women getting treatments, Botox, lip fillers, face lifts and they look good for 5 minutes and then look like those ridiculous people from the Capital in the Hunger Games. No thanks!

I’ve only shagged 2 people in my entire life, and I’m pretty good looking. 😂

I’m not worried about getting older as such I just want to look as good as I can for my age. So I do wear makeup I have very slight filler here and there and a slight amount of Botox. I think I look exactly my age but good for it if you know what I mean?

Raise this with your Monday psychiatrist appointment?

Totally and I think this is the ideal

The first step is to stop focussing on shit that doesn’t matter. And stop spouting crap about looks being the answer to everything.

I don’t feel bad about myself because I know my value. It sounds like you could benefit from therapy.

Someone could be the most beautiful person on the planet and then have an accident which takes their looks away in a heartbeat.

And many people are not shallow enough to value people purely on looks. As you are finding out, looks fade but personality doesn’t.

I sometimes wonder if this is what the point of menopause is. Once our female hormones decline, we will be less worried about how we look because the subconscious urge to attract won't be there or as strong.