Vile remark at meeting - what to do?

[bagpuss90]

I’m on the committee of a local group - i was at a meeting on Thursday evening and the chair made what I’d regard as a vile remark. She referred to an individual (who she was going to approach to help with something ) as having “a face like an armpit” . She actually said “you know who I mean - the one with a face like an armpit. Everyone looked quite shocked - it was about 5 mins before the meeting wound up. But I’m still cross with myself for not walking out. Im not good if I’m put on the spot. My dilemma is what do I do ? I honestly hate stuff like that- it’s vile- it’s unkind. My DP reckons she made herself look so awful that no further action is needed. I’m tempted to resign, but I think she should go, She’s known for being very outspoken but this in my opinion crossed a line . I’ve not spoken to anyone else on the committee about it. Am I over reacting?

So? There are lots of sayings in English language, face like a bag of spanner’s is another one. Which are random tools.

Yes virtue signalling. Ops no intention of resigning. 😂

Have you always been overly sensitive?

It seems to be a mumsnet thing! Never in real life have I come across people who are so utterly offended by anything. I worked in HR 10 years and if someone come to me with one of these complaints I would have to try very hard not to laugh in their face!...thankfully it's never happened!

Google says it isn’t a standard phrase. But might mean sweaty, smelly and unkempt like armpits can be.

People should not be making derogatory comments about others in meetings, it's basic social etiquette isn't it.

Face like an armpit is a an odd description but clearly not meant as a compliment.

That's pretty tame I'd say.

My favourite is

"He/She has a face like a bulldog licking piss off a thistle"

Sigh, for the third time it means an unappealing, unattractive face, as appealing as an armpit. It’s a colloquial statement used in some geographies.

wonder op can you ask mumsnet fo put an explanation in your op, so the faux clueless don’t derail your rather amusing thread,

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Love that one, I use that!

I reckon her husband is used to managing it, he’s said she’s made herself look so awful no further action is required sweetie 😂

I know what you mean. God knows how they would react if they encountered something serious

Honestly generally these volunteer committee folks don’t actually reside in the real working world. Retired, unemployed types who love the drama.

Oh give over. Walking out of a meeting because someone said something you wouldn’t say.

The virtue signaling on here these days is a massive snooze.

I genuinely assumed that, for a comment to be considered ‘vile’, it actually had to be racist/ableist/sexist/homophobic etc

lol 😂

Get a life op. It’s not the best thing to say but you want to resign? You sound so overdramatic

Well I hope armpit face declines to help out.

I love the idea it might have been minuted.

'The Committee agreed to approach Anne Smith for assistance with the project, the Chair having noted that her face resembled an armpit. Action: Secretary to approach Anne Smith. Action: Chair to provide further context on the relationship between faces and armpits'

I think I’d have said what the hell does a face like an armpit look like? Then look at her intently waiting for her explanation.

Er no.

Vile? Calm down OP.

My husband's gran used to say "a face like a bashed in crab" 😄

People who comment on looks in this way are always the most insecure and conceited as 9/10 they are objectively interesting to look at.

God I’d loved to have seen that. The pair of you being mad as a box of frogs together, proper committee folk behaviour. 😂 I’d have been guffawing all the way home.