Hand on shoulder

[ThankThink]

Teen Dd takes part in a weekly activity outside of school, which is attended by a wider age range. One of the men attending, has the habit of placing his hand on the young girls shoulder when he speaks with them. So he approaches a girl and while speaking to her places one hand on her shoulder. He does this mostly with 2-3 girls not all of them. The girls are all 15.

AIBU to think this is not ok?

The girls don't like it but no one has yet said anything. I have told her to move away when it happens again but Dd worries about being impolite. I role played with her how to move away. I am so cross about this, not even my extended family would think of touching her casually for no reason.

What would you advise and how do I advise dd?

Yeah, she should definitely be trying out her acting skills as she's being assaulted. Great suggestion.

Did you email the DSL @ThankThink?

Wise words

So awkward. But that is what the perv is relying on. Probably deliberately targeting girls who he thinks wont stop him. What she needs to understand is that HE is the rude one, not her. If she stops him, or makes it awkward its not her fault. HE made it awkward by putting the 2 of them in this position. Maybe if she brushed the hand off that might be a more comfortable (casual/relaxed) gesture? While talking normally in conversation. And brush it off every time he puts it back. If he mentions it then she can say "I dont like it" or "dont touch me" or whatever she thinks would be the best line. And if theres any faux offense, ignore it. The other girls might be grateful and start doing the same if it works.