AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

That would be my advice to him.

All I have is a selfie we took right after we got engaged but it’s one of my favourite photos ever - do you have anything like that?

I’ve never ever heard of this!! Tell me it wasn’t the first thing you said after he asked op!!!

Except it was, because you wanted to show all your mates.

Maybe he was worried you say no! You're about to start building your future together, and not every moment will be captured on camera (thankfully!).

Guess what? There are no photos of my proposal either, because it was a private moment between the two of us. Also, it was nearly 37 years ago, so nobody gave a shiny sh*t back then, and didn't carry a camera everywhere!
But I can still vividly remember it, where it was, and what we were wearing. I also remember going to buy my ring together, a few days later, like proper adults and partners.
Because, OP, the best pictures are in your own head - they remain yours. There's no need to show them off to other people. And the subsequent marriage is, of course, more important than any of it.... when neither of you are looking at all photogenic or attractive, but you stick it out anyway.

I have two little girls and I hope they never live their lives like this 😱

What next? A photo and instagram announcement the first time you have sex with someone???

My memory of events is pretty rubbish, but I can remember as a perfect picture in my mind where we were when my husband proposed 18 years ago. I remember it better than most of the events of my wedding and many those were captured in photos! I think you sound shallow and spoilt and, quite frankly, if I were him I’d be seriously reconsidering whether marrying you was a good idea. I’d be upset that you were more bothered about how I proposed than about the idea of spending the rest of your life with me.

I completely agree.

I would genuinely end the relationship over this.

I can’t believe someone has just got engaged but they’re focusing on the lack of photos and are upset that he didn’t arrange someone to take photos!

Like in what world is that even ok.

If I was in love and wanted to get engaged, it wouldn’t even cross my mind to think at photos, I would just be so happy about being engaged.

I’ve never once heard about someone getting engaged and people asking to see the photos of the engagement - it’s literally not even a thing.

Don't worry you'll be divorced before you pay off the wedding.

I have never seen a photo or video of a proposal unless a bystander randomly caught the moment.

Who the fuck do you think you are that he should’ve planned a videographer 😂😂 Jesus wept OP. I’d be saying no if he had, maybe he’s having second thoughts now.

Oh come on! Time to grow up!
You're not a celebrity or an influencer. It's a private moment between two people, it's not meant to be a performance for the benefit of other people. You don't sound mature enough to get married, to be honest .

LTB

A man who fails to put your Instagram first isn’t a keeper.

What if he fails to give you Insta-material for the baby shower? What will your followers think?

Why not stage a re-enactment with a videographer present? You can script it beforehand and find the perfect location. Maybe get a bigger engagement ring too, one that really steals the show on camera. Upgrade your memories!

There are some on YouTube (a colleague had one) and they are beyond cringe.

I had to watch behind a cushion.

You are being a ridiculous princess. How old are you?

🙈

I have 2 boys and I hope they never have a girlfriend so shallow and, frankly, cruel. Making him feel like shit because he didn’t do it for the insta. Awful

You can have an engagement photo shoot if you’re that upset. I would never have thought about publicising what should be a private moment! I do hope you’re not going to be Bridezilla!

My hubby proposed to me at 7am on Christmas morning after I’d got up to let our new Lab puppy out for a wee.
DH was in his boxers and I was in my pyjamas. Quite glad no one popped up to take photos!
But….I have the memory and that’s all you need.

I feel like I want to say grow up? Life isn't an Instagram story! Geeez

You'd cringe inside out if you had my proposal. A ring from a catalogue and then given it as a christmas gift. He didn't even think to get any other presents. We've been married 44 years so we must have got something right.

Did you not take a selfie and a photo of your ring on your hand?!

Honestly as you grow up you’ll realise these things just aren’t important.

Is this really a thing?

How crass!