AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

I’m trying to work out how you’d actually do this ! Would you have to have a videographer hiding behind a bush somewhere ready to leap out and film on an agreed cue ?! I would absolutely have hated having a complete stranger there at such a personal moment. It was bad enough having wedding photos done, blinking photographer shouting smile at me constantly!

You and your friends are being ridiculous. Grow up

If you tell your friends you’re expecting a baby will they ask for a video of the conception?

Just tell them it was a private intimate moment. You could always have an engagement shoot with your wedding photographer, or take a couple of selfies afterwards.

I was just thrilled that my boyfriend asked. It's a moment I have always treasured and it was quite unexpected. We were at a ball and it was a lovely evening. He proposed on a bench in the gardens with his arm around me. His next words were "I guess you'll want a ring" and I was very glad I was able to chose my own. I have worn it for 36 years.

We didn't tell anyone except parents until the wedding plans were in place. The engagement was announced in the broadsheets - no pictures. We still have the papers.

But its quite a private moment! Why on earth would you want some random other person there with a camera recording it?!!

What if your reaction had been a bit unexpected? Or it hadn't quite gone to plan

You think he should've employed a professional photographer?! 🥴

No wonder the world is going to hell in a hand-cart...

I don't have any engagement photos and haven't given it a moment's thought. It was a private moment to be remembered, but then that was well before the days of showing off on social media.

Are your friends the 1% who think you’re not unreasonable ?

I think you should explain to him that his proposal was sub standard ! He needs to redo it, with a camera crew on hand.

Give him the opportunity to run from this batshittery.

though I'm sure he's had enough opportunity already really, he must be a bit slow on the uptake.

Mine proposed face down on the hotel bed as he was very drunk. It really is a shame I don’t have a photo of that moment as it was hilarious. I suppose it would be a useful thing to pin to a dartboard if you end up divorcing??

I’m embarrassed for you.

When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

This is so depressing
One of the supposed happiest moments of your life and you are annoyed that it wasn't captured on film

😔

I think you are being unreasonable. I think it's an uncommon and unreasonable expectation and I hope you're not banging on about it to him.

I was thinking the same, she sounds about 12 🙄

Tell me you care more about the wedding than the marriage <— OP, this sentence might not to be true but this is what the post makes it sound like. Traditionally, engagements were a private thing - my husband said things to me when he asked me to join my life with his that are absolutely none of anyone’s business, including a photographer. Do you have photos of when your da proposed to your mum, or when your grandda proposed to your grandmum? Of course you don’t, because there was no social media back then to pressure people like you probably feel pressured and photographers were (and still are!!!!) expensive and not necessary for private moments. I dislike celebrities having huge camera-ready proposals; the more you spend on the wedding, the less likely it is to last scientifically, and I imagine they’ll eventually discover that proposals work the same way.

I think OP needs new friends.😂

Ah no... surely there would be a professional videographer there to capture the moment of deciding on divorce too 😂

Are you Taylor Swift, @KatieHW ?

If so, the whole world have seen your pics.

Never had I heard of this before. It’s a bit princessy and high-maintenance to me.

Jesus. Whats wrong with keeping personal things personal.
Baby bridezilla about to grow horns.

Think some people put more into the proposal/wedding than the marriage, not quite got the priorities right

Bridezilla incoming.

the ones she needs however…