AIBU to feel upset there are no photos of my proposal?

[KatieHW]

DP proposed to me a couple of weeks ago. I feel really sad he didn’t arrange for anyone to capture this, there’s no photos let alone videos. I have said to him in the past that if I was to ever get engaged then it would be important for me to be able to look back on it in the future. When I put in my friends group chat I was engaged they all asked to see what happened and it was embarrassing to say DP didn’t think of this.

I follow someone on social media and her bf proposed. They were alone and filmed it. Or, I suspect, he proposed then set it up and "redid" it for the camera.

I totally went off them after that.

Is everything a performance these days?

Go to a photographic studio and do a reenactment. You can be sure to have everything perfect, maybe get a male model to step in for the occasion.
😉😂😂.

😢🎺🤣

You re being so unbelievably unreasonable I cant express it!
You had a private, intimate moment thst will live in your memory forever and youre tarnishing it because you don't have a photo to show off? Grow up!

🤣🤣🤣

My proposal - I had just woken up, morning of a birthday and thank f**k no photos!! I only have two of the wedding, went on holiday, no witnesses, over in 15 minutes and have lost one of those. The moments are etched in my memories, no photo needed.

This is a brilliant idea! 😂

https://runt-of-the-web.com/bad-engagement-photos/

Don’t give her ideas!

Your friends actually expected to see the whole performance?! Or did you want everyone to see your Queen for a day moment?
Seriously, does nobody have any fucking class anymore?

Yep!!

There have been many ‘proposal’ videos.

And I have even seen a few being recorded by someone else, showing them positioning themselves in front of their camera or redoing it because someone walked past.

One guy got really pissed off because someone ruined his shot.
Him and his ‘fiancé’ went from smiling, kissing and hugging and then as soon as he turned the camera off he shoved her hand away and then both walked off in different directions with faces like thunder.

Those that need to film/photograph their engagement don’t actually love each other.

I hope your fiance made it a "proper" proposal. You know - somewhere meaningful, beautiful surroundings, you looked perfect in your favourite outfit and makeup and hair just as you wanted it so you felt fantastic, ring completely perfect, down on one knee, musicians softly playing in the background (or maybe bird song) etc. So at least your friends could ooh and aah when you told them the story and it wouldn't be embarrassing.

Not something like just asking you in the car after you'd got soaked after a morning dog walk on a rainy morning (and it wasn't even your dog). Oh no, that was my proposal, and I still remember it even without anything to "look back on".

If all you want is a performance to be recorded, just reenact it. Personally, that moment should be private between the 2 of you. The wedding is for others to see.

How are you going to record the act of conceiving of your first child? Video? Photoshoot?

It would appear so.

You could have an official engagement photo done now OP, with both of you beaming and happy, showing off your ring, and that will always remind you of the proposal. You have the memories in your head already, the photo is the icing on the cake.

If my friends wanted photos or a video I would be getting new friends

My husband actively looked for a place we’d be alone. He’s very traditional and loves romance (more so than me!!) but he wanted it private between us. Unfortunately the place he chose turned out to have about 30 people there on the day due to an event he hadn’t considered! 🤣 So he winged it and took me for a walk! We ended up with a random bloke walking past looking a bit awkward but it was perfect otherwise!

Oh wow do you have the link

I once saw one where the man had apparently booked out a whole restaurant and hired a choir to be there incognito, and they all got up and started singing when he proposed. Utterly cringe.

This is a fake post for rage bait yeah? It cant be a joke because its not actually that funny....

I feel sorry for him.

mesage to the fiance. Run. Now.

Immaturity beyond belief!

If you are old enough to get marraige you shouldn't need performative nonsense nor care what your friends think.

If this is real, let him go and find someone more grounded.

This is utterly ridiculous.

did they want proof that someone would want to marry you?